Leaving out comparison, judgements, and assumptions :
- Practice observing judgemental thoughts and statements, saying in your mind, “A judgmental thought arose in my mind.”
- Count judgemental thoughts and statements (by moving objects or pieces of paper from one pocket to another, by clicking a sports counter, or by marking a piece of paper).
- Replace judgemental thoughts and statements with nonjudgmental thoughts and statements.
– Tips for replacing judgement by stating the facts
1. Describe the facts of the event or situation, only what is observed with your senses.
2. Describe the consequences of the event. Keep to the facts.
3. Describe your own feelings in response to the facts (remember, emotions are not judgements). - Observe your judgemental facial expressions, postures, and voice tones (including voice tones in your head).
- Change judgemental expressions, postures, and voice tones.
- Tell someone what you did today non judgementally, or about an event that occurred. Stay very concrete; only relate what you observed directly.
- Write out a nonjudgemental description of an event that prompted an emotion.
- Write out a judgemental blow by blow account of a particularly important episode in your day. Describe both what happened in your environment and what your thoughts, feelings, and actions were. Leave out any analysis of why something happened, or why you thought, felt, or acted as you did. Stick to the facts that you observed.
- Imagine a person you are angry with. Bring to mind what the person has done that has caused so much anger. Try to become that person, seeing life from that person’s point of view. Imagine that person’s feelings, thoughts, fears, hopes, and wishes. Imagine that person’s history and what has happened in his or her history. Imagine understanding that person.
- When judgemental, practice half smiling and/or willing hands.
Sometimes we work with a narrow and small approach. By which we start judging people. We should try to understand the people with a positive approach.
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Yes absolutely
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Hello Garima,
Recently I have 700 friends with me. I want to set build a recognition of my blog.
Can you give me some advice? About how can I build a dissent blog with loyal followers.
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Write consistently
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That’s so hard to do when you fell irritated by it. Replying same comments with same the words. Who cares your work?
But it’s true. Consistency is growth.
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Do not get bogged down by criticism or feel irritated. You are writing for yourself and not for anyone else.
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I’m writing to create something beautiful… something that make you and me happy. I take responsibility of my writing. And I hope I can share my story with the more people, effectively, one day.
I’m unable to find a niche or stick to one. Maybe I will introduce a new idea if it has a potential to benefit majority of the people.
My writing has a purpose. I have to reach some targets with it. I have to use my time wisely because it’s precious.
Thank you so much for your advice. 🙂
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Most welcome
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Useful life-understanding tips
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Yes very important for our own peace of mind
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