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Am sorry..but you are UNATTRACTIVE..!!

Ok, so before you get your knickers in a twist by the baffling tagline, please stay with me because the word UNATTRACTIVE has nothing to do with looks or appearances.

Still there?

Great! Thank you.

Everyone wants to be a likeable person. Even the most introvert of people who like to quietly watch the crowd from a dark corner and be amused or jealous want to be known as  “not a bad person”. But then sometimes, even without knowing, we tend to do things that make us unattractive as a person so much so that people won’t even want to be near us. So lets look at such unattractive characteristics:

  1. You are Rude – Plain & simple. Now you might be working hard to save the world which is giving you unwanted anxiety and keeping you at edge or you might be frustrated with your life (Yea life is sad sometimes for everyone, you’re no exception) that you want to snap at everyone and anyone, but my friend that is making you unattractive. People can’t see what you can see, all they see is that you are impolite, offensive and other synonyms for impolite and offensive.
  2. You are always Negative – Please note, there is a thin line between positive criticism and pessimism. Criticism can only come from someone who has been in your position or has experience in the area. I mean to put it plainly it should look like an invaluable feedback and not as downright rejection. Criticism is advice, pessimism is hitting the self esteem which my dear is not appreciated by anyone.
  3. You are never Wrong – Ahh..the ego boost that this sentence gives you..I know that feeling..Guilty.  But the reality is that you are nothing but delusional. You can be wrong sometimes and the wiser alternative would be to either accept it or be quiet and not defend it, because if you do it would lead to more drama which will make you more Unattractive. It’s ok not to have the last say in an argument. Think about it and see yourself.
  4. You are Controlling – My favourite one. Subtle controlling is like a personal brand of heroin for Unattractive people. They usually take the passive aggressive route where people will be angry with you but they won’t be able to express it, which leaves you to do whatever you want. These people kill your self confidence, make you question your values, demoralise and so on and so forth. (I am already feeling unhealthy thinking such thoughts…tsk)

I am sure you all must have related this post to a particular person or maybe thinking about the times when you have behaved in some way or the other to express your Unattractiveness to others. My request to you is please stop strangulating others if you are an unattractive person as at the end of the time, you will be only man standing..like LITERALLY ALONE…!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

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  1. It’s all true! I agree with the others that we all have a little bit of these traits at times, it’s natural. BUT, we all know there are people out there where those traits are the dominant ones all the time. It’s like all or nothing sometimes ,too! LOL!
    Best,
    Candice~Marie

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  2. As the others have stated, and you have reiterated, it’s a question of recognising these traits and working to correct the behaviour that is paramount.

    I am very prideful and don’t like being told I am wrong. Still, I know I often am and have struggled mightily to learn to admit it.

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  3. This is such a humbling post. We’re constantly showing people the good in themselves and never show the bad to compare it to. As a result we have people walking around with big heads thinking they are the kindest being in the world, when if fact hey still have more work to do. Loved it !

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  4. Very inspiring post, even if it was not so inspiring subject matter, hehe.
    Anyway, it really got me thinking about beauty and mirrors. Ok, I hope the following does not sound too trite, but here goes…
    I’ve been watching the latest episode of ‘The Batchelor’. How does one get on these topics? The point is, the further we get into the show, the more I find this guy is left with the most beautiful women both inside and out. Beauty truly does come from the inside.

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  5. Great post. I know that at times I am “unattractive,” but hopefully they to not outweigh “attactive” moments. My least favorite is when people are negative and squash the dreams of others; that is downright ugly. Unfortunately, I see quite a few of these “unattractive” traits in some of the current candidates for U.S. President. Makes me want to move.

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    • Well we can’t do anything about our external circumstances, all we can take responsibility of is to choose what is best for us and our soul. Good luck with the elections in Nov. Let’s see 🙂
      Thanks for costing my blog and taking out time to read and comment.
      Best to you

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  6. If any of us are perfect, it is unknown to me. We all have those days, and usually the one who points the finger often is more guilty than those they are pointing at. I am not known to be a person who seeks conflict, but I will stand up for myself. I find this is true with most people.

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  7. Point Nr2 could apply to me.It is not that I am a pessimist.
    I sometimes fall in” the negative remark first trap”… It is part of my thinking process over what is good and bad… It seems I am wired for negative analysis first.
    Good to get a reminder to pay attention to this.

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  8. One thing I find extremely unattractive in a person is when they ascribe intent to things that are obviously just regular life events. For example the guy who yells at everyone on the road as if their mistakes are intentional personal affronts. Or the lady in the grocery line who’s in a huff because the person in front of them *obviously* wants to waste *her* time by counting change and using coupons. People need to give each other a break some times. Perhaps it’s better described as self-centred. Yes… that to me is unattractive. Great post!

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    • Great point that one. Thank you. I believe we all need to stop relating our inner emotions with our outer self. Just because we are impatient or in a bad mood, doesn’t mean that the world is a bad place and everyone else is making your life more miserable than it already is. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. See you again.
      Best

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  9. According to this I’m unattractive as fuck, for canniblizing myself and strangulating myself, so I’ll assume you “liked” my post without reading it as my nature is completely contradictory to everything you said!^^ haha

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    • Haha…I accept all kinds of thought process. I have written this post but I am unattractive too, a lot. Infact it was one of my colleague who pointed it out to me as how not so attractive I look when I lose it. See that’s the power with writing, you don’t have to stick to a particular view point. You express what you feel at that time. And that’s how humans are. We aren’t born in a particular mould. We are here for experience. But yes all the pointers in the post is just a gentle reminder of how we can be different. Unless we realise where we are, we can’t go anywhere.
      Thanks again for returning he favour and visiting my post. I really liked your post too.
      Best

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  10. O mine! O mine! Dear Empress? You hit the nail on the head! Ouch! I am 100% guilty in my natural or carnal self or am I?
    Actually? In person? I’m quite a charming entertainer–very attractive at first until….the reality of what I see in my spirit takes over. Then? The entertainment ceases. People do not want to hear the naked truth about mine and others carnal self, period. So?
    For this moment? I stand alone but content underneath the everlasting arms in this valley of death that we are all traveling in.
    Even so? As the Spirit of our Father/Creator’s will leads & inspires me, I know that soon? I will no longer be alone. For it is not about me. It’s all about our Father/Creator and US ALL! Thanks for checking me out. Looking forward to your likes.:-)

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  11. I think when someone reads a post like this, they are either reminded of someone they know or they see themselves in the descriptions. I saw myself in some of these. And I’ll take a deeper look at how I act – being called unattractive can be good thing. Great post. 😀

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  12. I can relate this post to me 5 years back!!! I was blunt, rude and disrespectful and no wonder I lost most of my close friends !!! Thank God someone close to me helped me out of it. I feel so delighted that you have written this. I am going to share it to try and save others. Bravo ✌

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  13. Hi im a long time reader, first time commenter. Firstly, I really enjoy reading and following your blog. I just wanted to chime in with my nickels worth.
    I believe that at any given time all have fallen into one or more of the traits you explained. I think that people are complicated to say the least. I am of the mind that most when it comes to there feelings and motivations lye in a very murky gray area. And who’s to know if they say contrary. Cause they could just be lying to themselves and us. Anyways… Thank you for what you do. Take care.

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    • Thanks a lot for the feedback Anthony. Human mind and emotions are indeed a gray area. There is lot to learn from it, but still we won’t be able to crack the code. All we can do is try our best to live a happy life.
      Thanks again for stopping by to comment. Looking forward to seeing you again.
      Best to you

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