Love

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Unconditionally. Totally. Constantly. Relentlessly. Love is the only glue that keeps your life running. You were born out of love and you carry it deep down in your being.

Don’t look outside, because it’s not there. Don’t travel the world to find love, because you are its carrier. Don’t search for a person to love because you already know that person.

The moment you’ll truly and deeply understand that loving is something from within and has nothing to do with the outside world, it will start to overflow. The moment you understand that we’re all sharing the same magic of life and we’re here to enjoy it, love will manifest naturally.

Love is never about the other one, it’s always about you. 

What Is The Opposite Of Love?

Over the time I learned that people tend to understand things faster if you can give them a little bit of contrast. If you can create a little bit of discrepancy, some difference. Most of the time, people learn better if you teach them the opposite of the thing you’re trying to portray. I think that’s how our mind is constructed, or something.

Knowing that, and knowing that today I’m gonna write about love, I tried to find the opposite for love. How could I explain what love is by describing its opposite force? How do you create the contrast for love? How do you find the discrepancy for love?

I mean, for the color white, the opposite is the color black. For the sensation of warmth, it’s the sensation of cold. For high, the opposite it’s low. We know all that.

But what about love?

First, I thought it would be hate. You know, that feeling when you’re so totally against somebody that you just wish the worst for him. But it didn’t click. Both love and hate share some quality and that’s intensity. It’s a different polarity, but it’s not a complete opposition. If you take out the white, you remain with the black, but if you take out the love, you don’t remain with hate. Hate is not the opposite of love, it’s just a feeling, only in a different direction. Love is more than just a feeling.

Then, I thought it could be sadness. That subtle but powerful emotion of being down, of feeling hopeless, lost, depressed. You know it way to well, I know. But it didn’t click either. If you take out the low, you remain with the high, but if you take out sadness, you remain with joy. And love is not only joy. Sadness and joy are just emotions, and, although it encompasses emotion too, love is much more than that.

So, if love is not a feeling, and if it’s not an emotion either, what could it be? In all honesty, I confess I was a little bit confused. Didn’t expect to get stopped on the track s early. I mean, I thought I’m good at this. Creating contrasts, describing differences between things and all that. But it seems I wasn’t.

And then, when I stopped thinking at it for a while, it just came to me: the opposite of love is not hate. Or depression.

The opposite of love is death.

22 Comments Add yours

  1. Sasha says:

    Wow!! “The opposite of Love is Death”, well penned, and if only this world understands this simple funda, there would be a more negligible breakup, toxicity and depression!!

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    1. GS says:

      Being unable to stand someone or hating them, and being absolutely miserable around them because of it.

      Love manifests as the sheer and unrivaled delight that comes when someone for whom you have intense feelings simply exists in your presence. Love is the thing that causes that particular feeling. It’s the willingness to prioritize that person’s happiness because of the way you feel about them.[1]

      The opposite of delight is misery, and misery arises when you can’t stand someone. The opposite of love manifests as the sheer and unrivaled misery that you experience when someone who you can’t stand simply exists in your presence.

      The opposite of delight is not indifference or something that causes indifference. You do not care so much about avoiding those for whom you feel indifference, nor do you feel emotion in their presence.

      One dictionary definition of love is “an intense feeling of deep affection.” You could argue that’s pretty close to passionately liking someone. This mirrors one dictionary definition of hatred : “passionate dislike.” This gives you a clue that hatred is part of the opposite of love.

      If you dislike someone passionately, you abhor the idea of being in their presence. This contrasts with the delight you feel in the presence of those you love. If you abhor being in someone’s presence, you do whatever you can to avoid them. This contrasts with love where in you do whatever you can to spend time with someone. When you passionately like or love someone, you want to do good things for them. Hatred is disliking someone you increasingly accept the idea that their well-being is not at the top of your priority list, to say the least.

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  2. gpavants says:

    Garima,

    In many ways love is life. God created us to be in relationship with Him and others. So your idea that death is the opposite would work on that analogy. Love is full of life. Death is the great empty void. Choose love and life.

    Thanks,

    Gary

    On Fri, Aug 20, 2021 at 12:11 AM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > GS posted: ” Unconditionally. Totally. Constantly. Relentlessly. Love is > the only glue that keeps your life running. You were born out of love and > you carry it deep down in your being. Don’t look outside, because it’s not > there. Don’t travel the world to find love” >

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  3. kimraypoet says:

    The opposite of love is indifference. Love does not stop with death.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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  4. Well, My Dear, I think I will have to disagree with you on what the opposite of love is – It’s the absence of any feeling – I DON’T CARE!!
    😊💕🌹

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    1. GS says:

      Hahah good one

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      1. Well, if you think about it, it makes sense – Love is emotions attached to a person; hate is also emotions attached to a person. I Don’t Care is no emotions or caring at all!
        😊💕🌹

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing

      Like

  5. Nicely written … But Love is eternal, it doesn’t finishes or ends or dies, if it does than it isn’t true love. That’s my view.

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post.

      Like

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing.

      Like

  6. abichica says:

    so true, the opposite of love is not hate, its death. I believe it. Because hate is born out of characteristics of love

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you agree 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

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