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Originally posted on OnPathToGrowth : In the past, Last year, Last week, Yesterday, Or even today that has gone by, Forgive. Forgive everything that has gone, Everything that bled your heart, The moments that made you angry, Or even the downfalls that came in your way. Forgive, it all. Everything. Life is everything that we…

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Thing I need the most is to forgive !!!

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In the past,

Last year,

Last week,

Yesterday,

Or even today that has gone by,

Forgive.

Forgive everything that has gone,

Everything that bled your heart,

The moments that made you angry,

Or even the downfalls that came in your way.

Forgive, it all. Everything.

Life is everything that we have ever imagined,

Life is everything that we have ever cherished.

Forgive your brain for replaying the patterns of complains.

Forgive it all.

You deserve blooming,
You deserve joy.

Forgiveness is easy, forgiveness is loving, forgiveness is compassion. 🧡

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49 responses to “Forgive”

  1. Michelle

    Beautiful words and very important message Thank you!

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    1. Garima

      Thank you Michelle. I am glad you liked it. Buddhist tradition also distinguishes between different kinds of patience depending on the context: the patience of not retaliating, the patience of accepting hardship, and patience of accepting reality. Dalai Lama also encourages us to contemplate our impermanence which allows us to have more appreciation for the time we have. Reflecting on impermanence can give us a sense of perspective and urgency and allow us to see human potential and the value of our existence.

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  2. tkbrownwriter

    You are so right! Forgiveness — even of ourselves — frees us to move forward. Holding grudges give another such control over our lives and keeps us in the past. We cannot focus on what is happening right now, if we are looking behind us resenting someone for offending us. Thank You for sharing!

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    1. Garima

      You are most welcome. I am glad you liked it. Buddhist approach to anger and resentment suggests that cultivating the virtue of forgiveness is closely tied to developing practices of patience and tolerance. These forms of practice encompass cultivation of mindfulness and wisdom, giving or generosity, as well as honesty and sincerity.

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      1. tkbrownwriter

        Yes, I would agree! Thank You for the kind comments! Have a Blessed Day!

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      2. Garima

        Thank you. You too have a great day ahead.

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  3. francisashis

    Yes forgiveness is the bridge that connects one’s heart with the heart of the creator and enables the forgiver to acquire the powers of heaven directly from the supreme judge of this universe.Thanks a lot for sharing. 👍🌹

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    1. Garima

      Thank you Francis. I am glad you liked it. Forgiveness can neutralize anger and resentment. Dalai Lama suggests that the best way to deal with continually getting angry after being wronged by another person is to see them from a different angle and see that perhaps they still have positive qualities. He also suggests that the negative events can be a source of opportunities otherwise not possible, a form of re-framing toward the positive (Lama, 1997).

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      1. francisashis

        Very true,thanks for the lovely interpretation. 🌹🙏

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      2. Garima

        🙏🏼🙏🏼

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  4. Lizzy’sWritings

    Amen. Forgiveness is one of the most important things we can do to bring peace to our mind and soul. This is a lovely post – thank you for sharing this.

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    1. Garima

      Ah yes. It’s a punishment otherwise. Cultivating forgiveness is important because there are senseless crimes committed in a fit of anger where one brief moment can alter the course of many lives. People whose lives are affected by these crimes may not have the ability to forgive, thereby contributing to more resentment and anger in the world.The message of the Dalai Lama in his book Healing Anger sees human ability to inflict harm on oneself and others as part of human nature, where some individuals are more prone to it than others (1997).

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      1. Lizzy’sWritings

        Yes, there are people who are more prone to inflict harm on others.

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      2. Garima

        Ah yes. We don’t know what is their journey.

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  5. Jordan G Kobos

    When one does not forgive it’s the equivalent of drinking a glass of poison and holding it in while the poison slowly corrupts the mind and body.

    Which is an ironic twist as you would think the victim should not be affected but what happens is that lack of forgiveness becomes sin due to being a form of negativity.

    Hence why those who seek revenge disguised as justice who end up getting it only feel worse instead of better like most would think since they are being negative for refusing to forgive.

    Which is kind of an unfair system since why should the victim be effected with sin for being a victim?

    Meanwhile when it comes to the reality of sin?

    Sin like a serial killer, has no reason or rules or fairness since all it desires is to corrupt everyone effectively becoming a double edged sword every time it’s used.

    The sinner infects themselves with negativity and they infect the victim as well.

    The only way both can be cured is when both simply drop the negativity in whatever ways.

    What’s crazier in the modern world is that sin can effect people right through the screen.

    A bomb goes off, people see, they want revenge and boom now you have millions of people all infected with sin simply for watching the news and becoming hateful.

    Hence the saying the devil doesn’t have to do anything because humanity just does it to themselves daily for him.

    All he does is just draw pictures all day at the kiddy table.

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    1. Garima

      Jordon, I don’t know if I can ever find the words to match yours. But here are my two cents in it. There is research, however, that shows the desire for revenge to be in some instances stronger than empathic motivation, especially in men. Participants in a Singer and Lamm study did not respond with empathy toward a person that was suffering, especially when they felt the person deserved punishment (2009).

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      1. Jordan G Kobos

        I agree with that and makes perfect sense since…

        In the end to each their own applies, what works for one does not for another and vice versa, sometimes even multiple methods need to be used, sometime none.

        It really all depends on what’s actually wrong with the person, if anything at all since many times it’s just all their head, causing delusional effects of symptoms instead of actual symptoms.

        The mind is a powerful thing.

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      2. Garima

        Yes we all have our own journeys.

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  6. Lia

    Lovely. I so agree, Garima! And forgiving is much easier than holding a grudge. 💛

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    1. Garima

      Ah it’s difficult but a good feeling.

