Ways to Get Back to Being In Love

It’s perfectly normal to have times when you feel more or less in love with your partner. Yet, it’s painful to have lulls in a relationship that leave you feeling hopeless or questioning its future. At these times, even if you have lists of issues you know are causing problems with your partner, it can still somehow be hard to pinpoint why you lost the loving feelings that once overcame you. You may still “love” the person. You may still want it to work with him or her. But you just can’t seem to access that free flow of fondness, that ease of give and take, that made you light up and look forward to each day you’d spend together.

Here are few ways to get back to being in love :

  • If you’re hanging onto resentment, search for forgiveness. You’re the one who will suffer the most from bitterness.
  • If you’ve ignored your relationship, it badly needs your attention. Now. In the present. Not later. Not after the kids are gone.
  • If you’re not happy with your own life, work on self esteem. Don’t allow yourself to involve someone else or compare yourself to others on social media.
  • If you don’t touch each other, literally, know it will be awkward at first. Talk with your partner about reinitiating touch, slowly but with intention.
  • If you haven’t laughed in a long time, find the lighter side of life, and share. Don’t forget you need to play together to stay happily together.
  • If the two of you are passing ships in the night, know it’s vital to feel partnered, to have at least one common goal that interests both of you.
  • If you’re focused on what’s not there any more, you’ll miss what is there, the deeper understanding and value of years together.

Most of the steps presented here are easier said than done for one fundamental reason. Staying in love means staying close to feelings — all feelings. It’s when you are in real love that you can experience real loss. Hurt exists. Joy comes with sadness, and it’s sometimes easier to live at a distracting distance than to allow yourself to go all in. Falling back in love isn’t a passive tumble into the past, but a leap of faith you actively take and continue to take every day you choose to be together.

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26 Comments Add yours

  1. Beautiful to read, thank you. Also igniting sexuality is important in relationships to get the flame burning. ❣🙏

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    1. GS says:

      Good point Amber. Couples can ignite and nurture their relationships by learning new tools that increase their desire, chemistry and intimacy .

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      1. Exactly. Tantric healing is a beautiful tool couples can use. Maybe a post idea. ❣

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      2. GS says:

        Yes a good post idea 😉

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  2. gpavants says:

    Hi Garima,

    This is perfect for COVID. Every relationship goes through ups and downs, but do we take the time to repair?

    Thanks,

    Gary

    On Tue, Dec 22, 2020 at 10:31 AM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > GS posted: ” It’s perfectly normal to have times when you feel more or > less in love with your partner. Yet, it’s painful to have lulls in a > relationship that leave you feeling hopeless or questioning its future. At > these times, even if you have lists of issues you kn” >

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    1. GS says:

      Yes Gary. It’s possible to rebuild a relationship after a breach of trust. Whether it’s worth it depends on your relationship needs and whether you feel it’s possible to trust your partner again. If you do decide to try repairing things, be prepared for things to take some time.

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      1. gpavants says:

        Time is important and how people grow.

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      2. GS says:

        Yes agreed.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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  3. Yes, I have never fallen in love.

    But- falling back in love when problems happen. Can’t how you get back really depend on the person

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    1. GS says:

      Hope you never fall out of love 🙂

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you !! Merry Christmas

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      1. Always a pleasure to read and share your posts, My Dear! Happy Holidays!
        xoxox 😊💕🎁🌹✨

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  4. I kinda needed this at this moment, thanks for posting 🙋🏻‍♂️🙏🏻

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    1. GS says:

      You Can Totally Fall Back In Love With Your Partner. But losing the luster doesn’t mean you’re destined for misery—you can (CAN) fall back in love again. Think about it: When two people first get together, they put a lot of effort and energy into making their partner happy and their twosome flourish.

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      1. Oh I’m totally in love with my wife! No worries there thanks ❤️🙋🏻‍♂️

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      2. GS says:

        Oh yes sure..sorry if my words indicated otherwise

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post. It’s truly possible to take a turn toward getting back the love you once shared with another person. The short answer to the question of whether we can stop ourselves from falling out of love is yes. Staying in love is possible, but like most good things in life, it usually takes some effort.

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      1. GS says:

        🙏🏼🙏🏼

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