Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our first topic is focused on « Self Love. » Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!
Learning to Stop Judging Yourself and Others
We all judge ourselves. We don’t even realise how hard we are on ourselves. Judging oneself and others affects our mindset and thoughts to a large extent.
Harsh judgments will poison your life. It is a vicious cycle that was learned. When we judge other people we also judge ourselves in the same way. If you have a negative perception of yourself, it is probably because someone did that to you. When we were born on planet earth we never thought anything bad about ourselves. We never judged anyone or anything. Because judging is so ingrained in all of us since childhood, it is highly unlikely that we will get over it but what we can do is become consciously aware of it, work through it and with it so that it does not hold us back or make us a mean person.
Here are some ways in which we can start becoming aware of that little dictator who is trying to control your life inside of you and start learn to letting it go :
- Forgiveness – First it is important to forgive yourself. You must understand what you are feeling, doing and have learned. The quicker you accept your programming, the quicker you start healing. Look for danger signs and red flags for what you attract in your life. Being critical is a part of your history and you are drawn to what you are familiar with. So forgive yourself because you didn’t know better then. Breathe in deeply and breathe out and let go. Repeat it again till the time you feel lighter.
- Write It Down – Take 30 minutes to write down or just say out loud all the judgments you have for yourself. For example saying things like I am lazy, not good enough, fat, stupid, there are so many things. Also use this time to write down or say out loud all the judgements you have made for other people. Everytime you hear yourself saying something negative or judgments about anything, take a note to reflect on it later. This list should be lengthy, so don’t shy away. Write down even positive judgements. You will start to see some patterns on why you make judgements.
- Allowance – Allow yourself to feel the judgment that you are having because it is a human thing. Just like negative thinking we have to break the cycle pattern of judgement. When we judge ourselves and we are not aware of it, we act out of it like we will have a tantrum. Now as we are learning to be aware of our judgement, we then allow it to not let us control ourselves. By feeling it emotionally and physically we can then ask ourselves if we want to hold on or let go of this judgment. Do what feels right for no, no pressure..or no judge…oops!
- De-construct Judgement – If someone has judged you or you have judged someone hard and that has affected you a lot, remember it’s just an opinion, it is not an end all. Know that when someone is judging you, it speaks more about how they judge themselves than how they are judging you. Judgement is a way to control lives either ours or others. Everyone is chasing a self made ideal. People have rigid expectations. Get over it, let that go. You are enough. Pray for the person to be well and send some healing vibes to them.
Recognising self judgement is one thing but letting it go is a much harder task, I understand that. I am barely even trying to do that myself. So just again think of letting go as pre-emptive forgiveness of self and others. Instead of suppressing negative emotions and fester, let it go.