You Don’t Have to Sacrifice Yourself

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It is ok to walk away. It is the genuine connections in our lives, the people we feel comfortable being ourselves with that add to our happiness, our wellbeing as people. Sacrificing who you are just to be surrounded with people will only leave you feeling more alone. Don’t be afraid to walk away and find those people that lift you up, that expand your horizons, without sacrificing who you are. You don’t need to be dependent on other people for your happiness. You are in control of your own happiness. You need to dig deep inside and surround yourself with the things you love. Embrace your hobbies, take time to do the things that make you feel alive inside. 

Find the people that share your values and will appreciate you for you. If you are a person who appreciates art, take an art class; if you like to exercise, join a gym or running group; if you like computers or video games, join a club; if you like to read, join a book club; if you like music, go to concerts. In time, you will find the people that see you and love you for who you really are. Don’t sacrifice yourself because you are afraid of the future, or afraid of how it feels to be by yourself. Love yourself, and do what you love. The rest will follow.

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  1. Fidèle says:

    Such a good article! “It’s okay to walk away” This is so genuine. Sometimes all we need is our own space so that we can find ourselves . Loved this article 👏

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you Fidele. It is important for empaths to understand that walking away does not mean that they are giving up on someone. Sometimes, we have to understand that walking away can be the best gift we give to someone, and to ourselves, because it helps for us to learn lessons within boundaries, it helps for us to grow, and vice versa. If we stay in relationships we have outgrown, if we continue to love someone for the convenience or to pacify them, are we really giving them the space to grow themselves? The space to find the kind of love that will genuinely be the right love for them in whatever season, or state, they are in at the moment?

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      1. Fidèle says:

        Yeah, actually!

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  2. Zakia Attia says:

    very boosting post !

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you Zakia. sometimes love does change. We add so much negativity to walking away. When you care deeply you are so worried about hurting someone that you start to feel bad for creating boundaries, for asking for what you need — but that doesn’t serve you, and it doesn’t serve the relationship, because that isn’t healthy. And that is no one’s fault. Someone can be an absolutely incredible person. Someone can be the love of your life for years and they can teach you so much, and grow you so much, and do so damn much for you, and help you in your seasons, and you can still get to a point where you do not see a future with them, or you can get to a point where you need to walk away. That is okay. We walk away for so many reasons, we outgrow people for so many reasons, and it is okay to do so. You have to understand that you are not a bad person for not being able to make things work. You are not a bad person for letting go.

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      1. Zakia Attia says:

        Second you on this, inspiring reply again

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      2. GS says:

        🙏🏼Glad you agree

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  3. Kritika says:

    Exactly! Agree with you. Hope you are having an amazing day.

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    1. GS says:

      Yes Kritika. Have a happy week ahead

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      1. Kritika says:

        Thank you 🙂

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  4. patrycjapi says:

    Omg 😳 so real, I can definitely relate to that.

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    1. GS says:

      Because people rely on you to get things done, you’re used to being there for everybody. And at the very least, you’re used to showing up for them. Even though you may be depressed, you will still get up and go to work. Though you feel a crushing sense of loneliness, you will still throw your best friend’s baby shower. You will not let your own bouts of frustration, loneliness, emotional emptiness, or disappointment get in the way of doing the things that must be done. Meanwhile your own needs go unmet and unacknowledged.

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