Am sorry..but you are UNATTRACTIVE..!!

Ok, so before you get your knickers in a twist by the baffling tagline, please stay with me because the word UNATTRACTIVE has nothing to do with looks or appearances.

Still there?

Great! Thank you.

Everyone wants to be a likeable person. Even the most introvert of people who like to quietly watch the crowd from a dark corner and be amused or jealous want to be known as  “not a bad person”. But then sometimes, even without knowing, we tend to do things that make us unattractive as a person so much so that people won’t even want to be near us. So lets look at such unattractive characteristics:

  1. You are Rude – Plain & simple. Now you might be working hard to save the world which is giving you unwanted anxiety and keeping you at edge or you might be frustrated with your life (Yea life is sad sometimes for everyone, you’re no exception) that you want to snap at everyone and anyone, but my friend that is making you unattractive. People can’t see what you can see, all they see is that you are impolite, offensive and other synonyms for impolite and offensive.
  2. You are always Negative – Please note, there is a thin line between positive criticism and pessimism. Criticism can only come from someone who has been in your position or has experience in the area. I mean to put it plainly it should look like an invaluable feedback and not as downright rejection. Criticism is advice, pessimism is hitting the self esteem which my dear is not appreciated by anyone.
  3. You are never Wrong – Ahh..the ego boost that this sentence gives you..I know that feeling..Guilty.  But the reality is that you are nothing but delusional. You can be wrong sometimes and the wiser alternative would be to either accept it or be quiet and not defend it, because if you do it would lead to more drama which will make you more Unattractive. It’s ok not to have the last say in an argument. Think about it and see yourself.
  4. You are Controlling – My favourite one. Subtle controlling is like a personal brand of heroin for Unattractive people. They usually take the passive aggressive route where people will be angry with you but they won’t be able to express it, which leaves you to do whatever you want. These people kill your self confidence, make you question your values, demoralise and so on and so forth. (I am already feeling unhealthy thinking such thoughts…tsk)

I am sure you all must have related this post to a particular person or maybe thinking about the times when you have behaved in some way or the other to express your Unattractiveness to others. My request to you is please stop strangulating others if you are an unattractive person as at the end of the time, you will be only man standing..like LITERALLY ALONE…!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

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199 Comments Add yours

  1. Ah shit! I’m unattractive πŸ˜‰

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    1. Truth be told..so am I 😦

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      1. Awww hugs, let’s sit in the corner and butch about the beautiful people πŸ˜‰

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  2. DaisyWillows says:

    we are only human, after all

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    1. Yes dear…tsk. Learning as we grow..becoming aware is the first step

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  3. TheRoamingMind says:

    Sometimes it is good to be “unattractive” at times provided you catch yourself and correct as needed. It keeps you humble!

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    1. When dealing with toxic people..yes please…:)

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  4. Good post.. I do 1 & 2… Guess I need to stop that

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    1. The journey to self awareness is the key

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  5. McApple says:

    That’s a good one!
    We all sure have a bit of unattractive traits.

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    1. Oh yes, we all do. πŸ™‚ thanks for liking the post

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      1. McApple says:

        Always welcome!
        Cheers!

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  6. Healthy Not Nuts says:

    It’s all true! I agree with the others that we all have a little bit of these traits at times, it’s natural. BUT, we all know there are people out there where those traits are the dominant ones all the time. It’s like all or nothing sometimes ,too! LOL!
    Best,
    Candice~Marie

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  7. Wow such a great post, I’ve been on dates with people who are rude and negative. I try to think the best of them and maybe they aren’t so bad – but they just end up being unattractive to me! I never thought of that word to describe it, but it’s true.

    -Rosie
    http://www.hookupcultures.com

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    1. Glad you liked it Rosie…now you know what to call them πŸ˜‰

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  8. As the others have stated, and you have reiterated, it’s a question of recognising these traits and working to correct the behaviour that is paramount.

    I am very prideful and don’t like being told I am wrong. Still, I know I often am and have struggled mightily to learn to admit it.

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    1. Well you and only you can change yourself. Others can only try to show you what needs change but they don’t know your feelings or your story. Like they say charity begins at home.
      Thanks for visiting

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    1. Thank you Micheal. I am glad you liked it.
      Best to you

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  9. This is such a humbling post. We’re constantly showing people the good in themselves and never show the bad to compare it to. As a result we have people walking around with big heads thinking they are the kindest being in the world, when if fact hey still have more work to do. Loved it !

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    1. Thanks so much Jessica..I am glad you agree that one needs to see the other side of good as well.
      Best to you.

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  10. Advanced Research Technology says:

    Very inspiring post, even if it was not so inspiring subject matter, hehe.
    Anyway, it really got me thinking about beauty and mirrors. Ok, I hope the following does not sound too trite, but here goes…
    I’ve been watching the latest episode of ‘The Batchelor’. How does one get on these topics? The point is, the further we get into the show, the more I find this guy is left with the most beautiful women both inside and out. Beauty truly does come from the inside.

