Am sorry..but you are UNATTRACTIVE..!!

Ok, so before you get your knickers in a twist by the baffling tagline, please stay with me because the word UNATTRACTIVE has nothing to do with looks or appearances.

Still there?

Great! Thank you.

Everyone wants to be a likeable person. Even the most introvert of people who like to quietly watch the crowd from a dark corner and be amused or jealous want to be known as  “not a bad person”. But then sometimes, even without knowing, we tend to do things that make us unattractive as a person so much so that people won’t even want to be near us. So lets look at such unattractive characteristics:

  1. You are Rude – Plain & simple. Now you might be working hard to save the world which is giving you unwanted anxiety and keeping you at edge or you might be frustrated with your life (Yea life is sad sometimes for everyone, you’re no exception) that you want to snap at everyone and anyone, but my friend that is making you unattractive. People can’t see what you can see, all they see is that you are impolite, offensive and other synonyms for impolite and offensive.
  2. You are always Negative – Please note, there is a thin line between positive criticism and pessimism. Criticism can only come from someone who has been in your position or has experience in the area. I mean to put it plainly it should look like an invaluable feedback and not as downright rejection. Criticism is advice, pessimism is hitting the self esteem which my dear is not appreciated by anyone.
  3. You are never Wrong – Ahh..the ego boost that this sentence gives you..I know that feeling..Guilty.  But the reality is that you are nothing but delusional. You can be wrong sometimes and the wiser alternative would be to either accept it or be quiet and not defend it, because if you do it would lead to more drama which will make you more Unattractive. It’s ok not to have the last say in an argument. Think about it and see yourself.
  4. You are Controlling – My favourite one. Subtle controlling is like a personal brand of heroin for Unattractive people. They usually take the passive aggressive route where people will be angry with you but they won’t be able to express it, which leaves you to do whatever you want. These people kill your self confidence, make you question your values, demoralise and so on and so forth. (I am already feeling unhealthy thinking such thoughts…tsk)

I am sure you all must have related this post to a particular person or maybe thinking about the times when you have behaved in some way or the other to express your Unattractiveness to others. My request to you is please stop strangulating others if you are an unattractive person as at the end of the time, you will be only man standing..like LITERALLY ALONE…!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

199 Comments Add yours

  1. Finally, someone who thinks these lists of traits are ‘unattractive’. Reading this post made me smile, as I agreed with everything you wrote. Refreshingly honest.

    Liked by 4 people

    1. Thank you very much for liking the post. I am glad we share the same thoughts on being “unattractive”
      Best to you

      Liked by 1 person

    2. gpavants says:

      Hello,

      Being honest with people is tough to always do. I hope that you find it easier through writing. Seeing the things we all do inside that are unattractive, reminds us that there is always room for improvement.
      Thank you,
      Gary

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      1. Hi, thank you for liking this posts so much. I am glad you agree with the unattractive part within us and around us. Acceptance is the first step to improvement. We are all work in progress after all.
        Thanks again
        Best to you

        Like

  2. justarandomgirl592 says:

    Oh I know a lotta unattractive people 😉

    Liked by 2 people

  3. iKhaleed says:

    The truth is that you can write perfectly. This is so inspiring. Thanks for that

    Liked by 2 people

  4. Nice post. I write and am so impressed with this. Keep up the good work.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thank you very much for the appreciation. Looking forward to reading more inspiring posts from your end.
      Best to you

      Liked by 1 person

  5. Keigh Ahr says:

    Nice job of grabbing my attention with the unconventional title, and maintaining that attention in your analysis.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. I am glad you liked it.
      Best to you

      Like

  6. And unfortunately those poeple with these traits, I find, are the last to see them within themselves.

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    1. thia licona says:

      What about you? What about me? Perhaps among ‘those people’? There you & I are? 🙂

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      1. thia licona says:

        Likewise! Hahaha! HalleluYah! We are on our way, if not there already, to freedom from the lack of attraction!!! No kidding! Soon? Like butterflies trees? We’ll attract the most beautiful butterflies to dance in our branches! Thanks be to the power of love from on high descending upon us! 🙂

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      2. Vicki says:

        I was thinking the same. Aren’t we all facets of all that is around us? Let us put our attention on all the good that we are, so the unattractive parts fade back into their nothingness. Ah … There’s that no-thing-ness again 😉

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      3. thia licona says:

