The Ten Golden Rules Of Letting Go

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Letting go of painful memories and painful thoughts, harmful desires and unhealthy habits is the constructive path in life; it also means stop dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Letting means detachment, the removal of attachments to anything that makes you suffer or unhappy.

In his book “The Universe Has a Plan” Matt Khan describes the 10 Golden Rules of Letting Go, as a way of returning to who we are.

Here are the ten golden rules of letting go:

Golden Rule #1 – “You Have Done Nothing Wrong.”

This is about self-compassion and compassion to others. Forgiveness opens many doors. We learn through our challenges, and he adds, “Once there is nothing that can happen in life to prevent the receiving of self-compassion, or restrict the offering of forgiveness, there is no further wisdom for adversity to teach you.“

Golden Rule #2 – Those Who Blame You are Unhappy

“The people who need forgiveness the most are those people who treat you the worst, because they are the most entrenched in their egos. They are actually begging for emotional healing by lashing out at you… Your emerging light can become so potent within your being that you begin observing the innocent beauty of all as reflections of your awakening soul.”

Golden Rule #3 – Hardships Can Be Fast-tracked Through Moments Of Thankfulness.

Mantra: “Thank you for this gift. Which suggests that everything we encounter is here to move us forward. “If at this moment I had everything I ever wanted, I’d feel exactly the same as I do right now.”

Golden Rule #4 – Feeling Better Helps Everyone heal. Your Happiness Neutralizes Their Pain.

“Feeling bad for other people feeling bad doesn’t help anyone feel better. But, daring to feel good about the uniqueness and innocence of others helps those who feel bad to accelerate their healing.”

Golden Rule #5 – Wellbeing Is A Signal That You Are Ready To Embody Your Potential.

“My breath is the living presence of well-being. The more mindfully I breathe, the more alive I feel.” Don’t underestimate the power of the breath to return us to our most centered and aligned selves.

Golden Rule #6 – The Universe Always Has a Plan

You aren’t sad because you are an unhappy person. You are experiencing sadness as part of your healing journey, to create space for more light to be embodied. You will receive everything you desire at exactly the moment in time it is meant to arrive.

There is a destiny. It is guaranteed, and it also requires your participation. It may include outcomes the ego may desire, but it can only be fulfilled by the light of your soul.

Golden Rule #7 – Everything Changes, But It Only Changes For The Better

“While the ego believes pleasure can exist only beyond the threshold of pain, the soul knows degrees of pain and pleasure often exist in the same exact space… I am able to see that everything changes me for the better, whenever I am still. Breathe in the challenges, and breath out whatever doesn’t serve us.”

Golden Rule #8 – It’s Ok To Dislike

“To use the internal experience of dislike as an opportunity to love and accept the part of myself shut down by the judgment of others… Dislike is the recognition that you are acknowledging something that seems foreign to your core values.”

Golden Rule #9 – Projecting Anger Drains You Of Energy

When dealing with anger we have choices, “Say something or walk away or… deal with anger with creativity – anger is the expression of unexpressed passion. Art/creativity is the outlet for the emotional body to be channeled. The inner artist says, ‘Here are the things I saw, felt, and survived, and here’s how it made me better.’ Art is the inner narrator of your soul’s evolution.”

Golden Rule #10 – Love is Your Liberator

“Once my needs became my hole to fill, I was freed from believing others were acting from any other motivation than the nature of their journey. This produced an inherent level of respect for each and every being, no matter how differently their actions were from mine. The love I required was no longer anyone else’s problem to resolve; as a result, the notion of problem began dissolving from view. I was no longer seeing burden, conflict, pressure, or stress, but a world of innocent hearts hiding from their own love by trying to get it from another…

When love is your liberator, it is only the love that you cultivate within your own heart that sets you free from any pain created by the conduct of others.”

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ~ Steve Maraboli

24 Comments Add yours

  1. Rochdalestu says:

    We must abandon completely the notion of blaming the past for any kind of situation we’re in and reverse our thinking and see that the past always flows back from the present. That now is the creative point of life. So you see it’s like the idea of forgiving somebody, you change the meaning of the past by doing that…Also, watch the flow of music. The melody as its expressed is changed by notes that come later. Just as the meaning of a sentence…you wait till later to find out what the sentence means…The present is always changing the past.

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    1. GS says:

      Excellent quote from Alan W. Watts. Thank you for sharing with us.

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  2. I’m glad that I saw this as I really needed these words. Thank you.

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    1. GS says:

      I am glad you found the post Rebecca. “In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”

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  3. Rochdalestu says:

    We are living in a culture entirely hypnotized by the illusion of time, in which the so-called present moment is felt as nothing but an infinitesimal hairline between a causative past and an absorbingly important future. We have no present. Our consciousness is almost completely preoccupied with memory and expectation. We do not realize that there never was, is, nor will be any other experience than present experience. We are therefore out of touch with reality.

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    1. GS says:

      Beautiful. Thank you for sharing this with us. According to Buddhism, we must let go of attachment and desires if we are to experience happiness. … It actually means you can experience life and love fully and openly without clinging to it for your survival.

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  4. eob2 says:

    ✅ some I already knew, and a few were new. I’ll be reading these. 🙏🏼🙂

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    1. GS says:

      Glad to know. When people hold on, they let fear win: fear of hurt, fear of loss, fear of rejection, and fear of pain. They allow the struggle to prevent them from pursuing any opportunity for change. When you choose to let go, you choose to take control of your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and outcomes.

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      1. eob2 says:

        Exactly. 😊🙏🏼

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      2. GS says:

        Glad you agree.

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  5. The best thing I read today 👍

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you found the post, Umi. Letting go means that you are brave enough to let something or someone walk away from your life. It means that you have the courage to take away from your heart what is killing you on the inside because you want to live again, and this time you want to live for the person you are and the one you want to be.

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  6. douryeh says:

    ‘You have done nothing wrong’ as first golden rule? How about ‘Get a genuine look at yourself; admit your mistake; make a plan to do better from now on; appologize; forgive & move on’… Usually that attitude brings better result to yourself, and to others. Good luck!

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    1. GS says:

      All suggestions are much appreciated and respected. You make a valid point there.

      Like

      1. GS says:

        Much appreciated.

        Like

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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    2. SensiSpirit says:

      Thank you for re-blogging. 🙏🌹

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  7. Jas krish says:

    Letting go doesn’t come easy….but then many a times that’s the only option fir finding a way ahead… The debate what gets priority ; self love or love of possessions / expectations is always on in the mind…. Letting go of unwanted possessions / expectations is what helps..
    Very well articulated ..
    Stay blessed 🙏😇

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you Jas. You have shared some great thoughts

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  8. Thank you 🙏🏻

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post Cheryl.

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