Obsessive thinking is annoying first of all. It drains you of all your energy. And it’s not just a momentary thing, it is long-lasting, its has a domino effect. One compulsive thought leads to another compulsive thought and then once you realise that you are over thinking, you start worrying about the fact that you are thinking obsessively and it has to be stopped and then you start over thinking about how to stop because the thought just doesn’t walk out of the door of your brain because you want it to, it loves to screw up your head like its nobody’s business aka very easily..!!!!!
So, you see how a single obsessive thought becomes compulsive and takes away happiness. Needless to say, lets see how we can shove these thoughts out of the door FOR..EVER….
1. Stop talking about it – Yes, don’t keep on sharing your problems with everyone and anyone. People often think that sharing can help you take the pressure off your chest. Well, yes but be careful of whom you are sharing the information with. Is the person empathetic? Does the person know and understand where you are coming from? Or how this can affect you? If the answer to anyone of these questions is NO, then you are just wasting your time in sharing your problems with them or you just want people to agree to what you are saying is correct and sympathise (and not empathise) with you.
2. Write about it or type about it – Just write whatever is bothering you. Remember that you shall be not be marked for punctuations or spellings, it’s just a free flow of thoughts that you are thinking and feelings that you are feeling. Don’t be alarmed if you start crying or are shocked to read whatever it is you have written makes you wonder about how could you think something like that etc. Its ok and normal. Also, burn the paper or delete the file after you are through with us. Yes, you read correctly. You don’t want to visit that entire shit again, that’s why you wrote it down. It’s over, gone, burn it/delete it NOW.
3. Realise that your thoughts have become a vicious circle – Most of the people don’s even realise that they are already trapped in the thoughts. Even in those moments of nothingness or moments of no thoughts, they feel uneasy because they are not used to not thinking anything or rather not used to not obsess over something which might not even exist except in the deep area of the obsessive brain. Pay attention to your thoughts. Think that if we remove this particular source of thoughts from our lives, how our lives would be different?
4. Associate it with pain or loss – We all must have heard of associating a negative thought with pain. No? Well, think about those times when you were a kid and your mom or dad slapped you or locked you in a dark room with no lights just to scare you so that you don’t repeat the same mistake again, and you complied. So, since we all are adults now and probably doing that to our women kids, just associate the negative thoughts with pain or loss.
5. Look at them as a Warning – If you are getting obsessive thoughts, your mind is asking you to change something. The mind is asking you to find solutions to the problems and prevent a bigger calamity to happen. So, don’t try to shoo them away (which they won’t coz they are stubborn), just look at them as healthy criticism and work on them.
6. Go, get yourself a hobby or immerse yourself in work or anything that would keep you busy – An idle mind is a Devil’s workshop. I will leave it at that.
The choice is in your hands. You want to keep on obsessing over a thought coz you have nothing else to do in life, well its your life. Just ask yourself, do you really want to waste your precious little time you have on irrelevant things? Or do you want to make like more likeable for yourself?
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