It’s perfectly normal to have times when you feel more or less in love with your partner. Yet, it’s painful to have lulls in a relationship that leave you feeling hopeless or questioning its future. At these times, even if you have lists of issues you know are causing problems with your partner, it can still somehow be hard to pinpoint why you lost the loving feelings that once overcame you. You may still “love” the person. You may still want it to work with him or her. But you just can’t seem to access that free flow of fondness, that ease of give and take, that made you light up and look forward to each day you’d spend together.
Here are few ways to get back to being in love :
- If you’re hanging onto resentment, search for forgiveness. You’re the one who will suffer the most from bitterness.
- If you’ve ignored your relationship, it badly needs your attention. Now. In the present. Not later. Not after the kids are gone.
- If you’re not happy with your own life, work on self esteem. Don’t allow yourself to involve someone else or compare yourself to others on social media.
- If you don’t touch each other, literally, know it will be awkward at first. Talk with your partner about reinitiating touch, slowly but with intention.
- If you haven’t laughed in a long time, find the lighter side of life, and share. Don’t forget you need to play together to stay happily together.
- If the two of you are passing ships in the night, know it’s vital to feel partnered, to have at least one common goal that interests both of you.
- If you’re focused on what’s not there any more, you’ll miss what is there, the deeper understanding and value of years together.
Most of the steps presented here are easier said than done for one fundamental reason. Staying in love means staying close to feelings — all feelings. It’s when you are in real love that you can experience real loss. Hurt exists. Joy comes with sadness, and it’s sometimes easier to live at a distracting distance than to allow yourself to go all in. Falling back in love isn’t a passive tumble into the past, but a leap of faith you actively take and continue to take every day you choose to be together.
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