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  11. astridswords says:

    Great points to keep in mind.Thanks.

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    1. I am glad you liked them. Good luck

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  12. Iman says:

    I’m glad i didn’t leave…πŸ˜€

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  13. Swetha M says:

    Loved this one! Great reminder πŸ™‚

    Liked by 1 person

    1. I am happy you liked it Swetha. Thank you

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  14. jstgina says:

    Reblogged this on Gina's blog and commented:
    “We are only human after all.”
    -Dalsy Williams
    Guess I’m unattractive!
    Read on….

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much for the reblog. I am glad you liked it

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      1. jstgina says:

        I did! Its a great post…

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  15. Sessela says:

    The tag line is what drew me in! Great post πŸ˜€

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you. πŸ™‚

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  16. erhynireh says:

    I’m sorry but I can’t help it sometimes especially when dealing with impossible people, duh! Nice post!

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    1. Thanks a lot for liking the post. Well, we are all humans, I lose it too sometimes…but I guess it’s ok till we realise what we did in the heat of the moment was inappropriate and tact could have been used.
      Good luck

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  17. Nothing more unattractive than a rotten personality.

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  18. Thanks for such a prolific writing! I am unattractive some of the time, but I try to be attractive the majority of the time. I have an ex who is pretty darn unattractive all of the time, but I can only work on myself. Thanks friend!

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    1. That’s why he is an EX..good going girl. I am proud. Best you to.

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  19. jade0207 says:

    I really like the title for the post! Gets you to know what’s in the post xD I like the writing too! Well done πŸ˜‰

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    1. Thank you so much fellow blogger. I am glad you liked it.

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      1. jade0207 says:

        You’re welcome! Thanks you for sharing it with us!

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  20. kalison0515 says:

    I have to watch myself on #3 because the one thing a lot of people don’t like about lawyers is their ability (and willingness) to argue.

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  21. vjearle says:

    I like to think we are all perfectly imperfect. Besides the truly unattractive people are too narcissistic to notice their flaws – the rest of us are just well-meaning bunglers, lol.

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    1. Haha…the beauty of life is in the imperfection…even if it is being a well meaning bunglers…;)

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  22. mstanton60 says:

    Great post. I know that at times I am “unattractive,” but hopefully they to not outweigh “attactive” moments. My least favorite is when people are negative and squash the dreams of others; that is downright ugly. Unfortunately, I see quite a few of these “unattractive” traits in some of the current candidates for U.S. President. Makes me want to move.

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    1. Well we can’t do anything about our external circumstances, all we can take responsibility of is to choose what is best for us and our soul. Good luck with the elections in Nov. Let’s see πŸ™‚
      Thanks for costing my blog and taking out time to read and comment.
      Best to you

      Like

  23. Haha! I couldn’t agree more!! Rude, ego does make you unattractive πŸ™ˆ
    I Loved it! Happy to connect! πŸ˜„ Do check out my writings too, will appreciate your reviews πŸ˜‡
    Happy blogging πŸ’•

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    1. I will check your writings πŸ™‚
      Thank you for visiting my blog.

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  24. gspottedpen says:

    One can be in negation or affirmation in choosing the experience in extence. The so called freedom makes hu/WO/man condemned to be free.

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  25. If any of us are perfect, it is unknown to me. We all have those days, and usually the one who points the finger often is more guilty than those they are pointing at. I am not known to be a person who seeks conflict, but I will stand up for myself. I find this is true with most people.

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  26. Point Nr2 could apply to me.It is not that I am a pessimist.
    I sometimes fall in” the negative remark first trap”… It is part of my thinking process over what is good and bad… It seems I am wired for negative analysis first.
    Good to get a reminder to pay attention to this.

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  27. It was an eye opening read to some extent. Our flaws and mistakes make us human and you’ve perfectly captured the essence of this little idea. A lovely post. πŸ™‚
    Here’s hoping you’ll check out my blog too at https://thewhimsicalandwanderingsoul.wordpress.com/

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    1. I would love to read your post. Thanks for visiting my blog.
      Best to you

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  28. #Maesha - Ms Nightshade says:

    One thing I find extremely unattractive in a person is when they ascribe intent to things that are obviously just regular life events. For example the guy who yells at everyone on the road as if their mistakes are intentional personal affronts. Or the lady in the grocery line who’s in a huff because the person in front of them *obviously* wants to waste *her* time by counting change and using coupons. People need to give each other a break some times. Perhaps it’s better described as self-centred. Yes… that to me is unattractive. Great post!

