Understanding Happiness Part 1

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Happiness has to be understood? Sadly, Yes. We all want to be happy, and there are plenty of people telling us how it can be achieved. The positive psychology movement, indeed, has established happiness as a scientific concept within everyone’s grasp. But is happiness really something we can actively aim for, or is it simply a by-product of how we live our lives more widely?

In this series of post we will try to uncover some common words and situations which bring about the feelings of happiness in people. Let’s look at some words associated with it :

  • Happiness
  • Joy
  • Enjoyment
  • Relief
  • Amusement
  • Enthralment
  • Hope
  • Satisfaction
  • Bliss
  • Enthusiasm
  • Jolliness
  • Thrill
  • Cheerfulness
  • Euphoria
  • Joviality
  • Triumph
  • Contentment
  • Excitement
  • Jubilation
  • Zaniness
  • Delight
  • Exhilaration
  • Optimism
  • Zest
  • Eagerness
  • Gaiety
  • Pleasure
  • Zeal
  • Ecstasy
  • Gladness
  • Pride
  • Elation
  • Glee
  • Rapture

Let’s now look at some prompting events for feeling happiness :

  • Receiving a wonderful surprise
  • Reality exceeding your expectations
  • Getting what you want
  • Getting something you have worked hard for or worried about.
  • Things turning out better than you thought they would.
  • Being successful at a task.
  • Achieviing a desiravle outcome.
  • Receiving esteem, respect, or praise.
  • Receiving love, liking, or affection.
  • Being accepted by others.
  • Belonging somewhere or with someone or a group.
  • Being with or in contact with people who love or like you.
  • Having very pleasurable sensations.
  • Doing things that create or bring to mind pleasurable sensations

As an adult, if you really want to be happy, you will have to dissolve the fears, and fear based beliefs in your mind. As adults you do not have the choice to be innocent like children, but you can be free of fear. To do this you will have to control the opinions and knowledge in your mind instead of letting it control you. To free your self from fear, you will have to become wise. It is through this wisdom, or what I call awareness, that you can live in a vast, unfathomable world, and be happy.

Here are some habits which may be blocking your happiness > https://empress2inspire.blog/2021/01/03/habits-that-block-your-happiness-part-1/

Come back tomorrow and we will talk about changes ans experiences caused by happiness.

Reference : https://i.pinimg.com/originals/b8/4f/3b/b84f3b812b9e6603795447c205ad52c3.jpg

18 Comments Add yours

  1. gpavants says:

    Hi Garima,

    Happiness sometimes comes in the simplistic things, right? Sad on our world that so many things try and steal it away.

    Thanks,

    Gary

    On Wed, May 12, 2021 at 12:33 PM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > GS posted: ” Happiness has to be understood? Sadly, Yes. We all want to be > happy, and there are plenty of people telling us how it can be achieved. > The positive psychology movement, indeed, has established happiness as a > scientific concept within everyone’s grasp. Bu” >

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    1. GS says:

      Yes Gary.

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  2. robinlmoreno says:

    I love this. To find Joy in all things can take some work, but it is achievable. We just need to change our perception of the situation. I love the list of words you provide on happiness. I feel that using that kind of vocabulary and avoiding negativity is beneficial in achieving true JOY.

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    1. GS says:

      The source of happiness is within us. Happiness starts from within us. Happiness often seems to be the result of external factors, but actually, it starts and comes out into the open from inside us. There is inner happiness within everyone, but it is covered by layers of negative thoughts, fears, worries and anxieties.

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  3. Rochdalestu says:

    Alan Watts said that the fact that happiness is associated with relaxation does not mean that it is impossible to be happy in the midst of strenuous effort, for to be truly effective great effort must, as it were, revolve upon a steady unmoving center. The problem before us is how to find such a center of relaxed balance and poise in man’s individual life – a center whose happiness is unshaken by the whirl that goes on around it, which creates happiness because of itself and not because of external events, and this in spite of the fact that it may experience those events in all their aspects and extremes from the highest bliss to the deepest agony.

    Life and death are in conflict only in the mind which creates a war between them out of its own desires and fears. In fact life and death are not opposed but complementary, being the two essential factors of a greater life that is made up of living and dying just as melody is produced by the sounding and silencing of individual notes.

