Don’t Give Up Because Of Criticism

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Just because someone says something to you that is discouraging you should never allow this to cause you to give up. Comments can be very destructive at times, and when someone says something negative this can cause you to feel like a failure or make you want to just give up, but this is the wrong move to make. Instead of viewing the comment as a put down why not use it as motivation, giving you the reason needed to push even harder and show the person making the comment what you are truly capable of. Some people have a negative outlook on life, and they seem incapable of being positive or seeing the true potential that others have. If you simply give up then you will never realize your dreams or reach your goals, all because someone had something negative to say.

If someone is critical of something that you do consider the reason for this. Is the person offering constructive criticism in order to help you or are they just being negative? In either case the solution is to work harder to accomplish what you are trying to do, not giving up. Quitters never win in life, but those who persevere against even the greatest odds and push harder show the true capability of the human spirit. Through history mankind has shown determination when all seems lost, and giving up is never an option as long as you can continue. View failure as an opportunity to do better next time, not a reason to quit, and accept negative comments as a motivator to excel. If you take the easy way out and give up then you will never know what you may be capable of.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing.

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  1. Stacy says:

    “motivator to excel” 😊

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    1. GS says:

      Taking things personally is a fear response that happens when you perceive situations as threatening to your ego or identity. If you know you’ll be encountering a situation that’ll trigger your insecurities—say a high-stakes client meeting where you’re expected to perform—structure your schedule for success. Plan ‘in-process time,’ time that’s blocked off for reflection to help you avoid reactive behavior and thought traps like taking things too seriously. In the moment when you get tough feedback you can say, ‘I appreciate hearing your concerns. I’d like to take some time to collect my thoughts so that I can respond.’ Then, use your built-in process time (a walk outside is always a good idea) to calm your mind

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    1. GS says:

      One of my favorite quotes is ‘Take criticism seriously, but not personally.’ Oftentimes we have a quick, emotional reaction to feedback from colleagues, and that makes the situation worse. I would encourage you to pause for a minute and think if there’s anything you can learn from what they’re saying. If there is, use the feedback to your advantage. If not, don’t give it another thought.

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  2. Nick Faber says:

    Love the call to action! And you’re right, not all criticism is equal. The places where people judge and criticize others most are in areas they lack themselves. It comes from those who lack the courage to try, to sit idle and throw stones at anyone that believes differently. If their criticism is motivated by their envy, we should choose not to listen.

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    1. GS says:

      When someone provides you with tough feedback, if a project isn’t received with the enthusiasm you expected, or your review didn’t go as planned, you should take the opportunity to get curious and view the situation as ‘good friction.’ In fact, you should seek this friction out whenever you can. Feedback, even that which you don’t agree with or didn’t invite, is where growth, development, and breakthroughs happen. Instead of taking something personally, ask yourself what you can learn from the situation. Don’t forget that diamonds are formed under pressure. Their beauty comes from friction. This can be the same for you in your position and career.

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  3. True in life there is always light at the end of the turnnal..💪

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    1. GS says:

      If there’s a grain of truth in the criticism, take that part seriously. But once the critic turns towards the personal, that’s your cue to ignore everything they have to say. Seriously. Brian Vazsily puts it more bluntly: “When a person is in the business of destructively criticizing you, the ONLY thing you can do is let them go. Shut them off. Detach. Stop listening.”

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  4. Winners are not quitters.sme times we have to get hold on whatever we r going thru till we make it.life is made for strugglers if yue do not struggle then yue cannot make it.

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    1. GS says:

      Don’t doubt your ability to identify it. A recent Inc article had this to say about destructive criticism: “Whether criticism or feedback is destructive or constructive is entirely up to you. If you use it to learn something about yourself or the other person, it’s constructive. If you beat yourself over the head with it, it’s destructive.” I couldn’t disagree more with this statement. Sure, some people are their worst internal critics and might perceive constructive criticism as an attack, or amplify it to the point where it has the same effect as one. But not all criticism is equal, or objective for that matter. It’s sad but true: people aren’t always acting in good faith when they criticize coworkers. Sometimes there are ulterior motives at play: a personal vendetta, jockeying for position or recognition, or maybe they just had a bad day that day.

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  5. gpavants says:

    Garima,

    If we look at this as a push or nudge forward, to improve on what we do, then it can be an opportunity for everyone to grow.

    Thanks as always,

    Gary

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    1. GS says:

      Criticism is also the study, evaluation, and interpretation of literature, artwork, film, and social trends. The goal is to understand the possible meanings of cultural phenomena, and the context in which they take shape.

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      1. gpavants says:

        Break it down, learn about it, appreciate it. If we took that definition towards our “detractors” we might see it as a blessing not a blotch.

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      2. GS says:

        Absolutely Gary. “When criticized, consider the source.” –Unknown

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing.

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  6. I just finished reading a post with details about award-winning authors who faced rejection and overcome it. There are examples everywhere, and we can add our own name and accomplishments to such a list.

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    1. GS says:

      “Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.” –Zig Ziglar

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  7. For the most part, the reason criticism bothers us is because we believe that we aren’t good enough. Once we work on our self esteem and self confidence, criticism would affect us in a much more productive manner.
    Great post 👍

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    1. GS says:

      Nobody likes being criticized. But how you handle it makes all the difference. If you lock up and become defensive, you’re likely to waste a lot of time feeling bad–and repeating the same behavior that was a problem to begin with. But if you can learn to take it in stride, with some genuine reflection on how you can use it as a basis for improvement, you can come to realize that criticism can actually be a gift.

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      1. Very well said. Something that needs to be thought about, for sure.

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      2. GS says:

        I am glad my words helped.

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