Emotional vulnerability is putting yourself out there, intentionally or unintentionally. Showing a part of yourself that you may feel sensitive about, exposing something that makes you feel seen by others. Like think about the last time you were emotionally vulnerable with someone.
Here are few tips for reducing emotional vulnerability :
Step 1 : Accumulate the Positives
- Build positive experiences. Do pleasant things possible now and makes changes in your life so that positive events will occur more often by working towards goals, attending to relationships, and avoid giving up.
- Be mindful of positive experiences. Focus attention on positive events that happen and refocus when your mind wanders to any distractions, regrets, or worries, participate in the experience and turn the mind.
- Be unmindful of worries. Don’t think about when the experience will end, if you deserve it, or what will be expected of you now.
Step 2 : Building Mastery
- Plan one or more activities each day to build a sense of accomplishments
- Do something difficult, but possible plan for success, not failure.
- If the first task is too difficult, do something easier today, gradually increase the difficulty over time.
Step 3 : Cope Ahead for Emotional Situations
- Describe situation, check facts, be specific.
- Decide what coping or problem solving skills you want to use, write out in detail, be specific.
- Imagine the situation in your head vividly, and yourself in the situation, not watching it.
- Rehearse in your mind coping effectively, exactly what you could do, your actions, thoughts, what you say, and how you say it.
Let’s clarify what being secure isn’t. It isn’t egotism that you use like a weapon to selfishly get your own way. It isn’t suppressing what you don’t like about yourself and achieving a confident self-image that doesn’t exist inside. It isn’t something that can be created through money, status, possessions, or any other material surrogate. There are countless people sitting in the lap of luxury who feel even more insecure than the average person. This is because the source of invulnerability is all inside, where you relate to yourself.