Over the years, all of these individuals in your family have been treating you exactly as you’ve allowed them to with your reactions and behaviours. All of them exist as ideas in your mind that have separated you from your source of intention. This can miraculously change when you choose to be at peace with everyone in your life, most particularly, your relatives.
If the focus of your inner dialogue about your family members is on what they’re doing that’s wrong, then that’s precisely how your relationship with them will be experienced. If your inner speech centres on what’s annoying about them, that’s what you’ll notice. As much as you’re inclined to blame them for your annoyance, it’s yours, and it’s coming from your thoughts. If you make a decision to put your inner attention, your life energy, on something quite different, your relationship will change. In your thoughts, where your family relationships exist, you’ll no longer be annoyed, angry, hurt, or depressed. If in your mind you’re thinking. My intention is to be authentic and peaceful with this relative, then that’s what you’ll experience, even if that relative continues to be exactly the way he or she has always been.
Reference : The Power of Intention. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.