        Hahaha! Sense of humor? That’s what is needed. Chk the post for today. 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

  7. thia licona says:

    Guess what? I’m in the process of compiling the next book telling on myself. Keep an eye, just in case. 🙂

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Wow…I am looking forward to it.
      Best to you

      Liked by 1 person

      1. thia licona says:

        Thanks! http://www.thia-basilia.com/ is finished for the moment. If you don’t mind? Could you give it a click and feed me back whether is loading quickly or not and if the links on the slider are working? I surely will appreciate it. Thanks! 🙂

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      2. thia licona says:

        I still working on it but? I’m also working on my super book that will rock the waves of the Net pretty soon…lol wishful thinking but? How is about giving me your thoughts on this title, JUMP! OVERCOME IT ALL!

        The book is actually a narrative of my life and how I overcame all the mental health labels that were saddled on me a good part of my life. The overcoming? Not by my power but? By the power of love from on high! It’s a different but sure approach to the huge load the satanic world have managed to impose in so many dear souls.That’s why I sense this book will make a mark. New post later on today. http://www.thia-basilia.com/.

        Tamara Kulish like my post in your blog but it looks like she deleted her blog. Maybe she’ll read this comment and like it as well, who knows?
        Anyhow? I sure liked your About! Good goods in there. 🙂 Later!

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      3. Looking forward :):)

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  8. Sonny R. says:

    Nice post! This will be helpful to people who needs to work on themselves in order to become attractive. Especially people who are struggling in becoming an attractive one.

    Liked by 2 people

  9. Zijian says:

    “You’re never wrong” haha (≧▽≦)

    Liked by 1 person

  10. ko song says:

    I am UNATTRACTIVE… sad…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Don’t be sad, I am too 😦
      But atleast we are aware that we are 🙂
      Best to you

      Liked by 2 people

      1. ko song says:

        Thank you 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

  11. A beautiful piece. Well done!

    Liked by 2 people

  12. JustAnotherTeenager says:

    Thank the gods you wrote this 😀

    Liked by 2 people

    1. And I am glad you liked it.
      Best to you 😀

      Liked by 1 person

      1. JustAnotherTeenager says:

        Cheers 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

  13. Refreshing twisted take on human psychology. I love your writing style. It’s mind gabbing written out perfectly.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks a lot for the appreciation. I am glad you liked it.
      Sending my best to you

      Like

  14. 8ackar30 says:

    True thoughts. ❤️

    Liked by 2 people

  15. Shalini says:

    Lovely post ! I confess i always had a habit to have an upper hand in argument, but not anymore i listen everyone then decide no matter how wrong my opinion was/is.
    On my blog http://www.Shalini19.WordPress.com from April 1 i’ll be blogging everyday and theme i choose is to motivate. Hope you’ll read so that i’ll get valuable feedback from you as you write pretty good. Thanks 🙂

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    1. I will surely look forward to your daily posts Shalini. It will be a motivation for me to write more often as well. Thank you fellow blogger.
      Best

      Liked by 1 person

  16. cherylfoston says:

    Great Post! Enjoyed the way you used being unattractive, it was very clever!

    Liked by 2 people

  17. Orange Ink says:

    Wow, I really liked this post. It has let me pat my shoulder because my ‘unattractiveness’ could also be analysed in this way.

    And, thank you for liking my post: Holi, Holiness and more. 🙂

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thank you returning the favour.
      Best to you

      Like

  18. Haha this made me chuckle. 😀 Love it. I know some peoples lol.

    Liked by 1 person

  19. honeybee31 says:

    sounds like a narcissist.

    Like

  20. Can’t remember if I commented on this, or not, but this piece hollered right at me. Am still reeling from the shock. Enough to make a person go mute for at least a week, just to see who shows up at all. You are on it.

    Liked by 2 people

      1. (don’t worry. I am not offended. Admonished, but…not offended!) 😀

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  21. Every time I read one of your blog posts, it changes my perspective and my life. Thank you for this thought-provoking blog post.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Hi, thank you so much for the appreciation. It means a lot. I shall strive to write equally exciting posts in future.
      Best to you

      Liked by 1 person

  22. Rareity says:

    Reblogged this on Rareity and commented:
    This post gives me a lot to reflect on. No one sees your story, unless you tell it. People are not going to look art you and automatically know your struggling, and you shouldn’t expect them to. When your hurting inside with your own internal struggles, it’s always important to choose between understanding that you must still carry patience, or be that ugly person inside that makes everything about them.

