Make Your Own Rules

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And stick with them. Go for what works for you, not the others. Go for what you want, not the others. Including me. Make your own system and be proud of it. You may upset some people in the process, but hey, that’s life – you gotta learn from somebody, wouldn’t you? Who knows, you may also make some other people happier, richer or more relaxed with your system.

Living your life by your own rules is an art. Because your own rules have to be authentic enough to represent you fully, but permissive enough not to hurt other people. Keeping this balance is the key.

This is why many people are giving up and just stick with something in the middle. A compromise. Which will not benefit any of the parts. The process of building your own rules is a long journey. You have to live and learn.

But it’s not impossible. At some point, you’re going to realize that everything you do is totally representing you and everybody around agrees with that. Don’t give up this process. Never. 

When You Make Your Own Rules You Win Your Own Game

Making your own rules is not about showing off, it’s not about getting ahead of others in some way, it’s not about proving them wrong and proving you right. It’s a simple process of individuation that is as necessary as your own name. You need a name to be recognized by, you need a primary form of identification.

Making your own rules is a way to express and assert your own point of views.

It’s what makes you, you. It’s your way to contribute, to give back to this world. It’s your unique opportunity to bring something new and amazing to life.

That’s why you should make your own rules.

Now, what happens when your rules collide with other people rules? This is a very important question. And, sadly, most of the time, people make their own rules specifically to collide with other people, as a fight back mechanism. This is not how you should do this.

If you find your game at odds with other people’s games, assess. Evaluate. See if this collision creates a problem in the first place. Collision doesn’t always means accident. It doesn’t necessarily have to hurt someone. More often than not, collision of rules is just a sign of diversity. It’s a celebration of the fact that we’re all unique. It’s a good thing. It makes you learn new things, it exposes you to the incredibly richness of life.

But if collision means you’re going to hurt the other person, something must be changed. If your rules are creating troubles to other people, then your game is not good. You gotta change that game. If the only way to express your unicity is to hurt other people, than, by all means, that unicity is completely useless and has no value at all. You gotta find another way to express yourself.

As a matter of fact, you can test the value of your rules by the value you get back from other people when you apply those rules. If other people enjoy your ways, then the rules are good. If other people stand back, or oppose you openly, then the rules have a serious issue. Work it out, come up with a new set of rules and restart the whole process.

But if the rules are good and if people are accepting you, and your life improves, keep building.

Keep adding to that game. Make it funnier and nicer.

That’s all there is to making your own rules. It’s not rocket science. It’s simply a matter of creating your life in such a way that you will enjoy living it and others will enjoy your company.

Simple, huh?

11 Comments Add yours

  1. It’s hard to make your own rules when you have a family and have to consider everybody’s well-being and not just your own.

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    1. GS says:

      Yes I agree

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  2. Growing up in today’s world is full of challenges, far more than back in my childhood long ago. Finding balance with our lives and remaining well-grounded in one’s values can help.

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    1. GS says:

      Living a balanced life means determining what is most important to you and expending your time and energy accordingly. … Finding balance comes from giving time and energy to the things that build you up and give you life. And likewise, eliminating the things that bring you down and stress you out.

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  3. Amen to that! I would go one step further and say why bind by rules. Yourself or anyone else. Just live and let live. Each has their own orbit. Just flow.

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    1. GS says:

      When you create your own goals and work hard to reach them, something happens. You feel a sense of accomplishment. You begin to tear down the self-defeating beliefs that you’ve held onto for so long. Your own rules lead to longer-lasting change: Once you start setting and reaching your own goals, it becomes a habit.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  4. I feel like I don’t enjoy others’ company and I feel like others don’t enjoy my company. I’m extremely uncomfortable in front of others and I feel like I can’t be myself. Am I antisocial or is it my social anxiety exacerbated by the pandemic and isolation?

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    1. GS says:

      I think you should take a timeout. It is only when we remove ourselves from thee situation is when we can actually see what feels wrong.

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