Thoughts – Main Source of Our Problems

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Why it is so hard to maintain a continually happy and peaceful mind if we have all this potential for peace and happiness within us?

The answer is because we habitually fail to resist pressure to mislead thoughts that consume our mind and destroy our inner peace. There is no such thing as an intrinsically bad person. Delusions are distorted, deceptive ways of viewing our own self, others and the world around us.

 Anger, for example, corrupts our view of others so that they appear intrinsically bad. However, there is no such thing as an intrinsically bad person. Having attachment, on the other hand, sees its object of desire as intrinsically good, beneficial or absolutely necessary. If we have a strong desire for chocolate cake, then to us that chocolate cake appears intrinsically, irresistibly good. But after the third piece we begin to feel sick, and then it no longer seems so delicious — we may even find it repulsive! This clearly shows that, like all things, chocolate cake itself is neither delicious nor disgusting. Rather it is the deluded mind of attachment that projects all sorts of attractive qualities onto whatever we behold and then relates to them as if those qualities come from the object itself.

 All delusions function in this way, within our mind as well as the minds of others. They project their own distorted version of reality onto the world, and we become convinced that this projection must be true. When delusions arise within us we have lost our grip on reality and cannot see things as they really are. Because our mind is always under the control of, at least, subtle forms of delusion all the time, we should not be surprised at our seemingly never-ending stress, anxiety and confusion. It is as if we are continually chasing mirages, finding only disappointment when they don’t seem to fulfill our desires or pacify our frustrations.

 People who pursue happiness are takers. They take from life as much as possible, in any way that will gratify them, and as soon as possible. When a person who is dependent on instant gratification is not given the pleasure they insist on having, they feel like a baby who is pulled away from their favorite toys. They cry with or without tears. Depending on the age.

So, what does make people happy in the long run? A meaningful life, the author says.

People who have a meaningful life are givers and not takers. At times they may be miserable. Giving and sacrificing are hard work, but in the long run they fulfill. Take parenting as an example. It does not make you happy to have a rebellious teenager, but over time there will be moments of absolute happiness, like when grandchildren arrive. You know the joke: grandchildren are the reward you get for not killing your children.

So, pursuing happiness by seeking immediate rewards is instantly gratifying, but can make you miserable in the long run.

Sometimes things don’t go the way we want them to. Sometimes we feel overwhelm with challenges and difficulties. Out of habit, our normal reaction to these events is to regard the situation itself as the problem

In reality, however, all of our problems arise from our own mind and thoughts. Those who are unfamiliar with their mind, this sounds false, but if we take the time to investigate deeply we will discover this truth for ourselves. When we can respond to life’s difficulties with a positive and peaceful mind, they suddenly seem to melt away into nothing right before our eyes. Indeed, we may even come to view them as exciting challenges for personal and spiritual growth. Problems only really arise when we adopt a negative state of mind in response to a difficult or unexpected situation. Because of this, if we want to free ourselves from all our problems, we must gain control of our mind.

It is true that this modern world continues to discover new knowledge and develop new ways to influence our surroundings. Recent years have especially borne fruit to extraordinary developments. Progress marches on! But if we look carefully, we will find that suffering around the world has not decreased, and there are no fewer problems to be found. One could say, in fact, that even greater and more varied problems exist today than ever before. Clearly, true happiness cannot be attained by ever-increasing control over our external world. Happiness and suffering only exist within the mind, and so their origins cannot to be found outside the mind.

In order to really achieve permanent happiness and freedom from all suffering, we must first achieve a thorough understanding of the mind.

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  1. Nicely penned
    Stay safe healthy wealthy and happy

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you again Kanika

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  2. I have thought of this severally and event told a few people about it. Our thoughts are what determine our perception of our lives. Good thoughts=happy life. Bad thoughts=unhappy life. It definitely is not that simple but you get the point. Overthinking has the power to exaggerate emotions too. That almost always comes with a downside.

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    1. GS says:

      Subjectively, our thoughts come from nowhere: they just pop into our heads, or emerge in the form of words leaving our mouths. … The neuronal patterns that mediate and enable thought and behavior have proximal and distal causes. The proximal causes are the stimuli and circumstances we experience.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  3. E Kariuki says:

    Good points. We are constantly trying to control everyone and everything around us instead of first mastering our thoughts. Thanks for sharing

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  4. moniquekay06 says:

    This is a very insightful post! Thank you

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    1. GS says:

      Thoughts are things. They are powerful. The very thoughts running through your mind can help to manifest the life of your dreams, or draw you closer to your greatest fears. But most people don’t realize the inherent power of their thoughts.

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  5. Love this post! Great insight. Very eye-opening. I often chase happiness but I’m working on speaking meaning and inner peace. I didn’t know the joke about grandkids but it’s funny

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    1. GS says:

      Every Cause has its Effect; every Effect has its Cause; everything happens according to Law; Chance is but a name for Law NOT recognised; there are many planes of causation, but NOTHING escapes the Law. The Universe is Mental ~~ held in the Mind of THE ALL. While ALL is in THE ALL, it is equally true that THE ALL is in ALL. To him who truly understands this truth hath come great knowledge..

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