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you very much for the reblog.

      Like

  23. LadyJsVoice says:

    I really enjoyed this.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you!! And thank you again for the reblog.
      Best to you

      Liked by 1 person

  24. I like this! And… I know a few unattractive people. Of course they think they are perfect. Lol

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Lol…ignorance is bliss or rather your belief is your reality.

      Like

  25. This is the kind of stuff my mum is constantly saying.😁 But really, you can’t happy being all alone.

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    1. Aha..that’s why we got to start being attractive:)

      Like

  26. wwwpalfitness says:

    Reblogged this on wwwpalfitness.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you for the reblog

      Liked by 1 person

      1. wwwpalfitness says:

        You’re welcome:)

        Liked by 1 person

  27. But…what if I really AM never wrong? Would that still make me unattractive?

    Okay, I’m not being entirely serious. You made some great points here, and the title of this post is very catchy!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Haha…I think I am right ALL the time…;)…. But hey we are not magical bring now are we??!! Thanks for the honesty, it’s humbling.
      Best to you

      Liked by 1 person

  28. Edward Fagan says:

    I’m reading the piece and saying to myself that this is simply pure absolute truth being poured out from its source, the inner one. It also reads well and does not go over the edges, it’s not superfluous.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Edward Fagan says:

      Thanks Tamara; here are two souls looking at the same object and seeing the same thing. Two views but one vision. Truth is like a vast network, it connects all of the people who are within its radius and within whom it flows.

      Liked by 1 person

  29. And this just gave me a reality check 😛
    Thanks for the amazing post 🙂

    Liked by 3 people

    1. You are most welcome. I am glad my post could help you in any way. It’s a great motivation for any writer.
      Best to you

      Like

  30. Ian says:

    Great post. Well written article. We are all guilty of a touch of negative habits. The key is to minimize them and to emphasize our good ones.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Very well said!! The key to success is just being mindful of what is right and what’s not.
      Good luck to you

      Like

  31. Its inner beauty that is always more important than extetnals. Thanks for liking my post

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  32. Great article. Personally, I find beauty in kindness, generosity, presence and intelligence.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Yes, and that is the real beauty:). Thank you so much for stopping by and liking my post. It means a lot. Every comment and like is an inspiration for me.
      Best to you

      Liked by 1 person

  33. DNaeve says:

    Now I see why you liked my recent posts. You’re on the same track I am. Some people just aren’t aware that they have personality issues/disorders. One of my favorite subjects is Psychology. Sounds like you are referring to a Sociopath?

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Kind of..yes.!!! Glad we think alike.

      Like

  34. Tamara Kulish says:

    Great article!! You’ve nailed it!

    Ugliness inside a person poisons too many relationships! I believe that by dealing with these issues we can help turn negative and toxic relationships to more positive!

    Takes courage to do the work!

    Peace,
    Tamara

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Well said. We don’t realise how we are behaving with others till someone is kind enough to point out. Most of the time we are defensive about feedback too. Thanks for stopping by and liking my post.
      Best to you

      Like

  35. “attractive” is very relative ) I think you are talking about misuse of an ego…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. I am glad you liked it.
      Best

      Like

  36. Kymz Logic says:

    I love this! It is SO true! Thank you for this post. We all forget from time to time. We never see ourselves in this light, but the truth is, I will speak only for myself, I have been rude, negative…everything you have posted here. I don’t intend to be that way. But we all forget. This is a helpful article.

    Liked by 1 person

  37. Islandsundays says:

    Love this post!
    Hope you are still blogging and ok?
    I am new here, and see that there aren’t recent posts.

    Liked by 1 person

  38. Garima says:

    Reblogged this on Be Inspired..!! and commented:

    Still applicable !!!!

    Like

    1. Garima says:

      Thank you for the reblog.

      Like

  39. Kim Petitt says:

    *guilty party speaks* Being negative comes natural to me. But when it go to the point when others has criticized me for being negative I knew it was time to make a change. Being negative doesn’t change anything, the more negative I am the worse I feel, which just starts an ugly cycle. To combat my negative attitude I am learning to give God praise in the midst of my situation (Psalm 149:6, Psalm 34, 1 Thessalonians 5:18).

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