Is Self Love Being Selfish? Part 2

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and sensispirit.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our first topic is focused on « Self Love. » Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Does self love make me a narcissist? NO

A narcissist is more of an extremely selfish person. They think they are god’s gift to earth or they might also think they are god. A narcissist will seek power, attention and have a strong sense of entitlement. When their personality is challenged they could become aggressive and resentful. A person with extreme traits of narcissism can be classified to have a narcissistic personality disorder. A person who loves himself and has self love has compassion for others and would never think of themselves as superior to other people. Having empathy for others is something a selfless person who loves himself has a full cover to give to others. Whereas a narcissist has no empathy at all. They don’t even understand what that means. A narcissistic person has a grandiose view of themselves. A person with practiced self love has empathy, compassion and considers themselves as an equal.

What is Healthy Narcissism? 

Let me start with an example to explain this concept. When you apply for a job, you need to believe that you are perhaps the best person for the job or at least capable of doing the job. You will need to see yourself as worthy and competent. If you don’t, you won’t even think to try to get that job. There needs to be a sense of self worth and a healthy but not inflated ego. That is more of a healthy narcissist. There is nothing wrong in feeling great about yourself. 

Knowing the difference between selfish, selfless and narcissism is so important because we have to learn to live ourselves and not truly knowing what self love is will hold you back from it and a lot of things in life. Self love is where your inner core confidence comes from. Once you have enough self love, you will feel unstoppable. You will know that you have permission to take on what you need and desire. Even when people will try to put you down or when your critical voice gets the best of you, you will be compassionate to yourself and talk yourself out of it. Loving yourself is necessary because you will know your worth and value and have a full cup of love to give others. 

Our relationships will reflect how we view ourselves and love ourselves and we must know what kind of love we are putting out there. Loving yourself is okay so don’t deprive yourself of it. It is the greatest gift you will ever give yourself.

14 Comments Add yours

  1. Dreamer9177 says:

    Nothing wrong with self-love provided it does become self-obsession

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    1. GS says:

      Yes having healthy boundaries help

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  2. c.f. leach says:

    Self-love, depending on what end of the humanistic spectrum we are standing, can be a good defense for someone who is always trying to save everybody. Sometimes you have to save yourself. And no, it’s not being selfish—it’s just having the nerve to finally say that two letter word that some hate to say so others will like them. A good dose of No is good for the soul and sometimes opens your mind to self-love without giving you a guilt complex. Blessings and Peace.

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    1. GS says:

      When you practice self-love, you become more confident and accepting of yourself. When you achieve that feeling you are able to go into relationships with a strong sense of self. The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others, so approaching a relationship with a strong sense of self is the best way to go.

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  3. DiosRaw - Amber says:

    A great explanation into these two concepts. ❤

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    1. GS says:

      Self-love is empowering and inspiring. It’s something we should all do every single day. Loving yourself doesn’t — and shouldn’t — take away from loving others, as being selfish does. Self-love allows you to embrace who you are and, as a result, be come better at loving not only yourself but others.

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      1. DiosRaw - Amber says:

        Exactly, we can reflect our self-love into our relationships with those around us and also, allow them to discover their self-love by our example.

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      2. GS says:

        Indeed Amber.

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  4. Kellie says:

    Love this post, thanks for sharing, yes to self love ❤️

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    1. GS says:

      Yes to self love indeed Kellie.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you!

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      1. Always happy to read and share your posts, My Dear!! 😘💕💖😊🌹✨

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      2. GS says:

        🙏🏼

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