We all wear our scars. We have all faced difficulties in our lives, engaged in a battle with what is raging inside of us, a battle that no one else knows about.
We’ve all been afraid to tell others of our fight out of some misplaced sense of shame, or because of the fear of being laughed at.
Or simply because we thought: No one cares.
There are a lot of people who choose to suffer in silence rather than reach out for help because of one or all of those reasons. The consequences of suffering in silence are unhappiness, depression, or in the worst cases, suicide.
Problems are the most human thing about being a human, and they are one of the few things that each and every one of us has in common. Every single one of us is suffering in our own way, and being open about such deep personal topics brings about a real emotional human connection, showing that we are all the same.
We are all human beings fighting a battle regardless of our more obvious differences such as skin color, personality, nationality, and so on. Everyone is engaged in the battle of living.
Happiness is largely about being socially connected, yet we cannot be connected if we keep on being so hard and unforgiving towards ourselves and on the scars we wear inside.
We need to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and to speak openly about our inner wounds and scars. The path to healing begins with the acceptance of them, and a large part of that acceptance is achieved when you are able to speak with someone about them.
That is the art of vulnerability.
What has happened in your past cannot be undone, altered or changed in any way. Of course, you can choose to go on and keep hiding those scars that are inside you, keeping the shame and vulnerability hidden from the world and everyone else.
But by doing that, you miss out on the chance of your own personal healing, of forming new and rewarding emotional connections and also the chance to help someone else with your story.