Stop Feeling Inferior

Comparing yourself to others is a natural human behaviour. You can’t avoid it. It’s hard wired within us. We can’t help comparing ourselves to others; our wealth, our looks, where we live, how “successful” we are, how much “fun” we have. Stop it!

Here are few ways in which you can stop feeling inferior starting now :

  • Stop comparing – Try to remember that you are on a par with everyone else. You may be thinking that’s easier said than done after all, it’s natural to feel a little daunted by the prospect of treating people who are senior to you as equals. It’s actually not that difficult, but it does require mental preparation.
  • Focus on the reality – Think forward to the next time you will be working or socialising with a group of people who are “senior” in some respect to you or people who are “better” than you in your eyes. Prepare in your mind to treat them differently to the way you used to. Be sure to psyche yourself up beforehand to do this.
  • Switch your thinking – Whereas you used to treat these people according to your perception of their authority in relation to you, now you will treat each of them as an equal. You will do this for everyone, even the people who are more “senior” to you in terms of position. Don’t worry, this won’t be a problem as long as you’re polite and respectful at all times.
  • See the results – You’ll me amazed at how this simple concept can transform your feelings of inferiority into a feeling of equality. You’ll also be pleasantly surprised at the more positive way people respond to you, even the more senior people. It’s likely their perception of your confidence levels and your self esteem will improve too.

Reference : https://www.think-confidence.com/2012/09/01/confidence-self-inferiority?utm_medium=social&utm_source=pinterest&utm_campaign=tailwind_tribes&utm_content=tribes&utm_term=350732050_11015474_290191

47 Comments Add yours

  1. Aidan says:

    Great post. I remember thinking how all my friends would get better marks than me in school whereas I could never beat them (friendly competition) but it took a 180 turn when I finally put my mind to believe I could do better. I had the potential. “Seeing results” feels great after all that effort! That was some years ago though!

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    1. Garima says:

      That’s the way to do it though. Firm belief in your ability to achieve anything.

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      1. I am hard on myself and wish I had done better in school.

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      2. Garima says:

        How you have fared in the past can never define your present and your future. You can start afresh today 🙂

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      3. you are not alone Tony.

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      4. you say it so well Garima.

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      5. GS says:

        Thank you Sophia. Glad you agree.

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    2. your confidence to believe in yourself is clearly reflected in your attitude Aidan. I’m so glad to see you realise the potential in yourself and acknowledge it. That’s awesome.

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  2. imanishas007 says:

    Just what i needed today 🤍🤍

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    1. Garima says:

      Yup, you are valued, you are important, whoever you are, wherever you are, you are magic and you can and will shine in whatever you do.

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      1. imanishas007 says:

        God bless you garima 🤍

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      2. Garima says:

        Thank you. Glad bless you too 💛

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  3. iamvhardik says:

    I sometimes plan conversations or outcomes which at time are predetermined. Over time I have acknowledged the fact that is a flawed approach.
    So how do I psyche myself with respect to scenarios?

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    1. Garima says:

      You don’t. Just go with the flow. There’s a brutal truth in life that some people refuse to accept–you have no control over many of the things that happen in life. Some of the people who resist that truth become control freaks. They micromanage, refuse to delegate tasks, and try to force other people to change. They think if they can gain enough control over other people and the situations they find themselves in, they can prevent bad things from happening. Others know they can’t prevent bad things from happening, but they worry about them anyway. They fret about everything from natural disasters to deadly diseases. Their worries keep them occupied, but ultimately, they waste their time and energy because worrying doesn’t do any good.

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  4. msheldon1431 says:

    Love this, this is a trap we constantly find ourselves stuck in

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  5. msheldon1431 says:

    Love this

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    1. Garima says:

      Glad you liked it. Low self esteem is very common. Take on challenges…small ones at first, then larger ones. Take risks (like talking to that person you noticed looking at you with a smile). Walk tall, and keep your chin up instead of staring at your feet. Wear nice clothes that don’t make you look like crap (there’s a reason why suits have the power they do). Understand that we’re all human, and we’re all facing our own battles and insecurities. Realize that they’re not better than you, you’re just not your best self yet. Unlock that person within you, and realize that you are NOT inferior.

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  6. Excellent read! For so long I have always compared myself to others or compared my life to the life of others. Now at 32 years old I am just now learning I have no reason to feel inferior. My life, my successes are amazing and I should be proud of everything I have achieved. Loved this read!

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    1. Garima says:

      Do not allow someone to rent space in your head. Do not give them a seconds thought, if that thought is a negative one. You choose what you do and do not allow to occupy your mind, so fill it with the positive, and exclude the negative. I am glad you have learned that Laurel. Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.

