Trust Your Emotions

Don’t underestimate your emotions. Or overestimate them. Your emotions are your feedback system and for that they are very important. Trying to ignore your emotions is like depriving yourself from lights in a car running in the middle of the night.

We’re equipped with this fantastic set of tools called emotions, yet we chose not to use them. By fear of “breaking” it or just by lack of trust. Emotions are the most sensitive tool for assessing our path.

Positive emotions: we’re on the good track, negative emotions: there’s something we should work on. You may chose how to express your emotions if you want, but not trusting them would be simply stupid.

Look into your heart first. And then, if everything is fine there, bring everything in your mind for some adjustments.

How To Trust Your Emotions Without Getting Emotional

Fear, joy, sadness, exhilaration, all these are emotions. Feelings. We all know how to express them, yet we can have quite a hard time explaining what they are.

At their core, emotions are a feedback mechanism. Their main function is to close the “loop” in our interaction with the world. Every time we finish an interaction, we feel something. Emotions are directly linked to what we do (or think, if you want to put it that way).

Our capacity to discriminate between things made us separate those feelings into “good” (or pleasant) and “bad” (or unpleasant) feelings. But regardless of their polarity, feelings are always arising as a consequence of some interaction.

I think emotions are fundamental not only for survival, but also for evolution. As long as we get correct, meaningful feedback for our actions, we can calibrate. We can adjust and change course if the feedback we get is not relevant for our journey. Emotions are our internal radar.

I know that defining emotions as a feedback mechanism can be a little bit unusual. But the easiest way to understand this is to observe how children are behaving. Children aren’t corrupted, yet, their internal feedback system is still working. When a child does something good, when a child succeed in assembling a new toy, for instance, you will notice. That child will have very positive emotions. And when an interaction is not good for that same child, when he hurts himself, for instance, you will also notice. That child will most likely cry a lot.

As we grow over, leaving the childhood behind and blending into adulthood, this feedback mechanism is damaged. Instead of continuing to give accurate information, instead of acting like a compass for our life, it literally ruins it.

And not because the emotions are corrupted, no, they don’t change. Joy is still joy and sadness is still sadness.

What changes is us. Our choices. And the one and only problem is our attachment to the  “pleasant” emotions and the subsequent drive to recreate them. We get so attached to positive emotions that we want to experience them more and more, without caring about the actions that generated those feelings. We want to experience them just because we feel nice. Because they taste good, so to speak.

If you strive to recreate the pleasure you get from that emotions, only for the sake of the pleasure, you’re not taking any interest in what created that emotion. You just want to feel it. The source, the action that sits behind that emotion becomes irrelevant.

And when you start to chase only positive emotions, you’re destroying the “feedback giving” quality. You’re corrupting your emotional system, you are literally “gaming the system”, engaging only in pleasurable activities.

And that is literally putting you out of sync. Your feedback mechanism is screwed, you’re not getting accurate information about the effect of your actions. In other, more common words, you feel lost. Yes, I know, you’ve all been there, more than once, probably.

Confusion, lack of direction, fuzziness, these are symptoms of a problem in your “main control room”. If you’re a vessel and your emotions are your radar, a state of confusion equals a serious damage of your radar system. You lost your way.

And the radar is damaged because you didn’t use it correctly. You used that radar just to have fun, or to feel nice, you didn’t use it as a navigation tool. And now you don’t know where you are anymore.

The good news is that, as opposed to many real life radar problems, this emotional system can be fixed. It’s hard, but doable.

As you may already have guessed, all you have to do is to lose the attachment. To give up this quest for pleasure. To understand that your emotions aren’t here as an endless source for pleasure, but to make you understand if you’re on the right path.

When you do that, when you’re ready to experiment negative emotions as well, (if what you did generated them, of course), your radar will be fixed. Yes, the “negative” emotions are not pleasant.

But at least you’ll know exactly where you are and how you can get out of there.


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13 Comments Add yours

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

      Liked by 2 people

      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing


  1. Oh yeah, it’s important to listen to our body and mind, because they know things we don’t, and tend to manifest themselves in the form of emotions. Thanks for this post!

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    1. GS says:

      Everyone has a natural ability to know if something is not right in any given situation. The problem is, over time you may have pushed down those feelings as wrong or even crazy. You meet a new person and for no known reason you feel like something is off. You talk to someone and believe they are lying. While you may not want to react on these instances that arenít cause for immediate danger, keep an open mind and keep your eyes open. Chances are you’ll find out that you’re right more than you’re wrong.


  2. Beautiful piece!♥️

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    1. GS says:

      Trust isn’t something that we give freely and openly to others all the time. It’s something that takes time to build between people and it takes a lot of shared experience and proof that the person you’re putting your trust in is someone you can rely on. It doesn’t matter who this person is to you, or how they play a part in your life. But when you trust them, it shows that they matter a lot to you. Like… A LOT. Fortunately or unfortunately, we don’t run around giving out trust like it’s candy on Halloween. That would be nice (imagine how cute that world would be!) but it just doesn’t happen. We’re raised with a healthy scepticism of others to keep ourselves safe, and if we’ve been burned in the past, we might not trust as easily as we used to. As we grow and get more life experiences under our belts, the more we learn to put our trust in the few people we know will always be there when we need them. And because the feeling of trust is a kind of rarity, it makes this emotion all the more special when you feel it. It’s a sign of true love and loyalty. Ahh, this is so mushy and cute! We want to be more sweet and adorable, so let’s get deeper into what feeling trust is all about!


  3. I love this. A great reminder to listen to your heart.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post. A second rule of thumb is, “know thyself.” Feelings provide us with signals for what is going on in the world. When these signals are accurate, we can trust our feelings; when feelings are not proper signals, we cannot trust them. For example, we should have scruples when we do something wrong.


  4. Deb says:

    Emotions are an integral part of us. Our emotions are the major elements that define us as humans. In this modern world, there is no value for emotions but it should be kept in mind that emotional activity is very important for character development.


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    1. GS says:

      True Deb. Emotions help us to communicate with others, such as when we feel sad and need some help. They also can help us to act quickly in important situations. For example, when you’re about to cross the street and see a car coming quickly, fear gets you to jump back onto the curb.


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