Your Feelings Are Valid

No one will ever fully be able to understand the internal battles you had to endure just to heal, just to grow, just to make it here today. You should be proud of the way you fought to save yourself. You should be proud of the way you survived. In this generation there is so…

Window of Tolerance

Every individual has what is known as a ‘window of tolerance’. This means that there is a state of physical and emotional arousal that is tolerable and bearable, and when a person is within his or her window of tolerance, she or he can think, learn, love and relax. Most people can identify times when…

EMDR Therapy

What is EMDR? EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing. It is a non-traditional psychotherapy approach developed in the late 1980s by Francine Shapiro, PhD, an American psychologist. What is EMDR Therapy used for? EMDR walks an individual through traumatic memories while focusing on an external stimulus so that the individual may be able…

Things Mentally Strong People Do

Turbulent times surround us. There are no guarantees and more uncertainty than ever before. Learning to tolerate uncertainty and regulate our emotions is key to facing this troubled world. Mentally strong people have learned how to cultivate these things : They move on. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. They embrace change. They…

Mental Health Commandments Part 1

Let’s get straight to it…This post does not need a preamble Prioritise growth, learn, ask questions, go to museums, visit libraries, watch old films, listen to good music, take your vitamins, sing in the shower, try journalling, talk to yourself, learn to soothe yourself, talk to people, discuss intelligently, reassess yourself, reexamine your life and…

Meditate For Building Resilience

Not long ago, the thought of bringing meditation into a corporate environment would have seemed ridiculous. But these days, meditation has gone mainstream. Given the high costs of stress, and the proven benefits of meditation for stress reduction, there is no way to ignore its usefulness. Thinking about meditation as just a relaxation technique, however,…

Rhetological Fallacies Part 2

Errors and manipulations of rhetoric and logical thinking Appeal to Emotions Appeal to Consequences of a Belief – Arguing a belief is false because it implies something you’d rather not believe. Appeal to Fear – An argument is made by increasing fear and prejudice towards the positing side. Appeal to Flattery – Using an irrelevant…

Daily Dose for the Mind

Love needs to be balanced. If you like him more than he likes you, give him time and space to catch up. It is important to hold back your emotions when your feelings are not in balance with his. One of the worst feelings is to believe that you don’t matter. Look around you. Have…

Daily Dose for the Mind

If you look for love, in pursuit of what it can give you, it will hide itself. If you ask love to arrive because you are now ready, it will skip your door. Love is like an uninvited guest. Love will come when it wants to. Love will leave when you ask more of it….

Techniques to Overcome Negative Thought Patterns

Negative thoughts drain you of energy and keep you from being in the present moment. The more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger they become. I like the imagery of a small ball rolling along the ground, and as it rolls, it becomes bigger and faster. That’s what one small negative thought…