Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Less me. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose to honour my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose to make self-care a priority. I choose me.
Thank you so much for creating this post. This was exactly what I needed to hear this morning!
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Yay I am glad you found my post.
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Totally agree! Another good writing!
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Thank you. Ask yourself what your needs and wants are, and commit to fulfilling them. Make it a priority to keep yourself happy and clear your headspace of anything that doesn’t.
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Your words are very potent, Garina, they speak to me because I too have spent a lifetime trying to please others. Now like you I choose me! β€π·ππΏπ¦πΆπβ€
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Thank you Carolyn. Your words have touched my heart.
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Word π.
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Thank you!
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Good to π
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Glad you agree.
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You’re a source of inspiration. More grace.
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Thank you for your kind words. Much appreciated.
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I understand you, sometimes I feel the same way ,thank you π
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To choose yourself means focusing on your own happiness and navigating towards what adds positivity to your life without hesitance. Thank you for liking my post.
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Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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Thank you or sharing my post.
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Well said. And so necessary. For each of us.
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Choosing Yourself sounds a tad selfish for some, but the fact is, itβs the only choice that allows you to be of service to others.
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Agreed!
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Being yourself is the only thing we do best π
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