Ghosting happens when someone abruptly ceases all forms of contact and communication without any explanation. It is a common phenomenon in today’s dating and social culture and can leave one feeling deeply hurt, betrayed and disrespected.
Why do people ghost?
- To avoid conflict and confrontation.
- Because its convenient.
- Because they don’t know how they feel and would rather not work through their difficult emotions.
- They are no longer interested/invested in the relationship and genuinely believe that they are inflicting less pain by ghosting instead of being honest.
- Because don’t feel like they are provided a safe space to openly express how they feel.
- They fear disappointing people.
- They are aware that they cannot meet your needs and manage their shame by withdrawing.
- Many people ghost because their boundaries are repeatedly violated (in which case ghosting may be the appropriate action)
How ghosting affects us?
- For many, ghosting can trigger unhealed childhood attachment wounds and bring up repressed memories of emotional neglect and abandonment. This can leave one feeling deeply hurt, distressed & rejected regardless of how invested we are in the other person.
Ways to Deal With It
- Remember that it’s not about you, it’s about them. Tell yourself that their behaviour and inability to communicate their feelings is on them to work out and says nothing about your worth.
- Try to see it as a gift. This may be difficult to do but immensely helpful. Write down or say this out loud as if to them : “Thank you for showing me your level of emotional unavailability and lack of respect for me. I now know this wasn’t the right thing for me.” Make it the furl to help you move on.
- Talk about it. Research has shown that putting our feelings into words makes our sadness, anger and pain less intense. This is one of the reasons therapy works and why talking to friends and family can get us through tough times – so keep talking or journalling till you feel better about it all.
Ghosting stinks. There’s no way to sugarcoat it. If you are being ghosted, try your best to not take it personal. Someone ghosting you is a reflection on them. If you are ghosting somebody, maybe think twice about respectfully communicating to them why are you no longer want to communicate with hem. Be kind to one another & mindful of others feelings.
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