Daily Dose for the Mind

The Journey of Forgiveness

The person who betrayed you and left, the person who stole from you and disappeared, the person who stabbed you in the back and acted as if nothing happened—forgive them. Not for them, but for your own sake—truly, completely, for yourself. Not because they deserve your forgiveness; not because they are only human. Forgive them. So you can be free. So you can be happy. So you can go on living your life. It won’t be easy, and it will feel unjust. A sudden gush of anger may pass through you. Tears of bitterness may roll down your face. Allow those feelings to surface, and let them be. Treat them kindly, with your compassionate heart.

After honoring your tears, ask yourself softly: “Do I want to keep carrying this resentment in my heart? Do I want to live as a victim forever? When you feel ready, muster your courage and make up your mind. Although your heart won’t listen to your mind’s decision, resolve to forgive and to free yourself from emotional bondage. And then revisit your feelings of anger and bitterness. Give them your full permission to express themselves. How do those feelings manifest in your body? Do they become tense muscles, a rapid heartbeat, flushed skin? Do they emerge as shallow breathing, as pressure in your chest?

Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”. Apple Books.

7 Comments Add yours

  1. Molly Shea says:

    Forgiveness is hard. It might take some time to let go of hurt feelings. It is important to do this for your own peace of mind. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. GS says:

      Absolutely. Like healing any other wound, forgiving someone usually takes time. If you want to forgive, redirect your attention to what creates satisfaction and happiness in your life and reduce the investment you have in staying hurt, angry or vengeful. You thus choose to be forgiving not for someone else, but for yourself.

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    1. GS says:

      Someone once told me a story, it may or may not pertain to your story. I shall share with you my perception behind the meaning of it. So you go to this persons house and handle their plate. You turn it over in your hand and it’s smooth, whole and porcelain. You drop the plate and it shatters. You apologize to the plate and yet it remains broken. You pick up the pieces and glue it back together and yet you see lines and webs. They will remain, a reminder of the incident evident on the surface.

      Now imagine that the plate were a symbol of your trust. Would it be so easy for you to forgive, if someone or some people continued to break your trust (the plate) over and over again? You do not know what these people have been through, please be kind and patient. This may have been one time you broke their plate but who knows how many times that plate has been broken already.

      We all have emotional scars, all you can do is to work at their trust and show that person/people that you are trying. Maybe one day that one plate will be put away or exchanged for something stronger, only time will tell for them.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for the reblog

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      1. Always a joy and pleasure to read and share your posts with followers, My Dear! Hope you have a great day!! xoxox 😘💕🎁🌹

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