The Journey of Forgiveness
The person who betrayed you and left, the person who stole from you and disappeared, the person who stabbed you in the back and acted as if nothing happened—forgive them. Not for them, but for your own sake—truly, completely, for yourself. Not because they deserve your forgiveness; not because they are only human. Forgive them. So you can be free. So you can be happy. So you can go on living your life. It won’t be easy, and it will feel unjust. A sudden gush of anger may pass through you. Tears of bitterness may roll down your face. Allow those feelings to surface, and let them be. Treat them kindly, with your compassionate heart.
After honoring your tears, ask yourself softly: “Do I want to keep carrying this resentment in my heart? Do I want to live as a victim forever? When you feel ready, muster your courage and make up your mind. Although your heart won’t listen to your mind’s decision, resolve to forgive and to free yourself from emotional bondage. And then revisit your feelings of anger and bitterness. Give them your full permission to express themselves. How do those feelings manifest in your body? Do they become tense muscles, a rapid heartbeat, flushed skin? Do they emerge as shallow breathing, as pressure in your chest?
Excerpt From: Haemin Sunim. “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm and Mindful in a Fast-Paced World”. Apple Books.