Let me begin by acknowledging that the internet probably doesn’t need another post about how to be happier. I bet you’ve read eleventy listicles about exercise and journaling and self-care. You’ve read all the happiness tips from The Well-Intentioned Internet People. But, what if you don’t actually know what makes you happy? What if you’ve done all the things that seem to make other people happy and they just don’t do much for you?
Welcome to the club. Most of us have vague ideas of what makes us happy. Maybe we’re reasonably happy on a day-to-day basis but we’ve never really put much thought into where those feelings come from or what, specifically, about an experience is making us happy.
Finding your happiness is an art, not a science but here are few things that you might find helpful :
- Give yourself space to admit what is not making you happy – A lot of times people skip over this part because they want to be positive, don’t find value in it, or perhaps don’t feel like digging through the painful emotions of looking honestly at their lives. But getting soul naked with positivity and your life, beginning with a radically honest assessment of what’s not working, is critical to discover what makes you happy.
- Get to know yourself – Many of us are so focused on figuring out what the world wants form us so we can get outside approval that we don’t take the time to ask ourselves, who are you? what do you value? what are your truest goals and dreams? Not things you think you should want, or that look cool on Instagram, but what does your heart really, truly want?
- Identify the best version of your life right now. So often in personal growth and development, we’re tasked with designing an ideal life or a perfect average day, An ideal life doesn’t exist. SO often people think they know what they want only to create it and feel stuck inside a prison. The reality isn’t what they thought, or what they wanted was based on something other than a heart flat desire.
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