Self Respect or Self Love

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Surprisingly, what I’ve found is that self-love is really the easier of the two. These are the things you do to take care of yourself. That massage on your calendar every three weeks? That is self-love. Self-love might be getting that manicure, taking a walk, spending some time meditating, soaking in the tub. Whatever you do that feels good…it’s all about making the things that make you happy a priority.

Self-respect, on the other hand, can be a little more difficult. It means that you choose the best for yourself even if you don’t really want to. Even though it hurts a little to say, “no”, when you know it’s the right decision for yourself.

Sometimes having self-respect can hurt much more than we anticipate. We fear change or disappointing someone else, so we dumb down our decisions to keep others happy. And change…whoa…usually equals at least a little pain.

Self-respect can require making devastatingly tough decisions. It might mean you have to stand up for yourself when you’ve been mistreated or disrespected. It might mean you have to cut off some relationships in your life. These decisions hurt. They don’t make you happy like getting that massage! But sometimes, they are required.

Self-respect is

learning something new

eating better

having the high-risk discussion

sending the email

leaving the relationship

Scary. Uncomfortable. But, you do them because you know you’ll be better for it. Maybe you won’t see the results of the good decision to respect yourself until much later.

But know this – it will be worth the wait.

Make the tough call. Do the thing you know is worth it in the long run even though it’s scary. The pain of change is temporary.

Choose the best for yourself.

15 Comments Add yours

    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post Aditi

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  1. WORD….Self respect based more on sacrifice…

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  2. I never saw the difference between self love and self respect until today. I’ve had to make some difficult choices in the last two years out of gaining my self respect back after I was repeatedly pushed down. I am now seeing how important these decisions were, and I’m so glad I made them. I’m in a new place–a better place– that I wouldn’t be in if I didn’t have respect in myself.

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    1. GS says:

      Self-love is compassion and unconditional acceptance for yourself. It’s taking care of and meeting your own needs and allowing non-judgemental thinking. Its viewing yourself as essentially worthy, good, valuable, and deserving of happiness.

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      1. I love this. And, when I grasped that it’s okay to honor myself and love myself, that changed everything!

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  3. Self love is the greatest

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    1. GS says:

      Absolutely. It means accepting your emotions for what they are and putting your physical, emotional and mental well-being first. So now we know that self-love motivates you to make healthy choices in life. When you hold yourself in high esteem, you’re more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well.

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