As, you might already know, there are many contributing factors that influence a person’s self-esteem. It’s incredibly important, too, to understand what factors influence your self-worth. Why? Because these factors can drastically improve or harm your self-confidence. Having low self-esteem can prevent you from doing such things as building healthy relationships, rising in your career, or achieving your goals. Having low self-esteem can even lead to such mental health issues as anxiety and depression.
Here are some subtle differences between healthy and unhealthy self esteem :
Healthy Self Esteem – Acceptance of strengths and weaknesses.
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Deflects compliments/takes feedback personally
Healthy Self Esteem – Creates goals and works towards them
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Negatively compares yourself to others
Healthy Self Esteem – Learns from past failures and successes
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Fear of failure, reluctant to try again
Healthy Self Esteem – Confident to try again if unsuccessful first time round
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Focuses on precious shortcomings.
Healthy Self Esteem – Supportive and empowering internal dialogue
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Critical and negative internal dialogue
Healthy Self Esteem – Confident enough to say no
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Overcommits to please others
Healthy Self Esteem – Accepts responsibility for actions
Unhealthy Self Esteem – Seeks the approval for other people.
There are multiple factors that can have an effect on your self-esteem. Your childhood, society, the media, and people in your life can all add or take away from how you feel about yourself. Studies have shown that people who have an unhealthy self-esteem are more likely to experience fatigue, anxiety, and depression. As a therapist and counselor, I stress to my clients that ultimately the most important influential factor to your self-esteem is YOU. You can decide to take control and make a change to start having a healthy self-esteem. Put the work in to start to truly love and accept yourself.