Talk To Your Daughters

Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything is she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that.

Here are some of the things you can say instead :

  • “You look so healthy!”
  • “You’re looking so strong.”
  • “I can see how happy you are, you’re glowing.”

Better yer, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that cares are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because its scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have think thighs or wide ribcages. it’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcages is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilise her beautiful soul.

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13 Comments Add yours

  1. christin says:

    I cannot express how much this post made me happy. Thankyou and this should be read more and more.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you Christin.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Musing Of Souls says:

    Beautiful expressions. 🙂 I love it.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you. I am glad you liked it.


  3. Belles Days says:

    My daughters are 43 and 41 I don’t think I need to tell them anything. But I must’ve done something right, they are beautiful, strong and confident women, but the I would say that wouldn’t I ?! Great piece!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the article Belles.


  4. thesupermode says:

    Absolutely loved the post. If we could imbibe such amazing changes in parenting early on, the child can grow up to be a much more confident and positive version of themselves.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. GS says:

      Raising the highest achieving children will necessitate being intentional. Imagine what your child’s future would look like if he or she had the ability to persist in their endeavours and limiting screen time because they know it benefits them.

      Liked by 1 person

  5. Eyce Cali says:

    Beautiful and inspiring ❤️

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you Eyce. I am glad you like it. Facilitating the empowerment and participation of children enhances a culture of child safety and listening to children within your organisation. Children and young people learn new skills, build self-esteem and develop an understanding of collaboration and rights. Children feel their views are valued and listened to.

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  6. Jaya says:

    Thanks for sharing. Every mother and daughter should read this.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Yes all parents and children should accept these with an open mind. There is much to learn.

      Liked by 1 person

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