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    1. Great point that one. Thank you. I believe we all need to stop relating our inner emotions with our outer self. Just because we are impatient or in a bad mood, doesn’t mean that the world is a bad place and everyone else is making your life more miserable than it already is. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. See you again.
      Best

      Like

  29. ryleysatompkins says:

    According to this I’m unattractive as fuck, for canniblizing myself and strangulating myself, so I’ll assume you “liked” my post without reading it as my nature is completely contradictory to everything you said!^^ haha

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    1. Haha…I accept all kinds of thought process. I have written this post but I am unattractive too, a lot. Infact it was one of my colleague who pointed it out to me as how not so attractive I look when I lose it. See that’s the power with writing, you don’t have to stick to a particular view point. You express what you feel at that time. And that’s how humans are. We aren’t born in a particular mould. We are here for experience. But yes all the pointers in the post is just a gentle reminder of how we can be different. Unless we realise where we are, we can’t go anywhere.
      Thanks again for returning he favour and visiting my post. I really liked your post too.
      Best

      Like

  30. evolvingvibe says:

    Thank you for liking my blog!

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  31. amyhuynh10 says:

    I agree with your list 100%.

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  32. thia licona says:

    O mine! O mine! Dear Empress? You hit the nail on the head! Ouch! I am 100% guilty in my natural or carnal self or am I?
    Actually? In person? I’m quite a charming entertainer–very attractive at first until….the reality of what I see in my spirit takes over. Then? The entertainment ceases. People do not want to hear the naked truth about mine and others carnal self, period. So?
    For this moment? I stand alone but content underneath the everlasting arms in this valley of death that we are all traveling in.
    Even so? As the Spirit of our Father/Creator’s will leads & inspires me, I know that soon? I will no longer be alone. For it is not about me. It’s all about our Father/Creator and US ALL! Thanks for checking me out. Looking forward to your likes.:-)

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  33. msw blog says:

    This reminded me of one of my favorite quotes “β€œIt is better to be alone than in bad company.” ― George Washington

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    1. thia licona says:

      How appropriate? Exactly my sentiment. Soon though? Father will have His way with each one of us rebellious things that we are! Then? No more ‘bad’ company for sure? We will all be singing in the Presence. His Kingdom & King Yahushua is coming to earth as it is in heaven. Hahaha! HalleluYah! Come & visit the blog, won’t you?. πŸ™‚

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      1. Hi, moving to your blog now πŸ™‚

        Like

      2. thia licona says:

        Tell u what? Like they say in my beloved mountains of North Carolina? “You do me proud!”

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      3. thia licona says:

        I wish I would take my time to import some of my dufus–those would be an appropriate smiley reply. But? Got His business to take care in another department. So glad for your reading. I am reading along and enjoying my own forgotten records? That’s the life! πŸ™‚

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  34. I think when someone reads a post like this, they are either reminded of someone they know or they see themselves in the descriptions. I saw myself in some of these. And I’ll take a deeper look at how I act – being called unattractive can be good thing. Great post. πŸ˜€

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    1. Thank you for appreciating the post. I am so glad you liked it. Good luck with the introspection.
      Best

      Like

  35. ajaykohli says:

    Well said ,but unfortunately flesh is all people see ,no one sees soul

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    1. Yes, we are so occupied with the conscious world, we forget the subconscious.
      Best

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      1. ajaykohli says:

        Exactly ,we need introspection desperately

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  36. Erin Marie says:

    Thank you for checking out my blog. Great post. β™‘

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    1. Thank you for returning the favour:)
      Best to you

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  37. Rareity says:

    Whoa I clicked to read and unfolllowed, un like and millions of other weird things just now . Haha nice post

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  38. Nicely said. The problem is that most of us will respond by thinking, “I know someone — or someones — just like that!” We would do better to invest time thinking about ways in which we do those things ourselves.

    Thank you.

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  39. kristinagallo says:

    Number five could be busybody. Poking nose in other business is also unattractive. Great post.

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  40. meddle some more why don’t cha….lol

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  41. True in every aspect!

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  42. Kalleson says:

    Reblogged this on KALE – SON and commented:
    Never knew “unattractive” could a tricky subject. Nicely expound from all point of view.

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  43. I can relate this post to me 5 years back!!! I was blunt, rude and disrespectful and no wonder I lost most of my close friends !!! Thank God someone close to me helped me out of it. I feel so delighted that you have written this. I am going to share it to try and save others. Bravo ✌

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    1. Thanks for sharing this post with a larger audience. I am so glad you liked that much.
      Best to you

      Like

  44. Anthony says:

    Hi im a long time reader, first time commenter. Firstly, I really enjoy reading and following your blog. I just wanted to chime in with my nickels worth.
    I believe that at any given time all have fallen into one or more of the traits you explained. I think that people are complicated to say the least. I am of the mind that most when it comes to there feelings and motivations lye in a very murky gray area. And who’s to know if they say contrary. Cause they could just be lying to themselves and us. Anyways… Thank you for what you do. Take care.

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    1. Thanks a lot for the feedback Anthony. Human mind and emotions are indeed a gray area. There is lot to learn from it, but still we won’t be able to crack the code. All we can do is try our best to live a happy life.
      Thanks again for stopping by to comment. Looking forward to seeing you again.
      Best to you

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    1. Thank you :). I am glad you liked it. Try some suggestions in your personal life to see if they really work. Would love to hear from you again.
      Best to you

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  45. This is brilliant! Thank you for visiting my blog and liking my article.

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    1. Thank you for returning the favour.
      Best to you

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