As the old adage goes, trust is the foundation of every relationship, but that trust can, unfortunately, be broken. Often that’s due to infidelity, and other times it’s a result of one partner doing something that betrays the other partner’s sense of safety and confidence. Trust can also be broken when any kind of expectation in a relationship isn’t met. This often becomes the case because these expectations unfortunately are not always communicated with the other person, and as a result, lines get crossed. Whatever the cause of this compromised sense of confidence in the relationship may be, hope is not lost. You can rebuild trust in a relationship, but doing so does require work from both parties involved.
- Come Clean – Have a conversation with your partner where you tell the full story of the affair. Promise complete honesty now and in the future. Commit to no more secrets. Get everything out on the table, except for sexual details. Agree not to discuss these details for 6 months and if they still seem important then, discuss together with a therapist.
- Break Up & No Contact – Send the affair by sending aa “Break Up” email or letter to the other person. Let your partner read the message and be with you when you send it, so he/she knows the affair is really over. Then no further contact of any kind with affair partner. Change your number and email as appropriate.
- Show The Money – It is really hard to have an affair if you can’t spend money in secret. So no more money secrets. Tell your partner about all of your bank accounts and credit cards. Show them where and how you are spending money. Do not take cash out without talking to your partner. Become completely transparent about your finances.
- Full Access Pass – Give your partner complete access to everything you see to communicate : your phone, voicemail, email. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn and any other accounts you use to communicate. Share all passwords as needed. Become an open book about who you talk to and what you talk about.
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