Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our first topic is focused on « Self Love. » Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!
Learning to Stop Judging Yourself and Others
We all judge ourselves. We don’t even realise how hard we are on ourselves. Judging oneself and others affects our mindset and thoughts to a large extent.
Harsh judgments will poison your life. It is a vicious cycle that was learned. When we judge other people we also judge ourselves in the same way. If you have a negative perception of yourself, it is probably because someone did that to you. When we were born on planet earth we never thought anything bad about ourselves. We never judged anyone or anything. Because judging is so ingrained in all of us since childhood, it is highly unlikely that we will get over it but what we can do is become consciously aware of it, work through it and with it so that it does not hold us back or make us a mean person.
Here are some ways in which we can start becoming aware of that little dictator who is trying to control your life inside of you and start learn to letting it go :
- Forgiveness – First it is important to forgive yourself. You must understand what you are feeling, doing and have learned. The quicker you accept your programming, the quicker you start healing. Look for danger signs and red flags for what you attract in your life. Being critical is a part of your history and you are drawn to what you are familiar with. So forgive yourself because you didn’t know better then. Breathe in deeply and breathe out and let go. Repeat it again till the time you feel lighter.
- Write It Down – Take 30 minutes to write down or just say out loud all the judgments you have for yourself. For example saying things like I am lazy, not good enough, fat, stupid, there are so many things. Also use this time to write down or say out loud all the judgements you have made for other people. Everytime you hear yourself saying something negative or judgments about anything, take a note to reflect on it later. This list should be lengthy, so don’t shy away. Write down even positive judgements. You will start to see some patterns on why you make judgements.
- Allowance – Allow yourself to feel the judgment that you are having because it is a human thing. Just like negative thinking we have to break the cycle pattern of judgement. When we judge ourselves and we are not aware of it, we act out of it like we will have a tantrum. Now as we are learning to be aware of our judgement, we then allow it to not let us control ourselves. By feeling it emotionally and physically we can then ask ourselves if we want to hold on or let go of this judgment. Do what feels right for no, no pressure..or no judge…oops!
- De-construct Judgement – If someone has judged you or you have judged someone hard and that has affected you a lot, remember it’s just an opinion, it is not an end all. Know that when someone is judging you, it speaks more about how they judge themselves than how they are judging you. Judgement is a way to control lives either ours or others. Everyone is chasing a self made ideal. People have rigid expectations. Get over it, let that go. You are enough. Pray for the person to be well and send some healing vibes to them.
Recognising self judgement is one thing but letting it go is a much harder task, I understand that. I am barely even trying to do that myself. So just again think of letting go as pre-emptive forgiveness of self and others. Instead of suppressing negative emotions and fester, let it go.
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Judgment and fear have a tendency to hold you back from living a rich and meaningful life that is based on your true values and establishing harmony in relationships. There is often a high price to pay for living in a mental and emotional place of judgment and fear. This price may take the form of avoiding relationships with others, challenging mental or physical pursuits, and even discovering your true identity. In many ways, judgment and fear can function as self-protective defense mechanisms that keep the conscious mind from discovering truths that the self believes to be painful or unbearable. No matter what lies within one’s core identity, it is often the suppression or repression of self-knowledge that ultimately results in greater suffering.
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Nice to hear from you. I like the blog. It is more about clearance and having open mindset. Good luck !
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Thank you Lokesh. I am glad you like the content
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Great advice 👍
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Notice your judgments, label them as judgements and let them pass. Simply practicing letting judgments pass without acting on them or believing them will lessen the power they have over your mood and behavior. With time, you will be able to smile, say “That’s a judgment,” and go on with your day.
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Forgiveness to self is very important
It took me time to stop being hard in myself and am glad I did
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Making peace and moving forward is often easier said than done. Being able to forgive yourself requires empathy, compassion, kindness, and understanding. It also requires you to accept that forgiveness is a choice.
Whether you’re trying to work through a minor mistake or one that impacts all areas of your life, the steps you need to take in order to forgive yourself will look and feel the same.
But we still got to keep at it, keep forgiving ourselves.
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True to that
Thank you so much
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Forgiveness happens over a period of time that sometimes feels as if it will never come.. but it does eventually.. Time is one of the greatest healers.
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Forgiveness is a big one. And forgiving oneself is often overlooked. Great words!
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Forgive yourself. Not just once. Again, and again, and again. As many times as it takes to find peace. – Unknown
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It is often overlooked, if we forgive ourselves, we can then forgive others from a wholesome place.
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Forgiveness of self has been a challenge for me. I’ve learned a lot and have grown to love myself more unconditionally over the past two years. Falling in love with oneself and loving every part and piece of who you are is the greatest gift you can give yourself ❤️
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An attempt to control life: We try to control our behavior and feelings through a set of rigid expectations. We chase a self-made ideal, and when we don’t live up to it, we judge ourselves. If we truly dig into all of self-judgment we’ll find an adolescent dictator telling us how to behave—completely driven by emotion.
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It is indeed one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. Self-love is a wondrous thing. 🙏
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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Always happy to read and share with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!!
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Thank you for sharing so many posts of our joint effort. 🙏
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We think alike
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Best Advice we took from this blog thanks
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You know this is such an important topic! No matter how hard we try, we find ourselves judging others and being judged. And for people like me, who are a bit more sensitive, the opinion and behavior of others affect us a lot..and so when they judge us, it feels unfair to be judged without saying our piece and its hard to let go..that is why awareness is so important, so that people including ourselves recognize that judging and passing judgement hurts and no one should do that to the other..lets all be kind to each other, and be compassionate, understanding, and just simply agree to disagree politely on an issue, without being rude.. 🙂 Thank u for creating this post!! 😊
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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung. These words resonate with me so much. One of the most common thing in a guided meditation is the act of observation. They tell you to stop judging and instead observe the thoughts and let them go. When you take the time to practice your observation skill, you take it to your life and use it when you need it the most. Even after you practice your observation skill, you can’t avoid judgment. It’s part of your thinking system.
A deeper level of observation is observing your judgments without judgment.
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So beautifully expressed!! That is such a mature way of looking at it..thank you for providing me with that perspective..we need to observe ourselves judging, be aware that we are doing it and try to work towards avoiding it..it wont ever be 100% like you said, but atleast by reducing it we make this world a little kinder 🙂🙂
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Glad I could help. Good luck 👍🏼
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Thank you and you too!!
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Beautifully written
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It’s important to stop negatively judging yourself to increase self-esteem. Many people are afraid of being judged negatively by others, however, they overlook the negative judgement coming from themselves. Negative self-judgement is damaging emotionally and it leads to all sorts of problems. As well as damaging your self-esteem it can be associated with anxiety or depression. It may prevent you from doing things you want, and it can isolate you from people. However, you can lead a more fulfilling life and increase your self-esteem when you stop judging yourself negatively.
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Couldn’t agree more.
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Liked the blog very much👌👌great advice
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Thank you Shagun
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Thank you for sharing
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We always tend to judge yourself and we need to stop judging ourselves so much too. I also post about similar stuff on my blog as well & if you’re interested, feel free to follow! But love this post & keep up the great work
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Plz seems blog
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Feel free to reblog
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