The Problem with Putting People on Pedestals

Have you ever admired someone so much that they seem flawless in your eyes, almost like they’ve been touched by a stroke of perfection? While it’s natural to admire and respect others, we often run into a problem when we start putting people on pedestals.

When we put someone on a pedestal, we’re viewing them through rose-colored glasses. We see them as perfect, infallible, and superior. But here’s the catch: No one is perfect. Everyone, regardless of how incredible they may seem, has flaws, struggles, and insecurities.

The problem with pedestals is two-fold.

Firstly, we set ourselves up for disappointment. When we perceive someone as perfect, we create unrealistic expectations of them. They become this idealized figure, and when they inevitably show their human side, we feel disillusioned and let down.

Secondly, pedestals create pressure for the person on top. When they’re constantly expected to meet high standards of perfection, it can lead to stress, anxiety, and a fear of making mistakes. It’s a suffocating place to be.

So, how do we stop ourselves from putting people on pedestals? Here are some strategies:

1. Recognize their humanity: Remember that everyone is human, with their own struggles and imperfections. They might have qualities you admire, but they also have flaws.

2. Manage your expectations: It’s unfair to expect anyone to be perfect all the time. Understand that people will make mistakes, and that’s okay.

3. Foster self-confidence: Often, we put people on pedestals because we feel inadequate in comparison. Cultivate self-confidence and recognize your own worth, so you don’t feel the need to idealize others.

4. Encourage openness: Create an environment where people feel comfortable showing their vulnerabilities. When people can be open about their struggles, it shatters the illusion of perfection.

5. Practice empathy: Put yourself in their shoes. Imagine the pressure they must feel, being seen as perfect. This empathy can help you see them in a more realistic light.

In conclusion, it’s healthy to admire and respect others, but remember to see them for who they truly are: human beings with strengths and weaknesses, just like you.

Let’s dismantle the pedestals and see people at eye level. It’s a much more balanced perspective, one that allows for empathy, understanding, and genuine connections.

In the end, the most profound relationships we have are those that are built on mutual respect and understanding, not on pedestals of perfection.

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5 responses to “The Fallacy of Perfection”

  1. Perfection embraces the imperfect so that both become One.

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  2. True perfection has to be imperfect

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  3. Experience has taught me to let go of images of perfection. Staying warm in Ohio.

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    1. Hope your year is coming along well

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