If you wish to communicate effectively with others, better to describe what you are feeling rather than go on the offensive. For instance, say, “I am very sad to hear that,” not, “Why do you always make me sad?” You want people to hear you rather than have to defend themselves from you. When you are disappointed, don’t wait too long to say so. When you bottle up your feelings, the river of emotion swells, making it difficult to cross over and speak calmly.
Do you have a lot of enemies? Then be humble and stop speaking ill of people. Those who do not make enemies are more powerful than those who have the strength to fight them all and win.
Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”.