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      1. tkbrownwriter

        I find it easier to forgive too. Granted, it took some practice to get to this point, but I do not hold grudges. I forgive and move on with my life. Otherwise, I am giving that person control of me. I won’t do that.!

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      2. Garima

        Forgiveness is the tendency to grant pardon to those who have done wrong, show mercy and let go of negative responses to wrongdoing, accepting the fallible nature of humanity. Forgiveness is the antithesis of hate. Forgiveness is not the same as justifying, pardoning or condoning wrongdoing. Neither is it equivalent to reconciliation, which refers to mending relationships and restoring trust. Forgiveness does allow a more positive view of the transgressor and potentially opens the door to relationship healing. Perhaps in a world with so many divisions, forgiveness is not such a bad strength after all.

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  7. Gurpreet Singh

    Elegently Jotted… Good one 🙂

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    1. Garima

      Do visit the blogger and show her some support. Follow if you like her work.

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      1. Gurpreet Singh

        Okay

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      2. Garima

        🙂

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  8. Amrutha

    Just what I needed ! 🙂

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    1. Garima

      I am glad you came across this post.

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  9. Janie Kelley

    Thanks for this post! It reminds me of a quotation from “A Course in Miracles”; “Forgiveness is the great need of this world.”

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    1. Garima

      Ah yes, it’s benefits are multi fold. According to the Mayo Clinic, forgiveness brings with it plenty of health benefits, including improved relationships, decreased anxiety and stress, lower blood pressure, a lowered risk of depression, and stronger immune and heart health. Letting go of negative emotions can often have a remarkable impact on the body.

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  10. Smita Talukdar

    We forgive things but we tend not to forget about it. How to wipe out those bad memory from mind ??

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    1. Garima

      The best way is to seek help. Sometimes we need help in seeking closure, in forgiving. Take advantage of the process of memory reconsolidation. Every time you recall a memory, your brain rewires that memory. After a trauma, wait a few weeks for your emotions to die down and then actively recall your memory in a safe space. Some therapists advise you to talk about the experience in detail once or twice per week. Others prefer that you write out a narrative of your story and then read it during therapy.
      Forcing your brain to repeatedly reconstruct your painful memory will allow you to rewrite your memory in a way that reduces the emotional trauma. You won’t be erasing your memory, but when you do remember, it will be less painful.

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    2. tkbrownwriter

      If we are the victim of a ne’er-do-well, the forgiveness need not go hand in hand with forgetting what was done to us. If we forget, we will find ourselves right back in the same spot with either that person or someone else. Victims of domestic violence must not forget what has happened, but they must forgive both the perpetrator and themselves. If they do not, they will become the victim again.

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      1. Garima

        If you decide to reach out to an abuse victim, do so during a time of calm. Getting involved when tempers are flaring can put you in danger. Also, make sure to set aside plenty of time in case the victim decides to open up. If the person decides to disclose years of pent-up fear and frustration, you will not want to end the conversation because you have another commitment.

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  11. Manoj Mehra

    You have to be strong to forgive. Forgive and be free from that burden you are carrying. To forgive is good for our peace of mind.

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    1. Garima

      Well said Manoj. To truly forgive someone, you have to acknowledge that humans are all perfectly imperfect. Forgiveness is an act of strength, not weakness. When someone hurts us, it’s easy to stay angry with them; it means we don’t have to do the hard work of forgiving.

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    2. tkbrownwriter

      It is important to set boundaries of time with abuse victims too. PTSD does require much time to counsel, but other clients need attention too and should not be neglected. It is important not to allow an abuse victim to spend too much time venting, it can intensify their trauma, and no counselor should do that. Nor should a good counselor allow any one client to monopolize his or her time.

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      1. Garima

        Thank you for sharing.

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  12. Mircea Sauciuc

    Yes, forgiving is easy, but the paradox is that it’s also hard. Very hard. Maybe the hurt was so bad that there’s not going to be an easy way to forgive. That’s where the ease comes in, right? In theory, it’s easy to do it. Just forgive someone.

    While it’s that easy, truly, I believe the forgiver must be in a place in their heart in order to do that (that’s where the complexity lies). Once you’ve come to terms with that, sure, it’s easy as pie!

    Thanks, as always, for the great reminder!

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    1. Garima

      Hi Mircea,
      Forgiveness can free us from resentment and regret and contribute to improved relationships. However, as suggested in my example above, perspective needs to help us temper overuse of forgiveness so that we can make appropriate decisions about ongoing relationships. Fortunately for me, perspective is also one of my top strengths and using these strengths together is one of the things that helps me feel at my best.

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  13. mcarten

    I strongly agree. Forgive because we must. Forgive before we die inside. 😊🥰probably first thing to be taught too.

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    1. Garima

      Yes Carten.

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  14. Kim Petitt

    Our relationships contain people who will inevitably hurt us. We must do what the Bible teaches. Matthew 18 says we are to forgive seventy times seventy (in one day). Through the Holy Spirit forgiveness is possible.

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    1. Garima

      Hurt yes :). Oh the multitude of emotions it brings in you.

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  15. charlypriest

    It is hard to forgive some people, hop God does for me and then forgive me for not forgiving all

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    1. Garima

      Yes and God will. Have faith.

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  16. mind1976

    forgiveness is setting yourself free. Anger and grutches are like poison and will destroy your identity if you keep holding on to them. Forgiveness is like fresh air and fills you up with goodness and love. Namasté

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    1. Garima

      Namaste. Thank you for sharing your inspiring thoughts.

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  17. commonsensetheologian

    Yes, forgive! We learn forgiveness by being forgiven.

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