A way to remember these skills is to think of soothing each of your five senses.
Vision – Notice what you see, find soothing things to look at. Notice the play of light on a clean wall. Enjoy the richness of colours in the floor tile. Look out the window and watch the grass gently blow in the breeze, the sun dancing on leaves, the grateful movement of the birds, or the smooth movement of passing cars. Close your eyes and notice the textures and light colours behind your eyelids.
Hearing – Pay attention to what you can hear around you. Listen to beautiful or soothing music, or to invigorating and exciting music. Pay attention to sounds of nature (waves, birds, rainfall, leaves rustling). Sing to your favourite songs. Hum a soothing tune. Learn to play an instrument. Be mindful of any sounds that come your way, letting them go in one ear and out the other. Notice how sounds on the unit feel different at various times of day. Quietly notice the sounds of your own breath. See if you can hear the sound of your own circulation.
Smell – Be aware of the memories that smell can bring. Notice the scent of your soap and shampoo while showering. Try to find brands of deodorant, lotion, and other things that have a soothing smell to you. Sit quietly for a few mi nuts and try to identify all of the smells that you notice. Enjoy the small of your meals while you are in the dining room. See if you can smell each type of food individually. Savour the small of popcorn and remember other times in your life when you have enjoyed popcorn.
Taste – Carefully savour flavours that the day brings you. Have good meal; enjoy your desert; have a gavotte soothing drink such as herbal tea or hot chocolate. Treat yourself to a favourite snack from the canteen. Suck on a piece of peppermint candy. Chew your favourite gum. Really taste the food you eat; eat one thing mindfully.
Touch – Find comfort in touch. Take a bubble bath. Savour the feeling of crisp, clean sheets on the bed. Soak your feet. Soften your skin with lotion. Put a cold compress of your forehead. Brush your hair for a long time. Place your hand on a smooth, cool surface. Enjoy the feeling of a favourite piece of clothing, or clean clothes. Notice the confirming warmth a clothing that is fresh from the dryer. Experiencing whatever you are touching, notice touch that is soothing.
Here’s a post on how to journey from shame to compassion > https://empress2inspire.blog/2020/01/23/from-shame-to-compassion/