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Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that often occurs in abusive relationships. It is a covert type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser misleads the target, creating a false narrative and making them question their judgments and reality.1 Ultimately, the victim of gaslighting starts to feel unsure about their perceptions of the world and even wonder…

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Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that often occurs in abusive relationships. It is a covert type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser misleads the target, creating a false narrative and making them question their judgments and reality.1 Ultimately, the victim of gaslighting starts to feel unsure about their perceptions of the world and even wonder if they are losing their sanity.

Here are a few forms of gaslighting. This is a form of emotional abuse and should be taken seriously. No one deserves to be treated like this – all humans deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.

  • Withholding – When the abusive partner refuses to listen or avoids seeking understanding of what their partner is trying to communicate with them.
  • Countering – When the abusive partner questions the victims memory and recollection of events even if the other partner is remembering correctly.
  • Blocking and Diverting – When the abusive partner attempts to switch topics and steers the conversation to questioning the other partner’s thoughts.
  • Trivialising – When the abusive partner minimised the other partner’s feelings and emotions. The abusive partner makes the other partner feel meaningless and unimportant.
  • Forgetting & Denial – When the abusive partner acts like they don’t remember a situation or conversation that occurred. They deny former promises they made to the other partner.

If you suspect that you are experiencing gaslighting, you may also find it helpful to talk to a mental health professional. They can help you learn more about the situation, gain perspective, and develop new coping strategies that can help you deal with the behavior.

21 responses to “Gaslighting”

  1. WordPress siteSHIV

    right

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  2. v. anastasi

    I make a point to teach this to my high school students along with the dangers of logical fallacies and propaganda.

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    1. GS

      This is great. We need to protect growing kids from gaslighting and it’s efforts. But we can’t protect them always. So one way of going about it is Validate Their Feelings – Be strong enough to be a “loving witness” to their precious feelings. Remind your students that you still love them. If you are hearing how they feel, you may be their safe teacher. Honor this role, even though you may have to deal with their difficult emotions.

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      1. v. anastasi

        Thanks for the encouragement. The trauma these students have experienced over the last few years is nothing like I ever experienced in 20+ years of teaching. They need a loving witness indeed!

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      2. GS

        And I am glad you are providing them that support and kindness. ❤️

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  3. Ayodele Ojurongbe

    Hi! Thank you for this and thanks a lot for liking my post! Well appreciated!

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    1. GS

      Most welcome

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  4. Phil A Davis

    This one hits too close to home.

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    1. GS

      Gaslighting is an insidious, but unfortunately, not particularly uncommon, form of emotional abuse. And since subtle forms of gaslighting can often masquerade as being totally innocent, there are times you might not suspect it’s happening at all.

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  5. Martin Knox

    This is the information about gaslighting I have seen. Thank you.

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    1. GS

      Did you like the information, Martin?

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  6. Melody J Haislip

    This is good information for those too young to remember the Ingrid Bergman/Charles Boyer film, which I found pretty terrifying.

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    1. GS

      Yes

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  7. to ti esti

    I have sometimes obliquely referenced something we jokingly call “the Great Betrayal” at home. If I ever write it up, I’m definitely linking to your clear and straightforward explanation of gaslighting. “What promise? No one ever said…” It hits you like a slap, and it’s so casual and confident that you really do start to doubt your reality.

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    1. GS

      Yes, this is a serious issue which is often taken lightly. Gaslighting is a form of abuse that involves a person deliberately causing someone to doubt their sanity. This may cause feelings of confusion or powerlessness. The long-term effects of gaslighting include trauma, anxiety, and depression.

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      1. to ti esti

        I was lucky to be gaslit alongside my similarly-gaslit husband. We were able to validate one another’s confusion about what was really going on. We realized we were being gaslit and actually had the idea to type up everything that had happened, every conversation, every action that had gone before, just as we remembered it, including things that we weren’t sure about but that we had believed. Then we each read it, kind of signed it mentally, and saved it. We immediately felt so much better!

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      2. GS

        Wow, excellent team work. It not only shows the strength of your relationship and the value of working through things together, but it also shows how well aware you both are with the concepts and the openness

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  8. uwagood

    What Is Gaslighting?

    Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that frequently occurs in abusive relationship It’s a covert type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser misleads the target, creating a false narrative and making them question their judgments and reality. Eventually, the victim of gaslighting starts to feel doubtful about their comprehensions of the world and indeed wonder if they’re losing their reason.

    Gaslighting primarily occurs in romantic relationship, but it’s not uncommon for it to do in controlling gemütlichkeit or among family members as well. People who gaslight others may have internal health diseases, similar as narcissistic personality complaint (NPD) or frame personality complaint (BPD). They use this type of emotional abuse to ply power over others in order to manipulate musketeers, family members, or indeedco-workers.

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  9. Johan Froentjes

    Insane, I feel like countering is the most common one. I just wrote a piece on gaslighting as well.

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    1. GS

      Oh great. I will read it now

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      1. Johan Froentjes

        I hope you felt like my content was insightful. If you have any tips, would you let me know?

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