Why Your Brain Likes To Judge The reason your brain likes to judge is because it’s a survival brain. Your primitive brain is always looking out for what’s “bad.” It’s trying to avoid all those things so it can keep you alive. It’s trying to find the negative in yourself and others so it can…

Many of us tend to judge other groups of people according to the pre-established standards given by our culture. When people compare their culture to others, they often conclude that their own group is superior (Excellence in business communication, Ninth Edition). We are ethnocentric when we use our cultural norms to make generalization about other…

If you train yourself to listen carefully to what someone is saying, they will generally tell you who and what they are before you get into a relationship with them. Prevention is better than cure! But more times than not, when someone begins to warn us of their weaknesses and what to expect, we jump…

“Nothing is so strong as gentleness, and nothing is so gentle as true strength.” St. Francis De Sales When we think of a gentle person, we envision someone who is kind, amiable, and without rudeness. A gentle person makes no abrupt movements or declarations. He or she is courteous, polite, and soothing to be around….

Friendship is a privilege that shouldn’t be underestimated. Simply put, good friends are good for you.  Social interactions trigger all those feel-good vibes in your brain’s endorphin system.  There’s actual science behind this!  If you have enjoyable friendships and an active social life, you’re less likely to develop serious illnesses later in life and more likely…

There are other strategies you can use to program your mind. Remember that the time you are just waking and the time that you are settling down to sleep are the best times for self- programming. Meditation is another key time. But you still need to utilize the rest of the day as much as…

Shadow psychology was first popularized by the imminent professor Carl Jung. The shadow is the unconscious aspect of ourselves that we cannot consciously identify with. There are actually positive aspects of the shadow side. “People Pleasers” need to start identifying with their anger and start telling people to get lost, in no uncertain terms. But…

Affirmations are an effective tool to program ourselves for personal and business success. Remember when affirming to use the present tense. “I am talented” or “I am rich” is better than “I will be talented” or “I am going to be rich”. Another point to keep in mind is that affirmations work best when the…

A good metaphor is that the human mind is like a computer program. It takes in input from a variety of sources and generates output. But we are not really aware of all that we are taking in subconsciously. Most of our activity is actually governed by the subconscious as opposed to the conscious mind….

Advertising and media are negative mental devices. The destructive nature of advertising and the media becomes more important when people start to look inside and understand the power of their own thoughts. If the majority of our actions are subconscious and advertising and media are specifically aimed at manipulating our environment, then they have a…

Our immediate surroundings are critical for our mental health. For mental strength, try to manipulate the environment first. In this way, you will be taking away the opportunity to fail. Manipulating the environment for mental strength will mean that you make use of the concept of minimalism as much as possible. The less information and…

From the perspective of spiritual systems, the mind is irrational, illogical, and insane. We are required to observe the mind and detach from it in order to see its dysfunction. But we can also observe this dysfunction on a grander scale with the wars, hate, environmental destruction, racism, sexism, homophobia, political attacks, broken relationships, government…

When was the last time someone gave you a compliment? Do you recall how it made you feel appreciated and recognized? In celebration of World Compliment Day, let’s explore the science behind why compliments feel so good and why we should give more of them. Why compliments feel so good: they light up your brain…

Someone once said to me they didn’t feel that being happy was a choice. They felt that no one decides to have a bad day. That everyone starts the day choosing to be happy, but that things happened along the way that were out of their control. While I agree that things do happen that…

You’re on the verge of making some exciting positive change in your life, when suddenly you feel it: the cold, iron grip of the status quo. Even though part of you is excited about the possibility of change — a new job, a new home, a new relationship — there’s another part that’s attached to…

Grieving is not forgetting. Nor is it drowning in tears. Healthy grieving results in an ability to remember the importance of our loss—but with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain. No two people are likely to experience grief in the same way. The way we think and feel, the way our body…

It takes a special kind of discipline to forgive and change how you think and feel. It is easy to view yourself, your situation, or another person in a resentful way because blaming, feeling victimized, or being taken advantage of places responsibility outside of yourself. The following are self-statements based on the belief that responsibility…

Self-compassion gives us the ability to treat ourselves with affection rather than constantly judging ourselves. This is the first element of self-compassion. Imagine that a very close friend is beating themselves up about a situation and blaming themselves. How would you treat them? You could probably look at the situation much more objectively, reminding your…

Metamorphosis is a beautiful, wondrous process; as human beings, we get to partake in it to the degree we choose. What’s amazing about the future is that no one has a hold on it. We step into it in equal beat with everyone else. That means no one can tell you for certain what your…

Things end. They just do. The reason this quote, “The day you’re born you begin to die,” is so depressing is because it’s technically true. But again, you get to decide what you do with that information. There’s no overarching force dictating your need to obsess over that or deny it — you can acknowledge…

There’s no easy way to start over. Whether after a relationship, the end of a career, an unexpected move, or anytime we find ourselves in a situation we haven’t prepared for, to buckle under the weight of the blow can feel like our only option. That’s okay. To a certain extent, we shouldn’t hold back…

Most of us are pretty afraid of failure. Not that it’s ever come second nature to want to embrace our faults with gusto, but in our modern age – a time filled with PR spins and calculated retorts – it’s pretty rare to hear someone simply admit, “Yes. That happened. I failed.” Even if you’re…

No matter what kind of life you live, what kind of situations you are in, whatever you do either good or bad, you will always have critics.These critics will doubt you, will judge you, will trample you and at the end will call you a looser.But that’s not who you are. You are not what…

What is pain? Pain is defined a mental, physical, or emotional suffering in the dictionary. A lot of us tend to see pain as a negative experience and it is our desire to avoid pain as much as possible, and understandably so. But unfortunately, pain is an inevitable consequence of life and we have to…