    For man is always bound so long as he depends for his happiness on a partial experience; joy must always give way to sorrow, otherwise it can never be known as joy.

    The elusiveness of all kinds of happiness is common knowledge, for have we not the saying, “Those who search for happiness never find it”? This is especially true of that complete kind of happiness which does not depend on external events, which belongs to the very nature of the individual and remains unaffected by suffering. It persists through both joy and sorrow, being a spiritual undertone which results from the positive and wholehearted acceptance of life in all its aspects. This acceptance, known under many names in the psychology of religion, comes to pass when the individual, the ego, surrenders the conceit of personal freedom and power, realising that it depends absolutely on that inner, unknown universe which is nature in the human soul. It only exists as an ego to fulfill the purpose of that universe—a purpose which, in one sense, it cannot help serving, but which, in another sense, it does not appreciate when labouring under the conceit of personal freedom and self-sufficiency. When, however, that conceit is abandoned an altogether new and more powerful freedom is known—the freedom of union or harmony between man and life. But “freedom,” “union,” “harmony,” “life”—these are vague terms, and the things they signify seem to be as elusive as the terms are vague. To them also applies the old truism that those who search for them do not find them. Such ideas are the commonplaces of popular philosophy and psychology, but in this instance the commonplace is but the familiar entrance to a largely unknown and labyrinthine territory of the spirit. Less than a hair’s breadth divides the self-evident from the subtle, and the danger is that in ignoring something that lies right at our feet we may trip over it through overmuch concentration upon remote parts of the horizon or the heavens.

    The very saying, “Those who search for happiness never find it,” raises a host of complications for it will be asked, “If happiness is not found by searching, how is it found?” to which might be added, “If happiness is found by not-searching, or by searching for something else, is not this merely an indirect way of searching for happiness, as it were by a trick or deceit? Surely the important thing is not the means employed, direct or indirect, but the motive for employing them.” There is still another preliminary question that might be asked on this point: “Would it not be true to say that one who does not search for happiness, either directly or indirectly, already has it? Therefore does not the saying that those who search for it do not find it amount to this: those who have it do not search for it; those who do not have it search for it, and thus cannot find it?” In other words, happiness is something which you either have or haven’t, and if you haven’t there is nothing you can do about it except wait for the Grace of God which is something quite outside your control.

    Whatever the precise answers to these questions, it is generally agreed that happiness cannot be had by any form of direct striving. Like your shadow, the more you chase it, the more it runs away. It is not surprising therefore that in both ancient religions and modern psychology man is advised to relax his self-assertive efforts and acquire a certain passivity of soul, encouraging thereby a state of receptivity or acceptance, which Christianity would describe as easing up the tumult of self-will in order that it may give place to the will of God. It is as if man were to empty his soul in order that the gifts of the spirit might pour in, on the principle that nature abhors a vacuum. But whether it is called the giving up of self, submitting to the will of God, accepting life, releasing the tension of striving for happiness or letting oneself go with the stream of life, the essential principle is one of relaxation.

    “Relaxation” is a word often heard nowadays—advertisers; teachers of dancing, music, swimming, physical culture, riding, drama, and business efficiency; doctors; psychologists; and preachers all use it in their varying subjects, its popularity being increased by the nervous tension of modern life. It may be used to mean anything from reading a mystery story or the secret of a ballerina’s art to the way of life of a sage whose soul is in perfect harmony with the universe. For, like “happiness,” it is a word of many meanings and is used quite as casually, and this is not the only similarity between the two. Relaxation is something just as elusive as happiness; it is something which no amount of self-assertive striving can obtain, for as it is in a certain sense the absence of effort, any effort to achieve it is self-defeating.

    In an altogether odd and apparently mysterious way the whole question of happiness in this sense is far from straightforward. It is unusually complicated because in fact it is unusually simple; its solution lies so close to us and is so self-evident that we have the greatest difficulty in seeing it, and we must complicate it in order to bring it into focus and be able to discuss it at all. This may seem a terrible paradox, but it is said that a paradox is only a truth standing on its head to attract attention. For there are certain truths which have to be stood on their heads before they can be noticed at all; in the ordinary way they are so simple that we fail to perceive them. Our own faces are an example of this. Nothing could be more obvious and self-evident than a man’s own face; but oddly enough he cannot see it at all unless he introduces the complication of a mirror, which shows it to him reversed. The image he sees is his face and yet is not his face, and this is a form of paradox. And here is the reason for all our vagueness and uncertainty concerning the things of the spirit, for if our eyes cannot see themselves, how much less can that something which looks through the eyes see itself.

