If it’s Coming From You Don’t Believe It

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The most difficult to deal with, is the negative opinion which comes from yourself. I’m not good enough. Whatever I do, it’s not enough. I will never be as good as it takes. Sounds familiar? That’s my “favorite”, so to speak. Or at least the one that’s the most difficult to deal with, for me.

I tried many antidotes. Believe me, many antidotes. Some of them worked better than others, but what I found to work all the time is: do not believe what you think. It sounds really counterintuitive, and yes, it really is.

Because, on one side, you trust your mind to give you accurate information about your day to day life, and on the other side, you decide not to trust it on this one. How come?

The trick is to understand that what your mind is telling you about yourself is not real. It’s just a story. You are who you are. But on top of who you are, on top of your existence, you create a story. You’re the main character of this story. And you tell this story both to yourself and to the world.

What you actually do – how you live, your actions, your decisions – is one thing, but what you think and say, well, that’s a completely different thing and it has to do with your memories, your upbringing, your intelligence (or the lack of it), and a million of other factors. It’s just a script. A movie you’re watching from the back of your consciousness. And the biggest difference between this movie and the regular movies you see on Sundays at the cinema is that you can change this one. You don’t have to follow the script. You are the director and you can change your mind in the middle of the movie.

So, if it’s a sad movie, if the main character is powerless and depressed and sad, remember, you don’t have to believe it. You can just keep eating your popcorn, watch the movie, but don’t believe it. It’s just a movie. And you can change it anytime you want to.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  1. Florin says:

    Thank you. You raise an important point here, one that is sometimes overlooked when we think about healing, getting back to ourselves, reconnecting, or whatever else we like to call it. What we call “ourselves” is actually a multitude. A multitude of voices, of scripts, and of impulses. What we often tend to do is identify with one of these voices or scripts. Let them run the show, so to speak. So indeed, the first step is to identify them as what they are – characters in a play, not the play itself and not the director of that play. It’s easier said than done :).

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    1. GS says:

      Great line of thought Florin. Put simply, when you’re enjoying yourself, you’re more likely to do great work, keep at it, and improve, giving things time to take shape and grow. With blogging, in particular, it takes time to find your voice and grow an audience. When you listen to yourself, you live your values and pursue your dreams. This is one of the most effective strategies for reducing stress and increasing personal happiness.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog.

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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