Opening Up Isn’t Easy

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We often hide our inner thoughts and feelings because we’re concerned if they’ll be accepted by other people. But we also shut out other people from knowing and accepting us by not being open. By not being open with others, we’re really saying we don’t fully accept ourselves. We’re denying ourselves that chance to speak out, to declare our inner thoughts and feelings.

It’s up to you to decide just how you’re going to talk about yourself and what you’re going to say. Telling somebody where you bought that new pair of shoes might be one way of being open. However, it might be more meaningful to share why clothes are important to you.

You have the power to change things by being open and sharing things. Keep in mind also that being completely open with everyone in every situation may be very inappropriate. You may want to be more open with your spouse or close friends, but not with your boss or people you don’t know as well. You may choose not to be open with people you don’t fully trust because to be open is to share vulnerable information about yourself. And if you don’t fully trust how someone else will use that information about you, you may choose not to share it. Also, some people may be very uncomfortable with too much openness and you may not want to be as open with them.

Openness is making your outer world as similar to your inner world as possible. When you’re feeling jealous, happy, anxious or sad why not share with other people what you’re really feeling. We call this being congruent. That is letting what shows, your expression, frown, words represent what you actually feel and think. That takes hard work and a lot of honesty. (Again a reminder of caution about being open and sometimes being too open. In the name of being open we say everything we feel or think to others, but fail to be sensitive to others feelings about our openness. We may make them feel very uncomfortable or say something that hurts them. Being open also carries a responsibility with it and that is to be aware of others reactions to us and to respect their reactions. This may mean not disclosing everything with some people out of respect for their feelings.

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  1. Yes!!! How uncanny to read this as I recently stepped out of that comfort zone last week. In fact, I just posted my blog about the experience.
    💛

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    1. GS says:

      “The difficult part of being emotionally open comes from the lack of desire to be vulnerable,” Texas-based psychotherapist Richard E. Toney tells Bustle. … “Those who are afraid to be emotionally open have doubts that the person who they are in a relationship with will actually take care of their heart,” he says.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  2. gpavants says:

    Garima,

    But that is where the healing begins.

    Thanks,

    Gary

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    1. GS says:

      Absolutely ♥️

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  3. Vulnerability is not taught through inter generational teachings. Instead we as human beings are taught psychologically, vulnerability is a shameful. Choosing this space is a long journey to open one’s vulnerability selflessly without judging self in the process. I have opened a space to reprogram vulnerability in growth courageously on my blog. Thank you for the read.

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    1. GS says:

      For some, the thought of being vulnerable is terrifying. Another way to describe the fear of being vulnerable is having a fear of rejection or abandonment. If being vulnerable is terrifying to you, know that you can become more comfortable opening up to others over time.

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      1. Agree. It is a process

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      2. GS says:

        Yup 👍🏼

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