“Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.” — Eckhart Tolle.
I used to be a very firm believer of the idea of fighting. Fighting for what is important to you. Fighting for what or whom you love. Fighting for what you want in your life. For your goals, for your dreams, for your desires. I always believed that what differentiates those people who get what they want and those who don’t, was their willingness to fight. To give everything they have, to prioritize that one thing over everything else.
I still believe that today. However, I learned that this philosophy comes with a caveat sometimes. An exception if you want. Namely that sometimes, it’s not the fighting that will bring you closer to your goals, but more the act of surrendering. That just because you want something really bad, doesn’t mean that you are entitled to get it. No matter how much you think you deserve it or how much you tell yourself that it’s meant to be.
Our view and understanding of the world is far too limited to recognize the absolute truth or to predict our own path. Not always are we able to control our circumstances by using our limited thinking and the structures we have created in our minds. In other words: life is so much bigger than we can possible comprehend and not everything will go the way we want things to go. “Wanting things” is a process that roots in us and that can be completely misaligned with what we are capable of what life has foreseen for us (you might have heard of the quote “life is what happens to you when you are busy planning”).
Your faith that things will be all fine in the end needs to be stronger than your fear of not getting what you want. By surrendering, you not only accept that you have done your very best but you also trust that The Universe will fix it. That you can’t force the right things but that sometimes the right things will come and find you. That there is a bigger power that will ensure that you will be all fine at the end of it all and that if what you wanted in the first place, will happen if it’s aligned with your life’s purpose.