Welcome to the Daily Dose of Self Love. This series will be about self love, self care, self esteem and self worth. Basically everything related with SELF. My aim with this series is to give you a daily boost of self love and self care. We all get busy with our lives and sometimes it leaves us less or no time to take time for ourselves, be with ourselves, wash off all the negativity that we accumulated during the day with self love, meditation, etc. The daily boost will be in an easy to understand and more importantly something which is relatable. So Welcome!!
Self Love Practice Tip #113
Today we will continue to talk about how to gain self respect by creating healthy boundaries. There are two types of unhealthy boundaries. Those are rigid boundaries and porous boundaries. Rigid boundaries are where you tend to cut off people for hurting you instead of communicating how you feel and instead of working out a mutual understanding between and the other person. So you pretty much avoid intimacy, communication and you are very protective of your privacy. Now porous boundaries are like where you pretty much become a doormat. So you can’t say no to others and you accept abuse and bad behaviour. You can also have a mix of these two types of behaviour and it depends on the situation you are in. For example, at a workplace you may have boundaries where you do not cut people out or maybe its the opposite where you set boundaries at home and not workplace. It also depends on the culture where you live in too so that can also be a difference. Let’s look at some of the examples of a unhealthy beliefs which leads to unhealthy boundaries, which is mainly the inability to say no to others. Here, practice making a healthy boundary without feeling bad. Say this to yourself that “I have the right to say no to others if it is an invasion of my space or a violation of my rights.” This is true. You are the right to say no to others without hesitation. Another unhealthy belief is that it is my responsibility to hold them together. No, it’s not. You are to save yourself first. You will get exhausted when you take burden of other people specially when people don’t take accountability for themselves.
Come back tomorrow for more inspiration.