Daily Dose of Living

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Today we will talk about how can we understand each other better. 

Appreciate. With respect in your rearview, understanding is right around the bend. Continuing our example, let’s say your partner experiences great joy from their collection. Why would you want to change that? You want them to be happy, right? Well, if their collection brings contentment to their life, and if you truly care about that person, then their collection should bring joy to your life, too, because happiness is contagious, but only after you get past the arguments, past the stages of tolerance, acceptance, and respect, and honestly appreciate the other person’s desires, values, and beliefs. Many of us navigate different roads toward happiness, but even if we travel separate routes, it is important we appreciate the journey—not only ours, but the journey of everyone we love. When we appreciate others for who they are, not whom we want them to be, then, and only then, will we understand.

So the next time you reach a fork in the road, remember T.A.R.A.: Tolerate, Accept, Respect, and Appreciate. If you travel this path frequently, your relationships will flourish, and you’ll experience a richness of experience that wasn’t possible without a deep understanding of the people in your life.

This path works not only for significant others, but for friends, coworkers, and anyone else with whom we want to strengthen our connection. Of course there will be times when values clash, and you won’t be able to appreciate the person for who they are. And there will even be rare times when T.A.R.A. is the wrong path altogether: if someone engages in self-destructive behavior—drugs, crime, racism—then you should not appreciate their conduct. Sometimes it’s okay to say goodbye, walk away, and travel down a perpendicular path.

Come back tomorrow for more inspiration.

Reference : https://www.theminimalists.com/understanding/


7 Comments Add yours

  1. Shanique🌅 says:

    This is a helpful post. And I like the acronym. I agree that there are some cases where we can’t extend TARA to someone we care about if they insist on self destructive behavior. If I were to insist on engaging in self destructive behavior, I would honestly prefer those I care about to stay/walk away from me.

    I also think that there are times when our loved ones are actually just ignorant (I say this in the kindest way possible) and need to be educated or pointed in the right direction. I’ve had occasions for example where people I’ve had to work with just knew absolutely nothing about other races outside their own. No fault of their own as kids but now they’re adults. With a willing heart, we’ve been able to meet halfway through discussion, and openness to truly listen to each other. They not only know more now about other races and ethnicities but appreciate the diversity and actively seek out opportunities to be more inclusive.

    I’ve also experienced situations where no amount of talking would get us anywhere. My loved one was just stuck. There was nothing I could do to help him that didn’t cause me harm. In addition to self destructive behavior I’d like to add abuse to the list. There’s no place for TARA in abusive relationships. I would want someone I care about to cut ties if I chose to act abusively towards them.

    It’s my responsibility to get my stuff together, not engage in self destructive behavior, and treat others with dignity and respect.

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    1. GS says:

      Yes indeed Shanique. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You are such an evolved soul. I am always so glad to read your thoughts.

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  2. Appreciation is very important for relationships.

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    1. GS says:

      Appreciation is a key to any relationship. Appreciating someone makes them feel good about what they do, and that it makes a difference to their lives. It makes them feel better about themselves, urging them to go on with new vigor, strengthening your relationship.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog.

      Liked by 2 people

      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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