There’s no easy way to start over. Whether after a relationship, the end of a career, an unexpected move, or anytime we find ourselves in a situation we haven’t prepared for, to buckle under the weight of the blow can feel like our only option.
That’s okay. To a certain extent, we shouldn’t hold back in our emotional range. It can be healthy and necessary to give ourselves room to process something in real-time exactly how we are. If we don’t, then we run the risk of masking pain or avoiding feelings only to have them manifest later on – and cause far worse damage.
But this isn’t a post about emotional processing. This is for when you reach that moment, when the tears have stopped and you’ve taken maybe your first deep breath in months, and you’re still. You’re quiet. You’re wondering how on earth something good can come next and if you should even bother hoping for it.
In a word? Yes. Yes, you should.
Here’s a secret: We always have a choice. Even when it seems like there’s literally no way ever no how it’s absolutely impossible that we could do anything to change our circumstances, we can. We can rewrite the script of the mind that says “life is happening to us” and instead say, “but power also lies within us.”