Yet, saying I’m proud of myself feels wrong, unearned, and boastful.
Why is that? There’s no way I’m the only person who can easily say I’m proud of you to a friend or colleague, but not myself. Looking in the mirror or to my boss during a check-in saying “I’m proud of myself” seems like the most difficult and unattainable task.
Then, like the universe wanted to talk to me, I saw an Instragram post about the Impostor Syndrome. This is the internal experience of believing that you are not as competent as others perceive you to be. Simply, I sit here after accomplishing so much and still feel like a phony, like I don’t belong where I am and I only got here because of dumb luck.
And wow if that isn’t me.
My entire life, I’ve struggled with self-doubt, being unable to assess my competence and skills realistically, berating my performance through self-deprecating humor, and being fearful I won’t live up to what others expect of me.
When in reality, I’m awesome. I work hard, I empathize and connect with people, I communicate well, and adapt to situations quicker than most.
I’ve been underselling myself for years by thinking that being humble is better than making others uncomfortable with my success. And maybe I still think that way. Throughout this entire post, I’ve struggled to not include some type of self-deprecating joke to soften the mood.
If you’ve ever felt this way, know you’re not alone. I’m right there with you and we’ll figure out a way to comfortably and confidently say to ourselves that we’re proud of us. I’m here to say, it’s okay to be proud of yourself, but can’t quite say it to others. That’s a battle for another day.
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Wonderful! And familiar. Thank you for sharing ♥
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Most welcome. Being proud of yourself or having strong self-compassion is considered by some as being key to a happy, fulfilling and successful life. Research by Sirois (2013) published in the Self and Identity Journal shows self-compassion even makes you less likely to procrastinate. It also boosts happiness and reduces stress.
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Agreed
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Glad you liked the post
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Pleasure
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Brilliant post! This is exactly what I think about myself!
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Thank you. Feeling proud of yourself will only motivate you to move forward with your short-term and long-term goals, therefore increasing your feeling of contentment.”
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Imposter syndrome is a difficult mental state to break out of. You just have to own your greatness. But, when you have not been doing that, your environment fights for its comfortable status quo. Great read! Thanks!
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I agree Barbara. Being proud of yourself is just another way of saying you have a strong sense of self-worth. People who are proud of themselves tend to have a great passion for life, feel content and grateful, and are excellent at motivating others. … Women tend to feel guilty when they are focusing on themselves.
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Yes!
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♥️
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Marvellous work by you .
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Thank you 🙏🏼
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What’s the opposite of this?? Lol
It sounds funny to ask, as it is funny but, is there an opposite? When I was younger (give or take 20+ years), I was much more confident, went above and beyond, achieved my goals, ect. I wouldn’t boast or brag…I remember accepting complaints by being humbly thankful but also, agreeing…if that makes sense. I’ll try to explain:
Person: “Hey, Aimee! You did an amazing job on that project. Everyone could see you worked really hard. You should be proud of yourself.”
Me: “Thank you so much! It means a lot to know my hard work is appreciated. I really am proud of myself too.”
Fast forward to now, as a 40+ yr old, I could do a thousand things, work as hard as I possibly can….I just don’t feel that confidence, the accomplishment or proud. Even now, I worry that I might be the only one who that’s felt this way. It’s weird, right?
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It is weird and it’s more of our anxiety and social conditioning talking. We need to use it to our benefit. I mean why think that one of 40+..we are forever young and we can be, do or have anything we want.
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Reblogged this on Ed;s Site..
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Thank you for sharing
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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Thank you for sharing
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Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹
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“Love who you are” in the image you posted was grouped perfectly with I am proud of myself. I’m the bomb.com is a phrase I also adopt and share with others. GS, this post is TheBomb.com 🤩
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Hahhha thank you Stacy
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