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    2. awesome comment Laurel. it’s these little testimonies that impact the listener, reader as well as your own spirit. keep it going.

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  7. This was a really inspiring post. For me, feelings of anger often accompany my feelings of inferiority because I see others achieving things with ease while I have to work twice as hard to achieve the same. This can make me feel inferior because I feel as if I’m constantly running everywhere while those around me are all just walking.

    Love,
    thewheelchairteen.home.blog

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    1. Garima says:

      The best way to stop feeling inferior to others is to stop comparing yourself to others in the first place. Embrace who you are and your unique qualities, and recognize that you bring value to the world.

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  8. Sometimes when I’ve compared myself to someone senior it improved me, sometimes not. Now that I’m approaching senior status I strive to be as good of an example as I possibly can. I’ve always compared my body type to someone else’s which I know better but still do it to this day.

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    1. Garima says:

      You may think everyone is better than you are, but you are only seeing the image they portray to others. You are actively comparing their highlight reel to your intimate knowledge of every flaw that you have which doesn’t make any sense at all. Everyone has their own fears and weaknesses — after all, we’re all human. Stop comparing yourself to others, because you’ll always come up short.
      You have to improve as a human being right? And you might think that you’re a real fixer-upper if there ever was one and you’re really embarrassed about that because there are 50 things that are wrong with you along with the fact that you’re compounding it with comparing yourself to others.

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  9. I agree thanks for making me think.

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    1. Garima says:

      Most welcome. I am glad you found my post thought provoking.

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  10. Good post toward being who you are meant to be, not who others think you should be. Here for you if ever need encouragement, support, or prayer…

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    1. Garima says:

      Our subconscious mind, which normally works to help keep us safe by alerting us to threats, has a way of becoming twisted after trauma. Instead of being my own best friend, I was my harshest critic, always convincing myself that I wasn’t good enough, and that someone else was better.

      Attempting to run away from my emotional turmoil created this monster of a neurosis. It was a self-harming coping mechanism to distract myself from my deep inner pain. It had become easier to obsess about whether or not someone else was “better than me” than to do the hard work of finding my own self-worth and unconditional self-love.

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      1. If ever need to share your story and process through any of your trauma, I’m here for you to listen and walk with you through it… You’re an inspiring person and have a depth of insight and wisdom for having gone through difficult things…

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  11. Powerful share GS. You saw the sensitive responses. So many out there struggling with issues around low self esteem, lack of confidence, rejection, fear, frustration and more….it is inspired reinforcement of self belief that can help. I applaud you for what you are doing. May your voice be a beacon that reaches a larger audience. I will be cheering you on.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you Sophia. Our subconscious mind, which normally works to help keep us safe by alerting us to threats, has a way of becoming twisted after trauma. Instead of being my own best friend, I was my harshest critic, always convincing myself that I wasn’t good enough, and that someone else was better.

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  12. Rob Wilson says:

    Stop Comparing. Even if the “Superior” one is comparing himself to the “Inferior” one, he is then the inferior one.

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    1. GS says:

      Yes indeed. Everyone is unique in their own way. We all bring something to the table.

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  13. juliadeniro says:

    Good advice. I might follow it myself; I know I compare myself to other people a lot.

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    1. GS says:

      I am glad this post resonated with you. You can control one life yours. But when we constantly compare ourselves to others, we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own. Comparisons often result in resentment. Resentment towards others and towards ourselves.

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  14. cheryl59c says:

    I agree no good comes from comparing ourselves to others. I believe it’s better only to complare ourselves to ourselves, that way we can improve what we don’t like. I believe it we treat people how we would want to be treated then regardless of their response, we’ve done the right thing. Thanks for your perception.

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    1. GS says:

      We’re constantly bombarded with people who live #blessed lives on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. What we don’t consider is that we often compare our own worst moments with someone else’s highlight. Social media can be a great source for inspiration. But, if it triggers inadequacy, self-doubt, and frustration, then choose to do a detox. Make sure you control social media and not the other way around. What do you think?

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      1. cheryl59c says:

        Thankyou that’s very helpful

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      2. GS says:

        Most welcome. Thank you for stopping by again.

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  15. Good advice. Like the post!

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    1. GS says:

      Feeling inferior sometimes can actually help you improve yourself and your life. But an inferiority complex usually means you feel incomplete, unworthy and unacceptable as a person no matter what you do, achieve or fix about yourself.

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      1. I agree it’s a balance and personally it depends on my mood if I’m questioning “am I good enough? Everyone is amazing!” And “I got this” 😀

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      2. GS says:

        Yes Liam…we got this!!!

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