    Therefore we have to find some way of overcoming the difficulty, some way of understanding the most obvious thing in the world, a thing which is ordinarily overlooked because our thoughts and feelings are moving in much more complicated channels. To see it they have to be brought down to a level of humility, not fearful and not knowing, but having the most direct and childlike openness of mind—“for He hath put down the mighty from their seat, and hath exalted the humble and meek.” It is not surprising, therefore, that these deepest truths of the spirit are often missed by people of the most brilliant and penetrating intellect. This is not to say, however, that they will be any more readily understood by mere lack of intellect. Such insight comes neither with brilliance nor dullness of the mind, for the one is deluded with its own proud glittering and the other just fails to register. To understand such tremendous simplicity one has just to open the eyes of the mind and see; there is no secret about it, for it stands before us in open daylight, as large as life. In the words of the Chinese sage Tao-wu, “If you want to see, see directly into it; but when you try to think about it, it is altogether missed.”

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    1. GS says:

      Wow thank you sharing your thoughts. Beautiful

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      1. Rochdalestu says:

        In short though, I think happiness, love, content etc are just simply words. You can’t gauge how much you love something. The problem is that we have to label everything and then we have to get to a point somewhere and we forget about what we are part of. This is a great travesty as we lose the primary objective in search of something that isn’t there. I’m a believer that if you don’t have to force it and put in needless effort, you have happiness in the moment. Love and life generate effort, but effort can’t generate love or life

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      2. GS says:

        🙏🏼🙏🏼

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  4. Happiness can happen also to those who have not even heard this word, and why would we try to understand it since we cannot force happiness upon us, and some other times we are simply happy just because all parts have fallen into the right order and place? Not because of achievement or work going well, or meeting a goal.
    I believe this word is soooo overused, so worn down that it cannot be any longer associated with that absolutely specific and stunning state of human brain and emotional uplift which will be also very specific for every individual person.
    Some events or people move us, and some don’t, but they are never the same people or events for you and me, for instance. The globalization of what one must like and what one must dislike is what misleads lots of people. Just as chasing the happiness. Since they believe everybody else is so happy (full internet of them!) and they personally cannot achieve that state of emotional elevation, they fall in depression, turn to drugs (swift happiness), other substances and then wonder what is that they’re missing.
    It would be great happiness arrived as soon as one has completed all steps and followed all directions. The problem is whether we are genuinely happy or not, we rather need to isolate these great moments from the destructive surroundings.
    This subject is ancient. The amount which is written about happiness is absurd. Nobody has ever been able to prescribe happiness to anybody or give them a clear definition. I believe happiness has as many faces and features as people who live on Earth.
    It’s great you’re trying to tackle this, and people probably will try to understand what happiness is.
    I know that nobody can be happy 24/7, i have been around long enough; but they can have peace of mind, balance in life, pleasures, joys and satisfaction. Sometimes, that altogether explodes in a moment of happiness.

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    1. GS says:

      Happiness – it’s something we all aim for, along with health, wealth, and success in our endeavours. However, finding happiness in everyday life can be a difficult task. As a much sought-after emotional state, happiness can appear briefly, or be influenced by many other issues in our work and lives, making it difficult to find. Thank you for sharing your thoughts

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  5. SGR (learningthursdays.com) says:

    Nice topic…! I liked the picture you chose for this.. one of a child… children are the most happy – as they know someone has their back! Nice article and comments!

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you! Glad you liked the post.

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    2. GS says:

      A new survey of 53,000 children across 15 countries reveals that children tend to be happy regardless of the context of their lives. … “Children tend to be more optimistic in life,” Elisabeth Backe-Hansen, the Norwegian lead researcher for the Children’s World Survey, told Quartz. Though not surprising, it is reassuring.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  6. Passion says:

    Happiness starts from within. Thanks for this.

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    1. GS says:

      Authentic happiness comes from within. It comes from making wise choices, including choosing to be happy. When our external situation is going well, it might make it easier for us to choose happiness, but it is not the cause of it. You can be happy even when things around you are nothing like you would like them to be.

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