Healthy and Unhealthy Self Esteem

As, you might already know, there are many contributing factors that influence a person’s self-esteem. It’s incredibly important, too, to understand what factors influence your self-worth. Why? Because these factors can drastically improve or harm your self-confidence. Having low self-esteem can prevent you from doing such things as building healthy relationships, rising in your career, or achieving your goals. Having low self-esteem can even lead to such mental health issues as anxiety and depression.

Here are some subtle differences between healthy and unhealthy self esteem :

Healthy Self Esteem – Acceptance of strengths and weaknesses.
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Deflects compliments/takes feedback personally

Healthy Self Esteem – Creates goals and works towards them
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Negatively compares yourself to others

Healthy Self Esteem – Learns from past failures and successes
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Fear of failure, reluctant to try again

Healthy Self Esteem – Confident to try again if unsuccessful first time round
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Focuses on precious shortcomings.

Healthy Self Esteem – Supportive and empowering internal dialogue
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Critical and negative internal dialogue

Healthy Self Esteem – Confident enough to say no
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Overcommits to please others

Healthy Self Esteem – Accepts responsibility for actions
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Seeks the approval for other people.

There are multiple factors that can have an effect on your self-esteem. Your childhood, society, the media, and people in your life can all add or take away from how you feel about yourself. Studies have shown that people who have an unhealthy self-esteem are more likely to experience fatigue, anxiety, and depression. As a therapist and counselor, I stress to my clients that ultimately the most important influential factor to your self-esteem is YOU. You can decide to take control and make a change to start having a healthy self-esteem. Put the work in to start to truly love and accept yourself.

32 Comments Add yours

  1. Zadi says:

    So inspiring, thanks

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    1. GS says:

      When you think of a boundary, what comes to mind? You might think of something like a property line or the defining lines of a shape. Boundaries show where one thing ends and another begins. Boundaries in a relationship are kind of like this; they help each person figure out where one person ends and the other begins. In short, boundaries help you define what you are comfortable with and how you would like to be treated by others. They apply to any kind of relationship you have – whether with a friend, family member, partner or anyone else in your life.

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      1. Zadi says:

        Indeed thanks

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      2. GS says:

        🙏🏼🙏🏼

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing.

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  2. ckquintana says:

    Wow! Enjoyed Reading! Enlightened! Thank You!

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    1. GS says:

      Most welcome. Self-esteem refers to a person’s beliefs about their own worth and value. It also has to do with the feelings people experience that follow from their sense of worthiness or unworthiness. Self-esteem is important because it heavily influences people’s choices and decisions. In other words, self-esteem serves a motivational function by making it more or less likely that people will take care of themselves and explore their full potential. People with high self-esteem are also people who are motivated to take care of themselves and to persistently strive towards the fulfillment of personal goals and aspirations. People with lower self-esteem don’t tend to regard themselves as worthy of happy outcomes or capable of achieving them and so tend to let important things slide and to be less persistent and resilient in terms of overcoming adversity. They may have the same kinds of goals as people with higher self-esteem, but they are generally less motivated to pursue them to their conclusion.

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      1. ckquintana says:

        Thank You for sharing more Awesome Knowledge! You are A Gem!! & So Value and take – in your feedback!

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      2. GS says:

        Hahah thank you girl!!₹

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog.

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      1. Always a pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you are having a great day!
        xoxox 😊😘💕🎁🌹✨

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  3. DiosRaw says:

    🖤🖤

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post Amber. Having low self-esteem isn’t a mental health problem in itself, but they are closely linked. If lots of things affect your self-esteem for a long time, this might lead to mental health problems (for example depression or anxiety).

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  4. Dharatandon says:

    Loved it. Thank you for this 🤗

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    1. GS says:

      Most welcome. Self-esteem is important because it heavily influences people’s choices and decisions. In other words, self-esteem serves a motivational function by making it more or less likely that people will take care of themselves and explore their full potential.

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  5. Great inspirational advice! Thank you!

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    1. GS says:

      In psychology, the term self-esteem is used to describe a person’s overall sense of self-worth or personal value. In other words, how much you appreciate and like yourself. It involves a variety of beliefs about yourself, such as the appraisal of your own appearance, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors.

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  6. Singhshma says:

    Wow, really love this 🙌🙂 I struggle with saying no to those close to me/those I really care deeply about. I’m fine with no to others in business for example… But I struggle with saying no to the ones I love and reason goes out the door

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post. Boundaries are essential for healthy connections and show that you respect yourself and your partner. It’s through boundaries and our ability to say no to each other that we come to know our partners better and also connect with them more deeply. When we can freely voice our opinions, we meet as equals.People-pleasers often have a hard time setting boundaries, and this was certainly the case for me. We can develop a blurred sense of where our boundaries lie, if we have bothered to give serious thought to them in the first place.

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      1. Singhshma says:

        Thank you 🙂🙏

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      2. GS says:

        Most welcome.

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  7. What about a person who is stuck between the two states in some cases? Great post by the way.

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    1. GS says:

      I think we all have that within in..some times are have great self esteem but sometimes not..trust that those low points as a way of us to grow.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  8. Sean Butler says:

    That’s a true eye-opener for most of us I believe!

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    1. GS says:

      It is how much a person likes, accepts and respects themselves overall as a person. People with healthy self esteem consider themselves worthy and view themselves as equal with others. People with unhealthy self esteem generally experience self rejection, self-dissatisfaction and self contempt.

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  9. shereen leyden says:

    Thank you for sharing! Great read!

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    1. GS says:

      Most welcome. According to the American Psychological Association, having high self-esteem is key to positive mental health and well-being. High self-esteem matters because it helps you develop coping skills, handle adversity, and put the negative into perspective.

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