Gentle Reminders

Distance yourself from those in your life who constantly remind you of who you used to be, despite how hard you have worked to learn, and grow, and become a better human being.

Maybe you will never get back to the person you used to be. But maybe that is okay. Maybe that is something to celebrate, something to embrace, because who you were is a version of yourself that exists in the past. A version of yourself that didn’t go through the heartbreak or the hardship; a version of yourself that did not have to navigate all of the ways in which life was trying to weather it. Who you were is a version of yourself that didn’t have to fight their way out of the dark, that didn’t have to deal with the things that caused change to crack within the soul of you, and those things transform a human being.

Maybe you will never be reintroduced to that version of yourself. Maybe you will never get back to who you were. Maybe that version of yourself has evolved, has grown, into who you were meant to be at this moment in time. Maybe you have to lay down that expectation, maybe you have to release that comparison, and instead, maybe you have to trust in the lessons, and the ways in which the world has asked you to stretch towards your becoming. Maybe you have to stop looking backwards.

Molting is the process by which a snake routinely casts off its skin to facilitate new growth, and sometimes life forces you to do thee same. Sometimes, life challenges you to shed relationships, and ideals, and the old versions of yourself that no longer serve you. So when you feel like you are not the same person, when you feel like you have unraveled, like you have evolved into someone you do not recognise, maybe that is something to honour. You have transitioned, you have transformed, and life will ask you to do so time and time again as you journey through it. Do not fear your evolution. Claim it.

12 Comments Add yours

  1. lovesurvived says:

    Thank you! I’m claiming it! Much love ❤️

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    1. GS says:

      Experiencing fear and anxiety may not be pleasant, but both are important emotions that drive human evolution. Our brains react to threats, preparing our bodies for what might lay ahead, in a way we learned how to thousands of years ago.

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  2. Mmm… i agree to these wonderful pieces of advice. You’ve touched my heart with this.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post Lamittan. Life is simple.

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      1. Indeed. You’re much welcome 💕

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  3. mythbusta says:

    I have learnt to avoid those that take a stand on my brake pedal, and I don’t do reunions, either. The guy they remember, died long ago and they can’t hope to associate with the new me.

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    1. GS says:

      True we are all changing with time

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  4. Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet and commented:
    Come Read This!!!

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing my post

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  5. Storyteller says:

    Good reminder. I met a friend from years ago. She wants to catch up. So not interested. Not interested in the memories of yesteryear. I am a different version of me rhese days.

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  6. parikhit says:

    We are where we are because of who we were. And at the same time that bit is gone and a new person has emerged, perhaps stronger, better aware and experienced. Indeed there is no point dwelling on the past, it is gone and dusted.

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