Tips to Get Over Someone

You just got dumped, or maybe you broke up with someone. You just want to curl up and retreat from the world. It doesn’t matter if it was a long-term relationship, a short-lived cyber affair, an unrequited love or a good friends-with-benefits arrangement. If you cared and connected, you feel a deep and painful void where there was once laughter and affection. It’s like experiencing a small death. Grieving over your lost love for a short time is understandable, but if you linger too long in the purgatory of how-it-used-to-be, your friends will eventually get tired of hearing you talk about your ex and advise you to “Get over it.”

Getting over it. Easy to say. Much harder to do. Here are a few tips to get over someone :

  • Cry a river if you must.
  • Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings.
  • Realise that you can’t do anything about it anymore.
  • If you can’t forgive the person yet, at least forgive yourself.
  • When you’re ready, give yourself permission to heal.
  • Learn to accept that this person was important to you, but the past is past.
  • Stop the blaming and let go of the anger.
  • Get rid of the things that remind you of that person.
  • Cut all possible communications with this person.
  • Engage in physical exercise and outdoor activities.
  • Clean up the mess – literally.
  • Take baby steps, do things slowly, one day at a time.
  • Be patient and never give up on yourself.
  • Forget the past and focus on the present.
  • Look forward to what the future may bring.
  • Learn from this experience.
  • Open your heart to possible new relationships.
  • Find comfort in the company of your family and friends.
  • Take time to love yourself.
  • Seek professional help, visit a therapist or join a support group.

Reference : https://www.happierhuman.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/get-over-someone.jpg

16 Comments Add yours

  1. Carol anne says:

    Awesome tips, thank you for them! ❤

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    1. GS says:

      The good news is however bad things look now, you will get over him. The bad news is you can’t skip straight to the bit where you go skipping off into the sunset with a new man without grieving your loss first. Bottling up your feelings will only delay your recovery. This is your perfect excuse to spend days under the duvet, stuffing your face with chocolate and crying at rom-coms – it’s not all bad!

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  2. clcouch123 says:

    This is sound advice for what certainly is going through a hard time. We must do some things ourselves, and we should enlist others to help with other things. And we all can and should relate. Thanks!

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    1. GS says:

      We’ve all been there: even though you parted ways with someone, it feels like the person is still haunting your mind. When you break up with someone or end a friendship, it can take months or even years to get the person out of your head. If you don’t take action to replace those thoughts with something positive, memories and “what ifs” will run circles in your mind without stopping. By letting go of the past, changing the way you think and making new memories, you can forget the person who is causing you to feel empty, sad or angry.

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  3. Good one. I lost my dad before 3 years, I was experiencing the same thing as you mention in the post. Perhaps one my reasons to start blogging is to come out of this unforgettable and unbearable stress of life. Once again good suggestions and enlighting us.

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    1. GS says:

      Sorry for your loss. Nothing is actually lost in the universe. Everything is energy and energy is never lost. Your father might not be a part of the material world anymore, he might not be a person in the sense of a human being, but he is a part of the world somehow. I don’t know how, but I know he is.

      I believe that the people we think we lose transform into something else and move on to the next stage of life. They are still here, but not in the same way as before.

      They are in everything we have learned from them, in their creations, in their children, in our hearts and memories. Know that your father is still here when You hear his voice telling you how to do something or where to look for something You can’t find.

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      1. Thank you for your kind words.

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  4. Kellie says:

    These are such great tips! Thank you for sharing ❤️

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    1. GS says:

      Glad you liked the post Kellie. When someone treats you poorly or does something hurtful, it is a natural and healthy response to feel some anger. Anger helps you be aware of situations that are not in your best interest and can facilitate the separation process from an unhealthy relationship. But when we hold on to anger and resentment from past experiences we take them with us into the future. Nothing hurts more than when someone you love does something that causes you to reevaluate who you believed them to be. When someone betrays the trust you gave, it is painful. But letting another’s actions limit your ability to move forward means he or she still exerts control over your life. Forgiveness isn’t about letting the person off the hook for his or her bad behavior; it is about your emotional freedom.

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  5. Really insightful post and very interesting tips.

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    1. GS says:

      When we go through a heartbreaking separation, it’s very easy to blame ourselves and believe that we just weren’t good enough for them or the relationship. Even the most confident people can get an attack of unworthiness issues so don’t beat yourself up. However, it’s crucial to remember that your worth is not tied to them – you are your own person. As much as you may think it, your identity is not, and was not, tied to the relationship you had. Remembering to love yourself is probably the most important thing you can do after a breakup.

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  6. Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet and commented:
    Read this for yourself or to share with a friend!

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you 🙏🏼

      Liked by 2 people

  7. emmmilyee says:

    I love your entire site!! Thank you for the content and inspiration

    Liked by 1 person

    1. GS says:

      Thank you Emily. I am glad you liked the content. Regards

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