Everything we do in life is a choice — most of us realize that. Everything we don’t do is also a choice. Every day we choose to do the same things that hardly move us closer to the real-life we want.
If the quality of our lives is shaped by the choices we make, and those we don’t make, then the secret of making wise choices is to live by core principles. A lot has been written about the principles for a meaningful and happy life for centuries. In his book, Ray Dalio, billionaire investor, hedge fund manager, philanthropist said, “Principles are fundamental truths that serve as the foundations for behaviour that gets you what you want out of life. They can be applied again and again in similar situations to help you achieve your goals.”
Here are a few basic tenets of life :
- You will hurt people. Sometimes intentionally, sometimes without meaning to, but you will hurt people. It doesn’t make you a bas person, but learn to accept that you may be a villain in someone else’s book.
- Learn to apologise. Learn to mean your apologies. Learn to say them with sympathy. Apologies are not about your conscience, or about your problems, they are about someone else, understand that. Understand that words can’t undo deeds, they do not heal. Do not demand forgiveness, work for it. Accept responsibility, do not shy away from it. But never, ever, apologise to appease someone. It is a betrayal of yourself, as much as it’s betrayal of them.
- Own your body. Own the softness of your tummy. Love your legs even when they’re hairy. Look at your face without makeup and find things to love, the yes of the survivor and the lips that speak wonders and those cheeks that flush when you laugh. Love the parts that jiggle and the parts that are firm. Love all of you.