Do A Random Act of Kindness

on

It doesn’t have to be in the form of a nice compliment this time. You don’t even need to communicate it to the target person. Just do an incognito service to someone. See how this makes you feel. Think how many times you received that..

We are subjects to random acts of kindness all the time. There’s always somebody doing something nice for us without our knowledge. And sometimes they’re doing it even without knowing who we really are.

Kindness is never about the receiver’s identity. It doesn’t really matter who’s going to receive it. It matters more who’s going to give it away. Kindness is about yourself. About compassion.

Pick a random act of kindness and do it for an unknown person. And after that move on.

How To Do A Random Act Of Kindness

If you really want to do an act of kindness, congrats. It’s one of the most useful things you can do for yourself. Here’s a short description of how I saw this done (and, subsequently, how I learned to do it myself).

There are a few rules.

The first one is to really be a random act. Even for you. You don’t have to put it on your agenda and cross it off after you did. No need to be on your to do list. But commit yourself to do it, once a day. Try to surprise yourself too with it, try to trigger this act at random times during the day.

The second “rule” is to be about kindness, pure and simple. Like in creating kindness after you do it. Do not mistake a random kind of kindness with “buying” good points for your karma. It doesn’t work like this. What you do should generate pure feelings after that. The easiest way to check if you really gonna do an act of kindness, is to project yourself in the place of the other person. Literally put yourself in the shoes of the other one. What do you need? How would you feel if someone will do that for you?

And the third prerequisite (observe that I didn’t use the term “rule” anymore) is to remain unknown to the other. Keep your identity hidden, if you can. Be anonymous. Be nobody. Hide your identity at the other end of the act. Remain unknown.

Now, if you can manage to do this constantly, your random acts of kindness will work as intended. They will create enough good will to “echo” back to you in forms as unknown and as powerful as your own acts. In other words, there will be significant improvement in your life.

27 Comments Add yours

  1. Poetry Fluff says:

    Here’s my problem: I can’t tell you if I’ve committed random acts of kindness because that contravenes the spirit of RAoK.

    And maybe I’ve never done any RAoK but my previous comment implies that I have. This altruism stuff is hard 😉

    I like that you’re encouraging them, though.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      I understand its hard. Many people don’t realise the impact a different perspective can have on their outlook on life. There is some evidence that being aware of our own acts of kindness, as well as the things we are grateful for, can increase feelings of happiness, optimism and satisfaction. Doing good may help you to have a more positive outlook about your own circumstances. 

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Poetry Fluff says:

        Okay, well I know for a fact that that’s true 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

      2. GS says:

        👍🏼

        Liked by 1 person

  2. I just paid for the items of the young woman in front of me at the store. Truly I was selfish I must admit. She had a 20.00 but it was not enough. She was checking her account to see the amount. I was in a hurry. I said go on I will pay for your stuff. She thanked me and went on. Until your post I did not consider it an act of kindness. She is a young black woman who did not have enough money. I just paid to get her out of my way to be honest. Now, I think of the kindness. Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      That is so amazing. Thank you for inspiring us all with your kind act today. Studies have found that acts of kindness are linked to increased feelings of wellbeing. Helping others can also improve our support networks and encourage us to be more active. This, in turn, can improve our self-esteem. There is some evidence to suggest that when we help others, it can promote changes in the brain that are linked with happiness.

      Like

  3. Absolutely love this!!!! YASS!!! I shall go forth and do a random act of kindness! Hurrah!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Kindness is choosing to do something that helps others or yourself, motivated by genuine warm feelings. Kindness, or doing good, often means putting other people’s needs before our own. It could be by giving up our seat on a bus to someone who might need it more, or offering to make a cup of tea for someone at work. Evidence shows that helping others can also benefit our own mental health and wellbeing. For example, it can reduce stress as well as improve mood, self-esteem and happiness. There are so many ways to help others as part of our everyday lives. Good deeds needn’t take much time or cost any money. 

      Like

      1. GS says:

        Glad you agree

        Like

  4. lennilindblad says:

    Really good piece! Someone recently did a random act of kindness towards me and I have been waiting for a signal to pay it forwards. Maybe this is it.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Yup this is the sign. Performing acts of kindness has measurable impacts on our mental health by increasing the neurotransmitters in the brain that make us feel satisfied and overall good: serotonin and dopamine.

      Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

        Liked by 1 person

  5. This has definitely opened my eyes to making kindness anonymous and i can certainly see how that can work in your favour. Thanks for inspiring me to be better

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Science says: Random acts of kindness are good for your health. The warm feeling of wellbeing that washes over you when you’ve done something kind isn’t just in your head. It’s in your brain chemicals, too. Acts of kindness can release hormones that contribute to your mood and overall wellbeing. Glad you liked the post.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. You can’t argue with science!

        Liked by 1 person

      2. GS says:

        Yuppers

        Like

  6. oishmortal says:

    This is so beautiful. We really need to appreciate all the little things and probably one act of kindness can change the life of another. Thanks for sharing 🌸

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Acting kindly helps you relax and makes you feel good. It is shown that giving to others makes us happier. We’re even happier when we’re buying things for others rather than buying things for ourselves. However, buying things for others is just one way to be kind – you can smile, pay a compliment, and much more.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. oishmortal says:

        Absolutely agree. Couldn’t have put it in a better way 🌸

        Liked by 1 person

      2. GS says:

        ♥️♥️

        Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

      Like

  7. Deb says:

    The last point is extremely crucial as nobody wants to remain anonymous after doing an act of kindness. Now a days people pose with random strangers after helping them to put it up on social media. They think they are going to gain a lot of respect and honour for helping the needy.
    But it is quite the opposite, they often are ridiculed and made the butt of all jokes for clicking pictures and making videos of their social work.
    Do check out our articles too!

    #MyWordsKraft

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      On certain days, don’t you feel like doing something good but you see someone do something so hurtful it takes all that nice energy out of you? It’s the chain reaction our world has gotten into for quite some time and I’m pretty sure it’s getting to all of us in someway.

      We were born in this world for a purpose, to live and see what we can do for other people. Before the ages of social media, the only negative reactions going on were war and burning witches. All it is now is bullying through a screen and bashing on others to make yourself happy.

      Like

Leave a Reply to lennilindblad Cancel reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.