Self Sabotage

When you’re an empath, when you are the kind of person who feels deeply, walking away can be a very long process, it can be painfully difficult. When you love with everything inside of you, it can be easy to make excuses for the way that someone makes you feel, just to keep them in your life. And the truth is, a lot of people who are highly sensitive, and who are empathetic, understand it from a level that is deep and engrained and often a reflection of what they themselves have been through. See, those who love the hardest, and who are the kindest should, have often lived in a world that was not so kind to them, and have loved people who haven’t always protected their hearts. They understand what it means to be the kind of person who has been let down, they know what it is like to be walked away from, to question their heart, and within that it can be extremely confusing to determine whether to stay or to let go, it can bee extremely difficult to give themselves permission to stop tearing themselves apart just to make something work, because they want so desperately to believe in the potential, and the hope they have; they so desperately want to protect someone from ever having to feel the way that they felt, from ever having to go through that. And so they stay.

But at what point does that become self sabotage? At what point does caring deeply about another human start to mean that you are no longer caring for yourself?

25 Comments Add yours

  1. sonalime1009 says:

    When something insides u starts breaking u up and u feel like… I wish I was not this person…. And when you start blaming yourself for the things u haven’t done 🥺

    Thanks for sharing this post 🙏

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    1. GS says:

      Yes I know what you feel. One of the key reasons people self-sabotage is a lack of self-esteem. These deep-seated thoughts and feelings cause negative self-talk, which fuels your fears and your self-sabotaging behaviors. Some people self-sabotage because it makes them feel in control of their situations.

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      1. sonalime1009 says:

        Sad but true 🥺

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  2. cathyishappy says:

    Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear it right now. I always want to believe the best in people even when they do nothing to show that I should. I need to start putting myself first and walking away sometimes. Such a good post. Thank you

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post. Self-sabotaging behavior often stems from feelings of anxiety, anger and worthlessness. Always aim to manage your emotions , so that you don’t commit to behaviors that have negative consequences, or that unjustly affect others. Check the warning signs of anger and anxiety before they get out of control.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing my post

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share great posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! 😘💕🎁🌹

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing my post.

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    1. GS says:

      Self-sabotaging behavior disrupts your progress toward achieving your goals and can prevent you from living a life you truly value. Some people get in the way of their own happiness and success in one particular area, while others impede themselves in several different areas. Common life realms that fall prey to self-sabotage include romantic relationships, career, education, and relationships with family and friends. Glad you liked the post.

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  3. advisorchad says:

    This is so true … Thank you for sharing this with the World✨

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post. At its core, self-sabotage involves any attitude or behavior that doesn’t match up your values and interferes with your ability to achieve your life goals. We all do things from time to time that get in the way of our progress, but self-sabotage is a pattern of thoughts and actions that creates ongoing problems, preventing you from moving forward and facing change successfully.

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  4. parikhit says:

    It is a very thin line; sometimes you vest so much in another person that your own choices take a backseat and even if you wish to indulge it feels selfish.

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    1. GS says:

      Always aim to manage your emotions , so that you don’t commit to behaviors that have negative consequences, or that unjustly affect others. Check the warning signs of anger and anxiety before they get out of control.

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      1. parikhit says:

        Well said and I am practicing that.

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      2. GS says:

        Awesome Sauce

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  5. I feel like every opinion of a person other than the one you’re talking about cannot explain what he or she truly was afraid of or why he or she left.

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    1. GS says:

      I respect your opinion.

      Like

    1. GS says:

      Thank you for sharing my post.

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