Humour me for a moment… bring to mind an experience from your past where you felt you were wronged. Now, when you look at that experience, was there an action or lack of action made by you that contributed to this perceived wrongful doing? Perhaps you wanted to, but didn’t speak up and say, “I don’t appreciate you speaking to me that way.”
Or, maybe you were testing the waters of trust in your relationship by picking fights or playing hard to get and it blew up in your face.
Or, perhaps your workload/workplace seemed to create more stress for you but you just kept on saying, “It is what it is.” Do you see how it’s possible that YOU were a contributor to your own pain?
As the examples above illustrate, you can see how not speaking up perpetuates negative feelings such as lacking self-worth and value. And why were you testing the waters of your relationship in the first place? Was it because of your own insecurity towards relationships due to past pain and hurt?
And what about the “It is what it is” mentality? Does that contribute to your workload/workplace stress? Are you hesitant to look elsewhere for a job that could give you more time, purpose, and fulfillment? Do you choose certainty in the safety of what you know over the uncertainty that comes with taking risks, being vulnerable, and maybe even getting the life you always dreamed of?
If you dig a little deeper into those past experiences with an objective eye, you just might be able to reveal the source of the ‘shit’ you have buried in you.
It’s tough to face it, I know…I’ve been there too many times to count.
I also know that the pain and suffering you went through may not have been a result of your actions. Some things in life are simply beyond our control.
If that is you, I am deeply sorry that you experienced that trauma in your life. But, you are NOT your trauma! That is something that you experienced, it’s not who you truly are.
Whether it be a nuisance of life that pissed you off, a heartbreaking experience, or a life changing trauma, the next step is to face it, forgive yourself, and OWN it!
I know it’s messy and even painful.
However, once you own your shit, you can reclaim your personal power and take responsibility for what occurs in your life. By taking steps to be more honest with yourself, practice transparency, and give yourself courageous permission to be vulnerable, the doors of greatness will open with ease.
You already know that things aren’t always perfect, but by showing up in your truth, this is how life at its best can unfold. When you own your shit with confidence, you have the ability to inspire others, and be of service by providing support and guidance from your own experiences. Heck, maybe you can encourage others to embrace their own shit and change their lives for the better too.
You are a warrior and in order to be the best version of you, OWN YOUR SHIT!!!!!!
Be Inspired..!! 
Loved it.. reblogging it.. thanks for writing
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Most welcome
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Thank you for sharing
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Can ask you a question
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How did you grow so fast….
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I didn’t. I have been at it for 5 days. The only thing that has worked for me in writing consistently. 🙂
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I am really curious to know about the time you spend on blogging.. because there is a plethora of content that you share on a daily basis and it needs tremendous effort to do the same
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Hahahhahaha about two hours
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Could help me please….
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Thank you for sharing
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I simply love the power in the words of this post. Thank you very much 🙂
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Most welcome Dew. Glad you liked the post. We all have skeletons in our closet, things about ourselves we wish we never did, never happened. We all have strengths, weakness, moments in life of great darkness and great light. We would love to focus all of our attention, and the attention of others, on those moments of light, on our strengths. But unfortunately, that’s not reality. Reality is beautiful and ugly all wrapped into one. We can’t have the good without the bad, the strength without the weakness, the light without the dark. We must own our shit because there’s no getting rid of it or living life without it, and if we don’t own it….it will own us!
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thanks again for taking time to leave such a lovely detailed response. I agree with all you have stated here. If we all just learnt and owned our own shit, this world would be a better place. Though I had done this back in time, I just needed a reminder. And the timing was perfect. Thank you for the very useful raw things you post. I have been finding it very helpful, sometimes I see my ugly side when I read them but it helps me to know myself better so I can be a better person. Take care and stay safe.
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Dew, don’t get worried when you see the ugly side, it is painful I know..I teared while writing this post myself but I will be gentle with myself and forgive myself for all negative feelings I have about me
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Wow. to hear that you teared while writing this now makes me understand how I felt while reading it. I read it during a break from my work and I did tear too. I sensed it very deeply in my heart. I have been dealing with owning my shit Vs being manipulated. Its a tough one but I learn so much from your blog. thank you. Keep up the good work. God Bless..
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Thank you Dew. God bless you too
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Nice thought about owning your actions and facing the consequences involved.. you have basically spoken about one of the crucial aspect of karma yoga of bhagavat Gita..
but the major problem I see in this is the leap of faith to tackle the same or facing the fear of not falling into the shit again is the blockage that people have which makes us to fall in the same trap again and again
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The leap of faith involves having a basic belief in yourself and a fundamental trust in the vision of who, what, and where you want to be in the future. The leap of faith involves the belief that good things will happen when you choose to change your life. If you are not there yet then you may know the areas you have to work on. Still a little bit of risk taking capacity is essential
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Yass!!! *fist pump*
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*fist pump*
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Thank you for sharing
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