Fear of Failure

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If you’re scared of something going wrong, trusting that you’d be able to cope with the worst case scenario can feel more freeing than trying to ignore the possibility of a negative outcome.

Instead of thinking about what could go wrong, think about what could go right is great advice and helps us focus on the fact that uncertainty can also lead to a positive outcome. However, sometimes when we try to focus on what could go right, our fear of things going wrong only intensifies. When you think about how awesome something would be, the thought of that not happening can actually start feeling more scary and more debilitating.

When we see a failure as insurmountable, it becomes much scarier and harder to ignore. When we believe that we won’t be able to survive something goes wrong, it can be very hard to detach ourselves from stressing out over that happening.

Instead of trying to ignore the possibility of a negative outcomes, it can be helpful to think about how you’d get through that and trust that you’ll be able to survive and cope, no matter what happens. When we know that a negative outcome won’t destroy us, getting excited about the positive side of things can feel a bit easier.

What do you think? How do you cope when you’re scared of something going wrong?

10 Comments Add yours

  1. Enjoyed this post. I would like to add one method, and that is, “I will be alright regardless of what happens.” When you know that you are going to be alright regardless of the turn of events, we get out of the claws of anxiety.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you for such a wonderful affirmation. Beautiful. I felt at east immediately

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  2. Brenda says:

    Hi. I enjoyed this post too. I’d also say that you should try to consider if there has been a situation in the past where you felt the same way; was it as bad as you thought? Was the outcome good or bad? Usually we find things are never as bad as we fear and reminding ourselves of how we coped with similar situations in the past and can give us more confidence.

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    1. GS says:

      Thank you Brenda. I agree we should look into similar experiences in the past and their outcomes to help steer us in the positive direction

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  3. Something did go wrong today. I’m still feeling the sting.

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    1. GS says:

      I am sorry to hear that. Hope you feel better soon

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  4. sicetnon3 says:

    The lie of fear is that we can be in control

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  5. Don says:

    You second last paragraph is a real piece of wisdom.

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    1. GS says:

      I struggle with that too, Don. Ask yourself why. Ask yourself why now. Ask yourself what. Ask yourself how. Ask yourself when. It’s hard to do something without a concrete reason why you’re doing it in the first place. Establish a strong reason that you can depend on as you go deeper into the road of detachment. This reason must be enough to make you decide to detach fully, and that reason will help you through every day that you are slowly detaching yourself.

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