How to Find What Makes You Happy

Let me begin by acknowledging that the internet probably doesn’t need another post about how to be happier. I bet you’ve read eleventy listicles about exercise and journaling and self-care. You’ve read all the happiness tips from The Well-Intentioned Internet People. But, what if you don’t actually know what makes you happy? What if you’ve done all the things that seem to make other people happy and they just don’t do much for you?

Welcome to the club. Most of us have vague ideas of what makes us happy. Maybe we’re reasonably happy on a day-to-day basis but we’ve never really put much thought into where those feelings come from or what, specifically, about an experience is making us happy.

Finding your happiness is an art, not a science but here are few things that you might find helpful :

  • Give yourself space to admit what is not making you happy – A lot of times people skip over this part because they want to be positive, don’t find value in it, or perhaps don’t feel like digging through the painful emotions of looking honestly at their lives. But getting soul naked with positivity and your life, beginning with a radically honest assessment of what’s not working, is critical to discover what makes you happy.
  • Get to know yourself – Many of us are so focused on figuring out what the world wants form us so we can get outside approval that we don’t take the time to ask ourselves, who are you? what do you value? what are your truest goals and dreams? Not things you think you should want, or that look cool on Instagram, but what does your heart really, truly want?
  • Identify the best version of your life right now. So often in personal growth and development, we’re tasked with designing an ideal life or a perfect average day, An ideal life doesn’t exist. SO often people think they know what they want only to create it and feel stuck inside a prison. The reality isn’t what they thought, or what they wanted was based on something other than a heart flat desire.

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Did this post help? Talk to me in the comments section.

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42 Comments Add yours

  1. rhubarbsrowe says:

    Really love the simplicity of this post, makes me feel real good.

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    1. GS says:

      When you are happy, your brain simply works better. Think about how more creative, alert, and engaged you are when in a good mood. When your brain is more present, it creates better critical thinking and innovation in your business.

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  2. the greatvincent says:

    Well…that lady will showly hold my heart in her warm hands and definitely make me happy.

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  3. Dreamer9177 says:

    The most important thing to remember is that being happy is a choice.

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    1. GS says:

      Yes! Many happy people realize happiness is a choice and it’s up to them to intentionally choose it every single day. Happy people are not held hostage by their circumstances and they do not seek happiness in people or possessions. But simply knowing that happiness is a choice is not enough.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing.

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  4. Happiness is inside us and we find it outside

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    1. GS says:

      It’s also very difficult to change everything else how we want it to be, so we feel good, rather than trying to change ourselves. Things are so interdependent that it’s impossible to get them working how we want to. There’s always a surprise lurking around the corner, something we just couldn’t anticipate. The best we can do is to focus on thing that can be changed for sure, like ourselves. So instead of trying to find happiness from outer circumstances, we should look inside ourselves.

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      1. You are right, happiness is all around us, but sometimes we can’t see them. We should live every moment of life as if it were the last moment of life

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      2. GS says:

        Ah yes indeed

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  5. Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet and commented:
    Don’t Miss Reading This Post!!

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog

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      1. Always happy to read and share your post with followers, My Dear!! Hope you are having a great day!
        xoxox 😘💕🌹✨

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  6. I like the different angle you approached this post with, instead of the standard ‘happiness advice’, great stuff!

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    1. GS says:

      Research shows that happiness leads to a wide range of benefits for our performance, health, relationships and more. So, rather than success being the key to happiness, research shows that happiness could in fact be the key to success. Indeed, happiness also brings substantial benefits for society as a whole.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  7. Gratitude is what keeps me happy. Focus on the amazing things you have in your life. Thanks for the article.

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    1. GS says:

      Gratitude promotes optimism and helps us to develop a more positive outlook. It lets us pause for a moment to reflect on something we have in our life right now instead of always striving for more … the next goal, the new dress, the new toy, the new car, or the house renovation. Gratitude is simply cultivating a genuine appreciation for what we already have.

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  8. asa says:

    Living in the moment has been my secret sauce for happiness

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    1. GS says:

      That’s the right place to be. Living in the present moment means no longer worrying about what happened in the past and not fearing what will happen in the future. It means enjoying what’s happening now and living for today. Choosing to live in the past or the future not only robs you of enjoyment today, but it also robs you of truly living.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  9. fabulousread says:

    Really enjoyed the post!

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    1. GS says:

      If you’re a human who is alive, the society you grew up in has Ideas about what happiness looks like. These Ideas have permeated our lives since the moment we could understand shapes and colors; they’ve wormed their way into our soft, sweet subconsciouses.

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  10. 39abii says:

    Really loved the way to presented it.

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    1. GS says:

      Most of us have vague ideas of what makes us happy. Maybe we’re reasonably happy on a day-to-day basis but we’ve never really put much thought into where those feelings come from or what, specifically, about an experience is making us happy. When you can pinpoint what makes you happy, you can add more of it to your life. Simple as that.

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  11. Financial Perception says:

    I like to do some of the things you mentioned, I tend to not watch TV and all the drama to spend time by myself for myself.

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    1. GS says:

      I am so glad to know that this post inspired you in some way. TV should be avoided. It, literally, causes us less satisfaction with life. According to the Journal of Economic Psychology, TV viewers report lower life satisfaction, higher material aspirations, and more anxiety.

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  12. She Writes says:

    This very insightful. People usually struggle finding what makes them happy because they are focused on pleasing others and forgetting to live in accordance with their genuine self. Then, acknowledging things that doesn’t makes us happy is important.

    Thank you so much for this.

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    1. GS says:

      Welcome!! I am glad you liked the post. Pleasing your own self is not about being selfish and egocentric, pleasing yourself consists in always doing those things that resonate with you, and always acting in accordance with your high values, your high standards, and principles. It’s about being true to yourself, it’s about being you under all circumstances, no matter the time of day of the year, no matter if you are in the presence of your mother, your boss, children, friends, or the queen of England.

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      1. She Writes says:

        “always doing those things that resonate with you” this phrase is striking to me.

        This is very beautiful. This really make a great sense and depth. Thank you so much for your beautiful words and insights ✨

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      2. GS says:

        Most welcome personalmusings.

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  13. mahimajalan says:

    This is so heartfelt ♥️♥️

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    1. GS says:

      When you laugh, you release happy hormones called oxytocin and endorphins. These are hormones that uplifts us as we share experiences with others. These are things that make you happy.

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  14. Rupa Rao says:

    happiness can be an eternally moving goal post or the journey in itself….

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    1. GS says:

      We tend to give ourselves more grief than anyone else does. Some people may believe that beating themselves up will help them achieve their goals, but I wonder if they are actually enjoying the journey or trying too hard to get to the end.

      The truth is that happiness comes from moving toward what you want—not from getting it—so the moment you reach a dream, you need to create a new one. This allows your psyche to have something to anticipate, and it creates more serotonin in the brain, which allows you to feel more joy.

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  15. coach4aday says:

    This line is so true “Finding your happiness is an art, not a science” Keep helping us improve our abilities as an artist.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post. The art of happiness is much the same as applying paint to a canvas. The commonality to painting is that you must hold the brush, you must take responsibility for what is painted, you must be in control, and you must love what you do. You are in absolute command of what happiness is because no one else can make you happy unless it comes from within.

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