Learn From Your Failures


Most of us are pretty afraid of failure. Not that it’s ever come second nature to want to embrace our faults with gusto, but in our modern age – a time filled with PR spins and calculated retorts – it’s pretty rare to hear someone simply admit, “Yes. That happened. I failed.”

Even if you’re not starting over because of a failure you personally made, chances are it feels so devastating because you’re telling yourself that you’ve failed regardless. If you can’t break free from that cycle of thought, then engage it instead. Dive right in and own how you’ve (seemingly or otherwise) failed. Feel it. Then… realize you’re still standing. That ownership of failure doesn’t have to break you; learn from what went wrong and see “failure” as valuable knowledge that you wouldn’t have gained otherwise.

Maybe you can now recognize your boundaries more clearly. Maybe now you’ll know how to better safeguard in certain business situations. Maybe now you’ll be aware of deeper needs that you were previously blind to. Whatever the “lesson” is, learning is never bad. Even if we’re someone who hated school, we don’t need to carry that mentality into adulthood.

Even if you’re not starting over because of a failure you personally made, chances are it feels so devastating because you’re telling yourself that you’ve failed regardless.

Maturity is learning how to bend where youth digs its heels in.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  1. KS says:

    Absolutely! If you don’t make mistakes how do you learn? And if anyone were to say they never mess up, I would call them a liar, bc we all mess up. Some of us just own our mistakes. That’s how my husband and I personally are able to work so well at our jobs, by making mistakes, and then working on them. However with that being said, I’ve seen a few failures in our culture. For instance, (at my day job that I’ve held for 9 yrs) if either doctor doesn’t like the way any of the assistants performs a particular task, then the doctor just does it himself or has the other dr do it. Without bringing it to the assistant’s attention. So how do I know? Well, this epiphany came to me a couple weeks ago after asking the doctor I work with directly. He needed something done, but he had to leave, so he wanted me to get the other doctor to do the task. The other doctor had his own patients, and the work falls under things I can legally do. So I ended up doing the work, my dr was pleased, and now he comes to me for those tasks. But my point is, I learned what I know from the dr I first worked for, 24 yrs ago. And the whole thing could’ve been a teaching moment. My boss could ask the other dr to teach the assistants to do tasks the way he does them. They’ll never learn or know they’re doing something wrong.

    Another failing is when children make mistakes and parents apologize for them. Or worse, say nothing, but then don’t even have their children own their mistakes. Example: we watched 2 girls, 8 and 11, while their mom and her boyfriend went to the beach. It was stressful. The girls bickered the entire time, and the 11 yr old stole from us. Jewelry and money mostly. We didn’t know that she stole from us, though I wasn’t surprised, (bc she kept going in my room and taking my shoes, or going into my 18 yr old’s room and taking clothes.) The mom called the day after she picked her kids up and asked us if we gave her 11 yr old money and jewelry. I was at work when mom brought the stuff back. Her daughters were with her, but no one apologized. I couldn’t believe it.

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    1. GS says:

      Wow that’s quite an amazing journey. Thank you for sharing

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